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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Introduction | |
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| How This Book Is Different | |
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| Do the Math | |
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| Who This Book Is For | |
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| Your Ex's Play book | |
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| Getting to Know His Playbook | |
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| Memory: Your Go-To Player | |
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| Two Crucial Points | |
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| Your Ex's Defensive Plays | |
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| "We Need to Talk" | |
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| Recommended X-ing Strategies | |
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| "I Can Change" | |
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| "Don't Throw It All Away" | |
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| "I Can't Live Without You" | |
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| "I Can Give You What You Need" | |
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| Your Ex's Offensive Plays | |
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| "This Is Your Fault" | |
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| "It�s Not My Fault? | |
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| "I Know All Your Secrets" | |
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| "I Just Want to Be Friends" | |
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| "What About the Children?" | |
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| "You're Going to Be Sorry" | |
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| Surefire Strategies for X-ing Your Ex | |
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| Standing Behind Your Truth | |
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| Cut Off Communication | |
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| Take Pride in Your Pride | |
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| Test His Words | |
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| Use a Freedom Journal | |
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| Reclaim Your Instincts | |
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| See Him for Who He Really Is | |
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| Don't Use the "Good Man" Excuse | |
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| Setting Yourself Up for Success | |
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| Mum's the Word | |
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| Don't Be There | |
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| Shut Down Friends with Messages | |
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| Forgive Yourself | |
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| Take Your Own Advice | |
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| Mourn the Loss of the Salesman | |
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| Keep Your Eyes on the Prize | |
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| Put Your Happiness First | |
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| Getting Fit for the Road Ahead | |
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| The Top Ten Mistakes | |
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| The One Question That Will Make You Fail | |
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| The Risks of Healing | |
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| Thinking: A Spectator Sport | |
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| Breaking Up Breakup Myths | |
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| No Drinking and Dialing | |
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| The "L" Word: Loneliness | |
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| Conclusion: You're Worth It | |
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| Resources | |
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| Appendix: For Friends and Family Members Who Want to Help | |
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| Index | |
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| For more information about the book and its author, to sign up for support and information by e-mail, and for notification of the author's seminars and lectures, visit XThatEx.com. | |
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| Important Note | |
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| The material in this book is intended to help women end destructive or dangerous relationships. Every effort has been made to provide accurate and dependable information. The contents of this book have been compiled through professional research and in consultation with other mental-health specialists. However, the reader should be aware that professionals in the field have differing opinions. | |
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| Therefore, the publisher, author, and editors, as well as the professionals quoted in the book, cannot be held responsible for any error, omission, or dated material. The author and publisher assume no responsibility for any outcome of applying the information in this book in a program of self-care or under the care of a licensed practitioner. If you have questions concerning your relationships, or about the application of the information described in this book, consult a qualified mental-health professional. If you are in a violent or potentially violent relationship or have any questions about abuse of any kind, please call a domestic-abuse hotline. | |