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A Few Words of Thanks | |
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Some Introductions | |
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Yes, you Can do this! | |
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Jewish Parenting--Not as Scary as it Sounds | |
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Jewish Parenting Is Just Like Parenting! | |
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Jewish Parenting Is Also About Our Own Journey | |
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The Challenges We'll Face That Our Parents Didn't | |
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We're All in This Together | |
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How to Use this Book | |
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The First Possibility: Read the Whole Book | |
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A Better Idea? Don't Read the Whole Book! | |
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Treat This Book as Yahoo.Com | |
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There's a Mini-Dictionary, Too | |
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No Reader Has to Be an Island | |
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Some Concluding Thoughts | |
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The Big Ideas | |
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"Jewish Parenting 101"--Immersion, Memories, and Identity | |
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Judaism at the Core | |
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The Challenge of Contemporary America | |
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Forging Identity--The Role of Immersion | |
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Jewish Parents as Creators of Memories | |
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The Memories We Can't Plan | |
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And Finally, Identity | |
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Using Jewish Life and Holidays to Create a Rhythm for Time | |
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Jewish Life as Marking Time | |
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The Cycles of Jewish Life | |
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How to Put a Jewish Kid to Bed | |
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New Traditions? | |
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Moving Beyond the "Day" | |
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The Space we Make for Feelings--Why Ritual Really Matters | |
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The Spiritual Emptiness Jews Too Often Feel | |
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Ritual as the Key to Judaism's Spirituality | |
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Ritual as a Way of Elevating the Mundane | |
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Other Jewish Rituals and Expressions of Closeness | |
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Ritual Is Not Only About People ... | |
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Making Space for God, or How we Steal Wonder from our Kids | |
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The Importance of "God-Talk" | |
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What Are Kids Asking When They Ask About God? | |
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What Is "Honest" Parenting? | |
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Now for God--How "Honest" Should We Be? | |
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Bringing God into Our Homes | |
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But Is God Really That Important? | |
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A Godless Judaism Makes the Tradition a Stranger | |
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But What If We're Sure We Don't Believe? | |
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The Wonder of Shabbat | |
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Shabbat--A Palace in Time | |
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Ritual and the Magic of Shabbat | |
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Shabbat as a Cosmic Wedding | |
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Shabbat as a Glimpse of a Perfected World | |
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Shabbat's Ritual as a "Subversive" Social Critique | |
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But Does Shabbat "Work"? | |
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Shabbat as the Anchor of the Jewish Week | |
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How Much of This to Do? | |
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The Most Important Thing Is to Begin | |
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"Why do we have to?"--Getting over our Fear of Rules | |
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They're Not the Ten Suggestions | |
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Rules Show We're Serious | |
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From Non-Negotiability to Constancy | |
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Constancy Leads to Intensity | |
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From Rules to Intermarriage | |
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Rosh Chodesh and the "Jewish Moon"--the Challenge of Girls in a Male Tradition | |
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Is God a Girl? | |
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Can a Woman Be a Jew? | |
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Where Do We Go from Here? | |
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The Importance of Role Models, Again | |
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The Importance of Ritual, Again | |
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Danger Zone--Beware of Mixed Messages | |
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Concluding Thoughts | |
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"Don't Try this Alone"--it (Usually) Takes a Village | |
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Communities in Jewish Life | |
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Jews in Community--A Tradition That Goes Way Back | |
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Your Synagogue--What Is It? | |
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The Chavurah--Surrogate Family and Much More | |
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Neighborhoods and Cities | |
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Day School or Hebrew School? | |
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Summer Camps | |
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Youth Groups | |
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Smaller Jewish Communities, Virtual Jewish Communities | |
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Israel--Where Our Kids Learn What "Home" Really Is | |
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The Worldwide Jewish Community | |
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Grandparents: You Matter--A Lot! | |
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"Don't Know Much About History" -- Why Our Story Should Matter to Our Kids | |
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Beyond Memory--Learning to "Relive" the Past | |
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Why History? Another Jewish Path Toward Identity | |
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Do unto Others Before They Do unto You? | |
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Israel--Where History Comes Alive | |
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Back to Parenting | |
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A Jewish Parent's Reference Guide | |
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How to Use the "Reference Guide" Section | |
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The Jewish Holiday Cycle -- A Parent's Perspective | |
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The Jewish Calendar and Its Peculiarities | |
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Rosh Ha-Shannah | |
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The Fast of Gedaliah | |
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Yom Kippur | |
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Sukkot--The Feast of Tabernacles | |
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Shemini Atzeret and Simchat Torah | |
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Halloween: Is It a Jewish Issue? | |
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Hanukkah | |
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The December Dilemma | |
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Tu Bi-Shevat | |
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Purim | |
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Passover | |
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Counting the Omer | |
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Lag Ba-Omer | |
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Shavu'ot | |
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The "Three Weeks" and the Minor Fasts | |
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Tisha B'Av | |
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From Destruction to Renewal | |
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Modern Israeli Holidays | |
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And the Seasons, They Go Round and Round | |
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The Jewish Life Cycle, and Things to Think About at Each Stage | |
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Celebration of Pregnancy | |
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Miscarriage | |
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The Moment of Birth | |
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Birth Rituals for Boys | |
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Birth Rituals for Girls | |
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Starting School | |
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They Call It Hebrew School | |
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Bar/Bat Mitzvah | |
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Does Bar Mitzvah Mean Graduation? | |
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Puberty and Adolescence | |
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Dating | |
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Picking a College | |
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Going to College | |
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That First Apartment | |
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Marriage and Weddings | |
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Divorce | |
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Death, Burial, and Mourning | |
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A Final Thought | |
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Conclusion | |
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Of Models, Mermaids, and Music | |
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Does Your Mailbox Know You're Jewish? | |
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Judaism Can't Be Just for Kids | |
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The Commitment Not to Undermine Each Other | |
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Too Jewish--Overcoming That Nagging Fear | |
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A Quick Bird's-Eye View of Jewish History | |
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Glossary of Terms and Names | |
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Suggestions for Further Exploration | |
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Index | |