| |
| |
| Acknowledgments | |
| |
| |
| Introduction | |
| |
| |
| How to Use This Book if You Have Not Yet Delivered Your Baby | |
| |
| |
| How to Use This Book if You Have Already Delivered Your Baby | |
| |
| |
| What Is "Fussing"? | |
| |
| |
| My First Experience with Extreme Fussiness | |
| |
| |
| |
| Common Fussiness and Crying | |
| |
| |
| What Does Crying Mean? | |
| |
| |
| What Should Parents Do about Crying? | |
| |
| |
| You Cannot Spoil Your Newborn | |
| |
| |
| Frequent and Infrequent Criers | |
| |
| |
| Similarities between Common Fussiness/Crying and Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| |
| All Babies Cry Some of the Time | |
| |
| |
| |
| Some Crying Cannot be Attributed to an Obvious Cause | |
| |
| |
| |
| Two to Three Hours of Crying Per Day Is Average | |
| |
| |
| |
| Many Babies Have Evening Crying Spells | |
| |
| |
| |
| Crying Decreases at About Three Months | |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness/Colic May Just be a Lot of Common Fussiness | |
| |
| |
| Which Babies Cry More? | |
| |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| Clinical Definitions of Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| Is Extreme Fussiness/Colic a Disease? | |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness Is Very Common | |
| |
| |
| The Curious History of Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness/Colic Is Not the Sort of Problem Doctors Like | |
| |
| |
| The Nature of Extreme Fussiness/Colic in Behavioral Research | |
| |
| |
| A Bias Against Moms? | |
| |
| |
| What Can a Doctor Do About Extreme Fussiness/Colic? | |
| |
| |
| You and Your Pediatrician | |
| |
| |
| Eleven Myths about Extreme Fussiness/Colic (and Why You Shouldn't Believe Them) | |
| |
| |
| |
| There Is No Such Thing as Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| |
| Maternal Anxiety Causes Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness/Colic Is a Gastrointestinal Problem | |
| |
| |
| |
| Something the Baby Has Eaten Disagrees with Her | |
| |
| |
| |
| The Nursing Mother's Diet | |
| |
| |
| |
| Breast-fed Babies Have Less Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| |
| Firstborn Children Have Extreme Fussiness/Colic More Often | |
| |
| |
| |
| Fresh Air Causes Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| |
| Boys Get It More than Girls | |
| |
| |
| |
| Better-Educated Mothers Have More Extremely Fussy/Colicky Babies | |
| |
| |
| |
| Extremely Fussy/Colicky Babies Are More Intelligent | |
| |
| |
| Why So Many Myths? | |
| |
| |
| What We Actually Know about Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| What Kind of Research? | |
| |
| |
| Dr. Illingworth: It's Not Allergy, Gas, or Spoiling | |
| |
| |
| Dr. Wessel: It's Not Allergy and It's Not the Family | |
| |
| |
| Dr. Paradise: It's Not the Mother's Personality | |
| |
| |
| Dr. Stewart: It's Tension | |
| |
| |
| Dr. Schnall and Dr. Shaver: It Is Not Maternal Anxiety | |
| |
| |
| Urinary Tract Infection? | |
| |
| |
| Drugs During Labor? | |
| |
| |
| Gastroesophageal Reflux | |
| |
| |
| Naturally Occurring Substances May Cause Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| Exterogestation | |
| |
| |
| Severe Physiological Disturbances | |
| |
| |
| The State of the Art of Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| |
| Birth to Four Months of Age: How to Soothe and Help Your Baby to Sleep | |
| |
| |
| Introduction and Advice | |
| |
| |
| Your Relationship with Your Extremely Fussy/Colicky Baby | |
| |
| |
| Take Care of Yourself | |
| |
| |
| Creative Parenting | |
| |
| |
| Hospitalization | |
| |
| |
| Caring for a Family with an Extremely Fussy/Colicky Newborn | |
| |
| |
| Father Care: Our Secret Weapon for Soothing | |
| |
| |
| Sucking Is Soothing | |
| |
| |
| Rhythmic Rocking Motions | |
| |
| |
| Swaddling | |
| |
| |
| Music | |
| |
| |
| Voices | |
| |
| |
| Sound Machines | |
| |
| |
| Lullabies | |
| |
| |
| Massage | |
| |
| |
| Sleep Associations | |
| |
| |
| Respect Your Baby's Need to Sleep: The One- to Two-Hour Window of Wakefulness | |
| |
| |
| Drowsy Cues | |
| |
| |
| Other Soothing Methods | |
| |
| |
| Everything Works ... for a While | |
| |
| |
| Night-lights | |
| |
| |
| What is Best for You and Your Family? | |
| |
| |
| Breast-feeding Versus Formula Feeding | |
| |
| |
| Family Bed Versus Crib | |
| |
| |
| Back Sleeping Versus Side Sleeping | |
| |
| |
| New Mothers Versus Experienced Mothers | |
| |
| |
| Older Mothers Versus Younger Mothers | |
| |
| |
| Singletons Versus Multiples | |
| |
| |
| Return to Work | |
| |
| |
| "No Cry" Versus "Let Cry" | |
| |
| |
| Sleep Training Does Not Mean "Let Cry" | |
| |
| |
| Sleep Training: My Idea | |
| |
| |
| Newborns | |
| |
| |
| Babies a Few Weeks Old | |
| |
| |
| Six-Week-Old and Older Babies | |
| |
| |
| Problems in Older Babies | |
| |
| |
| Mistaken Ideas About Sleep Training | |
| |
| |
| Different Decisions for Different Babies | |
| |
| |
| Introduction | |
| |
| |
| Common Fussiness | |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| Breast-feeding the Fussy Baby (Nancy Nelson, R.N., IBCLC) | |
| |
| |
| |
| Temperament at Four Months of Age | |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness and Temperament | |
| |
| |
| A Standardized Temperament Rating | |
| |
| |
| Infant Temperament Characteristics | |
| |
| |
| Activity (General Motion, Energy) | |
| |
| |
| Rhythmicity (Regularity of Bodily Functions) | |
| |
| |
| Approach/Withdrawal (First Reaction) | |
| |
| |
| Adaptability (Flexibility) | |
| |
| |
| Intensity | |
| |
| |
| Mood | |
| |
| |
| Persistence | |
| |
| |
| Distractibility | |
| |
| |
| Threshold (Sensitivity) | |
| |
| |
| Difficult Temperament | |
| |
| |
| Limitations of Temperament Measures | |
| |
| |
| Difficult Temperament and Extreme Fussiness/Colic | |
| |
| |
| |
| After Four Months of Age: How to Prevent Sleep Problems | |
| |
| |
| Introduction: Sleep Before and After Four Months | |
| |
| |
| Is Extreme Fussiness/Colic a Sleep Disorder? | |
| |
| |
| Newborn Sleep Patterns | |
| |
| |
| Sleeping Positions | |
| |
| |
| Understanding Sleep: Sleep States | |
| |
| |
| Newborns Have a Unique Sleep Pattern for Three to Four Months | |
| |
| |
| Day Sleep Versus Night Sleep | |
| |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness/Colic is Connected with Disorganized Sleep | |
| |
| |
| Sleep and Breathing Rhythms | |
| |
| |
| Sleep, Temperature, and Endocrine Rhythms | |
| |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness/Colic Is an "Acted-Out" REM Period | |
| |
| |
| The Crying-Temperament-Sleep Connection | |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness/Colic May Be Part of a Larger Problem | |
| |
| |
| As Extreme Fussiness Ends | |
| |
| |
| Time for a Change | |
| |
| |
| Mothers' Descriptions of Their Babies at Age Four Months | |
| |
| |
| What Mothers Say About First Babies After Extreme Fussiness/Colic Ends | |
| |
| |
| Second-Born Infants are Like First-Borns After Extreme Fussiness/Colic Ends | |
| |
| |
| Experienced Mothers and Extremely Fussy/Colicky Babies | |
| |
| |
| Sleep After Extreme Fussiness/Colic Ends | |
| |
| |
| What Is a Good Night's Sleep? | |
| |
| |
| Does Your Baby Have a Sleep Problem? | |
| |
| |
| What's Enough Sleep for a Newborn? | |
| |
| |
| Solid Foods | |
| |
| |
| Night Wakings Are Normal | |
| |
| |
| Parental Response | |
| |
| |
| When Older Babies Wake at Night | |
| |
| |
| Why Older Infants Awaken | |
| |
| |
| The Wrong Sleep Schedule | |
| |
| |
| Parental Reinforcement | |
| |
| |
| Your Cranky Baby May Just Be Tired | |
| |
| |
| Breast-Feeding Versus Bottle-Feeding and Family Bed Versus Crib | |
| |
| |
| Introduction | |
| |
| |
| "No Cry" Versus "Let Cry" | |
| |
| |
| Common Fussiness (80 Percent): Low Risk for Sleep Problems After Four Months | |
| |
| |
| "Check and Console" or Graduated Extinction ("Controlled Crying") | |
| |
| |
| Extreme Fussiness/Colic (20 Percent): High Risk for Sleep Problems After Four Months | |
| |
| |
| Gradual Approach | |
| |
| |
| |
| Do Not Pick Him Up | |
| |
| |
| |
| Cut Back on Your Responses | |
| |
| |
| |
| Spend Less Time | |
| |
| |
| |
| Wait a While | |
| |
| |
| Will It Work? | |
| |
| |
| Focus on the Morning Nap | |
| |
| |
| The One- to Two-Hour Window of Wakefulness | |
| |
| |
| "Do I Have to Put My Baby Down While She Is Still Awake?" | |
| |
| |
| Bottle-feeding and Crib | |
| |
| |
| Breast-feeding and Family Bed | |
| |
| |
| The Treatment of Trained Night Crying | |
| |
| |
| Let the Baby Alone | |
| |
| |
| Learn to Be Consistent | |
| |
| |
| Reduce External Stimulation | |
| |
| |
| Begin with Bedtime | |
| |
| |
| Parents: No Excuses! | |
| |
| |
| Make the Decision | |
| |
| |
| And Then Do It | |
| |
| |
| If It Doesn't Work | |
| |
| |
| Improvement | |
| |
| |
| Drugs to Make Your Baby Sleep | |
| |
| |
| Not All Night Waking Is a Problem | |
| |
| |
| Mothers Talk About Their Experiences | |
| |
| |
| What Should I Do? | |
| |
| |
| |
| Love Your Baby | |
| |
| |
| Hugs, Kisses, and Love Help Your Baby Grow | |
| |
| |
| |
| Summary and Action Plans for Exhausted Parents | |
| |
| |
| Sleep Time Routines | |
| |
| |
| Short Intervals of Wakefulness | |
| |
| |
| Watch for Drowsy Signs Sleep Training Summary | |
| |
| |
| Four Months of Age | |
| |
| |
| After Four Months of Age | |
| |
| |
| Index | |