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| Introduction | |
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| Beginning at the Beginning | |
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| Six Myths That Limit Us | |
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| MYTH: Grieve Alone: Q&A | |
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| My Husband Never Comes Out of the Bedroom | |
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| I Wonder Why I Have to Be All By Myself | |
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| Her Emotional Plate Is Way Beyond Pull | |
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| It's Not Advisable for Family Members to Do Grief Work Together | |
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| "Let Go" of What? and "Move On" to Where? | |
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| I'm Scared, but Will Do It Anyway | |
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| MYTH: It Just Takes Time: Q&A | |
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| The Pain Often Gets Worse within Time | |
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| Do We Ever Really Recover? | |
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| They Want Us Looking Good and Being Productive 3-5 Days Later! | |
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| Answering Questions Doesn't Resolve Grief | |
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| How Long until I'm Happy Again? | |
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| If You Move On, Are You Letting Go of Them? | |
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| I Have Morphed into Another Person; How Can I Recover? | |
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| When Is It Too Soon to Start Dating? | |
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| When Your Heart Is Broken Your Head Doesn't Work Right | |
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| MYTH: Be Strong for Others: Q&A | |
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| The Real Key Is for You to Go First | |
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| A Tangled Web of Losses! | |
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| It's Amazing How Disconnected We Can Feel | |
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| Saying "I Know How You Feel" Robs Dignity from a Griever | |
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| Grieving People Need to Talk about What Happened | |
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| Intervention Doesn't Work with The Grief Recovery Method� | |
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| I'm Getting Tired of Propping Everyone Else Up | |
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| All Relationships Are Unique | |
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| The Word "Imagine" Creates Safety | |
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| MYTH: Keep Busy and Short-Term Energy-Relieving Behaviors: Q&A | |
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| STERBs-What Are They? | |
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| Grief Is Exhausting! | |
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| How Do I Deal with the Anger I Feel? | |
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| Memorial Jewelry Doesn't Heal Your Heart | |
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| Keeping Busy Just Exhausts Us | |
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| You Can't Bypass Feelings, You Have to Go through Them | |
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| Part II The Ongoing Controversy: The Alleged Stages of Grief vs. Typical, Normal, and Natural Responses to Loss | |
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| Are There Actual Stages of Grief? | |
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| No Stages of Grief: Q&A | |
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| Statement of Death Is NOT Denial | |
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| Adapting to the Painful Reality of Death | |
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| Has the Reality of My Loss Set in Yet? | |
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| Your Broken Heart Talking! | |
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| He Won't See Me Graduate, Get Married, or Have Kids | |
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| I Desperately Need to Know How to Live Again | |
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| On Crying: Q&A | |
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| I Still Cry Daily. Is that Normal? | |
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| Force Myself to Cry to Make People Stop Worrying about Me? | |
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| Death of a Spouse Can Be Like Losing a Piece of Your Body | |
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| Feelings Don't Happen "Just Out of the Blue" | |
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| Very Attached to Their Possessions | |
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| Robbed of Goodbye: Q&A | |
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| Sudden Death Robs Us of a Last Goodbye | |
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| No Longer Together, but Still Heartbroken | |
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| Is There Such a Thing as Complicated Grief? | |
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| When I Need Him One More Time, He's No Longer Here | |
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| Relationships Are Made Up of Time and Intensity! | |
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| Missing the Funeral | |
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| Cremains as a Permanent Relocatable Grief Recovery Monument | |
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| Other Typical, Normal, and Natural Responses to Loss: Q&A | |
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| Quieting the Inner Dialogue That Never Sleeps | |
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| Life Itself Just Seems Very Tasteless-Nothing Seems to Matter | |
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| Inability to Concentrate Is an Almost Universal Reaction | |
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| Still Hurt and Angry | |
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| Will I Ever Feel Normal Again? | |
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| The Victims' Families Often Feel as if They Are on Trial | |
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| The Emotional Pink Elephant in the Living Room | |
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| Massive Reminders of Someone Who Is No Longer Alive | |
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| My Mom's Picture | |
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| Why Do Families Tear Apart? | |
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| PART III A Host of Questions on Unique Situations | |
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| Holidays, Anniversaries, and Reminders: Q&A | |
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| Today Is Way Too Long to Stay Stuck in One Feeling | |
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| Multiple Deaths Make Us Feel Like We're Drowning | |
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| The Holidays-A Perfect Time to Demonstrate the Truth to Your Children | |
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| It Is the Fact That He Died That Is Most Important, Not the Method or the Date | |
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| Resetting the Dysfunctional Default Settings to Create a Fuller Life | |
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| Things That Don't Get to Happen Because They're No Longer Here | |
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| Many Grieving People Struggle with Enjoying Themselves | |
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| Will I Ever Be Able to Stop Being Numb and Let Go? | |
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| Stuck on a Painful Image: Q&A | |
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| Staying Stuck on a Painful Image Keeps Us Stuck in Grief Tragic Deaths Compound Our Pain | |
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| Trying "Not" to Think about It Doesn't Work | |
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| Completion, Not Closure-An Important Distinction | |
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| Grief Is Not PTSD | |
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| We Know What They Would Have Said | |
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| As She Was Dying, My Mother Shut Me Out | |
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| I Know There's Nothing I Could've Done to Stop Him | |
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| Guilt and Blame: Q&A | |
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| The "Story-Line" Sometimes Trumps the "Heart-Line" | |
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| But for One Second Earlier or Later, Our Lives Are Changed Forever | |
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| How Do I Accept the Things I Did? | |
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| The Good, The Bad, and Sometimes, The Ugly | |
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| Sometimes We Have to Break Our Promises | |
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| Walking Through Life Without Your Mate | |
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| Left with Unfinished Emotional Business | |
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| Hamster on a Wheel | |
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| The Nursing Home Facility Mistreated My Mom | |
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| Death, Divorce, and Difficult Relationships: Q&A | |
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| On Being "Ruled from the Grave" | |
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| When the Last Interaction Was Negative | |
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| Confused and Overwhelmed by the Death of a Former Spouse | |
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| Discovery Does Not Equal Recovery | |
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| Families and Legal Mayhem | |
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| The "Warm and Fuzzies" That Never Happened | |
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| The Death of the Person Who Harmed You | |
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| Some Family Members Disassociate Themselves from Others After a Death | |
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| Losses of Safety and Trust-The Painful By-products of Spousal Abuse | |
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| Alcohol Can Leave a Trail of Destruction in Its Wake! | |
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| Rather Than Reconcile, Become as Emotionally Complete as Possible | |
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| Children: Q&A | |
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| Putting Together a Puzzle with Very Few Pieces | |
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| A Recurring Dream … After 58 Years | |
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| Missing People We Never Really Knew | |
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| My Daughter Wants to Take the Plane to Heaven to See Her Grandpa | |
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| "Monkey See, Monkey Do" | |
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| An Eleven-Year-Old's Upset Reactions to Questions about Death | |
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| Helping Children in Foster Care Deal with Multiple Losses | |
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| Explaining Death to Young Children and to a Child with Special Needs | |
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| Whether or Not to Take Children to Funerals or Memorials | |
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| Are Bedwetting and Grief Related? | |
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| Three Little Girls Ask When Daddy Will Be Home | |
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| Helping a Four-Year-Old Know Who His Mother Really Was | |
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| Going to Church Reminds a Twelve-Year-Old of His Dad's Death | |
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| In Closing | |
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| Articles Section | |
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| Time Doesn't Heal-Actions Do | |
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| On Crying-Part One | |
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| On Crying-Part Two | |
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| Normal and Natural Reactions to Death | |
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| Stuck on a Painful Image | |
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| About the Authors | |