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| Author's Note | |
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| Introduction | |
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| Live Together? "Unthinkable!" | |
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| "Boomerang" Gets a New Definition | |
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| Multigenerational Families Make a Comeback | |
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| Mutual Admiration Society | |
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| All Together Now | |
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| The Art of Living Together | |
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| Moving In or Just Visiting? | |
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| Reluctant Residents | |
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| The Family System | |
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| Siblings With and Without Attitude | |
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| Together Again-The Challenge | |
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| Establishing Boundaries | |
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| Whole Lot of Changing Going On | |
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| Putting Ground Rules in Place | |
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| Ground Rule #1: Being Considerate | |
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| Ground Rule #2: Protecting Your Privacy | |
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| Ground Rule #3: Sticking to Food Preferences | |
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| Ground Rule #4: Respecting Others' Time | |
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| Ground Rule #5: Protecting Your Time | |
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| Solving Time-Eating Dilemmas | |
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| Great (and Not so Great) Expectations | |
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| Remembrance of Things Past | |
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| Knowing the Players | |
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| Great Expectations | |
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| No One Is a Mind Reader | |
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| Family Meetings Resolve Issues Quickly | |
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| Lowering Expectations | |
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| Money Matters | |
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| In These Changing Times | |
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| The Generational Divide | |
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| Your Fair Share | |
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| Pooling Resources | |
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| Stuck on the Giving or Receiving End | |
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| It's Not Always about Money | |
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| Pushing Your Buttons | |
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| The Parent-Child Trap | |
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| Coping with Control and Manipulation | |
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| Short-Circuiting Criticism | |
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| Moving Beyond Hot-Button Issues | |
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| From Bedroom to Den and Back Again | |
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| Finding Space | |
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| Welcome Home | |
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| Combining Two Households | |
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| Sharing Space | |
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| What's Mine Is Mine...and Yours | |
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| Some Privacy, Please | |
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| There's No Place Like Home | |
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| Together and Apart | |
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| Separate Lives | |
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| Carving Out Time | |
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| Give Yourself a Break | |
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| Building Social Networks | |
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| The Dating Life | |
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| Friends and Lovers | |
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| Adult Children, Single and Dating | |
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| Sleepovers-Possible or Not? | |
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| Parents Dating | |
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| Answering to Your Adult Child | |
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| Emotions Run Deep on Both Sides | |
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| The New Dynamics | |
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| Homeward Bound at Twenty-Something | |
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| Twenty-Somethings Return to the Nest | |
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| You Were Commander in Chief | |
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| Older, But Not Totally Wise | |
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| The Job Hunt | |
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| The Care and Feeding of Parents | |
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| The Ultimate Plus for Everyone | |
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| Older and Headed Home | |
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| Ready or Not, Here I Come | |
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| Beyond the Blame Game | |
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| When Parents Disagree | |
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| Choosing to Live with Parents | |
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| My Parent/My Friend | |
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| Parents and In-Laws Moving In | |
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| We All Agree | |
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| Understanding Parents and In-Laws | |
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| Don't Underestimate What a Parent Can Do | |
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| Dealing with Quirks and Difficulties | |
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| Smart Decisions for the Entire Family | |
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| Modeling for the Next Generation | |
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| "Grandma Said I Could" | |
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| The "First Grandma" Sets the Stage | |
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| Generating Trust | |
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| Grandparent Trap #1: Safety Concerns | |
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| Grandparent Trap #2: Too Much Interference | |
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| Grandparent Trap #3: Overindulging Grandchildren | |
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| Grandparent Trap #4: At Your Beck and Call | |
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| Grandparents Fill Essential Developmental Roles | |
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| Working Together | |
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| Building Bonds | |
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| Pure Love | |
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| You Can Go Home Again | |
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| The New Normal | |
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| All Grown Up and a Place to Go | |
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| Expect Less, Get More | |
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| For the Long or Short Haul | |
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| Surprising Outcomes: I'm Still Here | |
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| Resources and Related Reading | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Index | |
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| About the Author | |