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| Activity Mania | |
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| The Big Picture | |
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| The Demographics Say It All Fear Underlying the Frenzy | |
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| Hard to Step Out of the Craze Trickle-Down Theory | |
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| Children''s Hectic Lives Reflect Our Own | |
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| What a Contrast to Our Childhood | |
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| Why the Activity Mania | |
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| Impact of the Evolving Workforce and Working Moms | |
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| No One Home to Play With | |
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| It''s Not Safe Out There | |
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| Cutbacks in Programs at Public Schools | |
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| Thinking Ahead to the Teenage Years | |
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| In a Culture of Overachievement, It''s Hard to Keep Up with the Joneses | |
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| Parental Peer Pressure | |
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| Fear of Being an Inadequate Parent | |
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| The Push to Excel Starting in the Womb | |
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| Holding Your Child Back from Kindergarten | |
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| Looking Ahead: Thinking About College Youth Sports and Activities Have Become Big Business | |
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| How This Book Can Help You Handle Activity Mania | |
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| How to Choose Clarify What You Bring to the Table | |
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| Trying to Divine Your Child''s Unique Potential | |
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| Wanting the Best for Your Child | |
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| Don''t Relive Your Own Childhood | |
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| Your Child''s Success as Reflected Glory on You | |
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| Valuing Your Child as a Human Being vs. a Human Doing | |
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| Back to the Basics: All About Having Fun | |
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| Deciding Among All the Tantalizing Possibilities Think of Ages 4-10 as the Trial Years | |
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| Helping Your Child Find the Right Fit | |
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| Matching Activities to Your Child''s Physique | |
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| The Role and Influence of Your Child''s Friends | |
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| Pressure to Follow the "In-Crowd" | |
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| Fear Your Child Will Be Left Behind by Her Peers | |
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| How Young Is Too Young? | |
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| Who Does the Choosing? | |
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| Following Your Child''s Lead | |
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| Prioritizing and Goal-Setting with Your Child | |
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| Insisting on Certain Non-Negotiable Activities | |
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| Limiting the Number of Simultaneous Activities Your Child''s Temperament and Energy Level | |
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| How Much Is Too Much? | |
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| Your Active Child Wants Even More Activities | |
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| Getting Your Resistant Child to Try Something New | |
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| Consider the Logistics | |
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| Using Your Family Calendar Strategically | |
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| Scheduling Strategies | |
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| Activity Bags and Equipment | |
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| Food, Drinks, and Snacks | |
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| Assessing an After-School Program | |
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| The Need for Downtime | |
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| The Value of Doing Nothing | |
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| Making Time for Unstructured Play | |
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| Dealing with Declarations of Boredom | |
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| How to Approach Downtime During Summer Months | |
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| Not Enough Downtime: Warning Signs of Stress and Burnout | |
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| Limiting TV and Electronics: Passivity Central | |
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| Establishing Family Rules | |
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| Computer and Electronic Games | |
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| Carving Out Time Together as a Family | |
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| The Erosion of the Family Dinner | |
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| Set Aside Family Time | |
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| Take Up Sports and Hobbies as a Family | |
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| Missing Games or Practices for Family Travel or Social Events | |
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| No Time for Religion | |
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| Preventing Family Burnout | |
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| Balancing Activities with Time for Homework | |
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| Ongoing Management | |
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| Sibling Strategies | |
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| Avoiding Comparisons Between Children | |
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| When Your Children Compete Head-to-Head | |
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| Twins or Multiples: Same Team? | |
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| Following in the Footsteps of a Sibling Star | |
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| Larger Families | |
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| Dealing with Your Child''s Coach | |
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| Letting the Coaches Coach | |
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| Dealing with a Problematic Situation | |
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| Improving Your Skills as Spectator | |
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| Sideline Dos and Don''ts | |
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| Dealing with Difficult Issues | |
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| Supporting Your Child After a Game or Performance | |
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| What to Say After a Tough Loss | |
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| Keeping Winning in Perspective | |
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| Stress Effort, Not Performance | |
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| Don''t Push Too Hard | |
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| Avoid Comparing Your Child to Her Peers | |
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| Dealing with a Bad Sport | |
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| When Your Child Wants to Quit | |
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| Uncover the Heart of the Matter | |
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| When Your Talented Child Wants to Quit | |
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| Dealing with Your Own Frustration | |
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| Addressing Reasons Your Child May Give for Quitting | |
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| Just Not having Fun | |
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| Feels Incompetent or Untalented | |
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| Feels Underchallenged or Bored | |
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| Struggling in the Opening Forays | |
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| Bad Fit with the Coach, Teacher, or Other Kids | |
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| Encouraging Your Child to Stick with It a While Longer | |
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| Making It a Family Policy Not to Quit | |
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| Times When Calling It Quits Makes Sense | |
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| The Process of Quitting Itself | |
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| Sports | |
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| General Sports Considerations | |
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| Ready for Organized Sports? | |
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| Specializing Early | |
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| Aiming for a College Scholarship to Defray Tuition | |
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| The Possibility of a Professional Sports Career | |
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| Starting Early Often Means Burning Out Early Choosing Subjectively vs. Objectively Judged Sports | |
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| Team vs. Individual Sports | |
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| Recreational vs. Elite Teams | |
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| Recreational Teams | |
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| Playing Up with an Older Age Group | |
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| Travel, Select, or Elite Competitive Teams | |
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| Elite Team Tryouts | |
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| Bench Warming | |
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| What to Do When Your Child Hates Sports | |
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| Need for Physical Exercise: The Culture of Obesity | |
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| Obesity in Children: Why You Should Be Concerned | |
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| What''s Causing the Increased Obesity? | |
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| Ways to Curtail Obesity in Your Child | |
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| Role Modeling: Be Physically Active Yourself | |
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| Considerations for Your Athletic Daughter | |
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| Title IX and Girls in Sports Today | |
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| Tips to Avoid Gender Stereotyping | |
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| Same-Sex vs. Coed Sports Teams | |
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| When Your Daughter Wants to Play on the Boys'' Team | |
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| Girls Dropping Out of Sports Entirely Around Puberty Sports for Your Special Needs Child | |
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| Choosing the Right Sport for Your Child | |
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| Kids Who Excel | |
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| General Sports Benefits | |
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| Physical Benefits of Exercise | |
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| Psychological and Emotional Benefits 3149; Social Benefits | |
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| Mental Benefits and Educational Success | |
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| Finding the Right Coach for Your Child | |
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| Volunteer Coaches | |
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| When You Have the Ability to Pick | |
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| Signs of Great Coaching | |
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| Telltale Signs of Poor Coaching | |
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| Evaluating a Teacher | |
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| Coaching Your Own Child | |
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| Making the Decision | |
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| Dealing with Other Parents | |
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| What to Look For in a Sports Program | |
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| Overall Safety and Injury Considerations | |
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| Proper Equipment | |
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| Preventing Heatstroke, Dehydration, and Frostbite | |
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| Overuse Injuries | |
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| Getting Ready for the Start of a New Season | |
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| Eating Disorders | |
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| Effects of Eating Disorders | |
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| What to Watch Out For | |
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| What to DoOverall Cost Considerations | |
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| Budgeting Know-How | |
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| Buying Equipment | |
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| Ways to Save Money on Your Child''s Sports Expenses | |
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| Guide to Specific Sports | |
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| Other Physical Activities | |
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| Strength Training | |
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| Yoga | |
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| Sports Resources | |
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| Art and Performing Arts | |
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| General Music Considerations | |
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| General Benefits | |
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| Encouraging Musical Interest in Your Child | |
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| Choosing a Musical Instrument | |
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| How to Choose | |
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| Physical Suitability | |
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| Your Child''s Preferences | |
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| It''s Okay to SwitchGroup Play in Orchestras and Bands | |
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| Renting vs. Buying an Instrument | |
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| General Cost Considerations | |
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| Types of Rental Plans | |
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| Insurance | |
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| Rental vs. Purchase Cost How to Choose a Music Teacher | |
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| Where Do I Begin the Search for a Teacher? | |
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| Interviewing a Prospective Teacher | |
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| Education and Involvement | |
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| Communicating with Your Child''s Teacher | |
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| Getting Your Child to Practice | |
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| Creating the Ideal Practice Environment | |
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| Scheduling the Time | |
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| Making Practice Fun | |
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| Impr | |