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| The starting point | |
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| Notes for the first few weeks | |
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| Treat yourself as if you were in intensive care | |
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| Someone to take calls | |
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| Seek assistance | |
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| Don't worry about contacting people | |
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| Let your body lead you | |
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| Religious traditions | |
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| Wills and arrangements | |
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| Expect to be distracted | |
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| Have someone near you | |
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| The help of friends | |
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| Handout for those close to you | |
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| Understanding the emotional and physical affects of grief | |
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| Exhaustion | |
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| Days of distraction | |
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| Grief knows no schedule | |
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| Physical symptoms | |
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| Grief and dreams | |
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| If you don't dream | |
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| If you do dream | |
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| Troublesome dreams | |
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| Communication dreams | |
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| Feeling the presence of the deceased | |
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| The world becomes dreamlike | |
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| A time to withdraw | |
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| Impulsive living | |
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| Instant replays and obsessive thoughts | |
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| The "if only" mind game | |
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| Anger | |
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| Fear | |
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| The world is upside down | |
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| Assumptions are shattered | |
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| When faith is shattered | |
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| Loss of purpose | |
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| Redefining ourselves | |
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| What matters? | |
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| Finding a beginning, middle and end | |
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| Why did this happen? | |
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| The stages of grief | |
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| Shock | |
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| Denial | |
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| Depression | |
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| Anger | |
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| Acceptance | |
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| Complicated mourning | |
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| The first year | |
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| The second year | |
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| The third year | |
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| Multiple grief | |
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| Will I ever get over it? | |
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| Warning signs | |
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| Myths and misunderstandings of the grieving process | |
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| Grief blocks | |
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| Relating to others | |
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| Too close to home | |
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| You are a different person | |
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| It's okay to laugh | |
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| The ten-day syndrome | |
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| Repeating the story | |
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| Awkward questions | |
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| Non-traditional relationships | |
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| Going back to work | |
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| Helping children cope with grief | |
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| Babies | |
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| Toddlers | |
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| Young children | |
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| Adolescents | |
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| Teenagers to young adults | |
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| General guidelines | |
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| Special occasions and challenges | |
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| The ambush | |
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| Birthdays | |
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| Anniversaries | |
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| Weddings | |
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| Holidays | |
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| Holiday traditions | |
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| Where does one go during the holidays? | |
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| Happy new year? | |
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| Looking toward next year | |
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| Part Two: Sharing our stories | |
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| The loss of a friend | |
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| Some things you can do | |
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| The loss of a parent | |
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| Some things you can do | |
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| The loss of a child | |
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| Extreme emotions | |
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| Losing and adult child | |
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| Suicide | |
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| Common reactions to suicide | |
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| Questions and suicide | |
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| Religion and suicide | |
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| The stigma of suicide | |
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| Your relationship with your partner | |
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| Grieving styles: the differences between men and women | |
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| Grieving guidelines for men and their partners | |
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| Guidelines for grieving couples | |
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| Single parents | |
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| Some things you can do | |
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| The loss of a partner | |
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| Loss of identity | |
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| Circles of friends | |
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| Lingering memories and images | |
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| Learning to do things alone | |
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| Funeral arrangements | |
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| When one parent is doing the job of two | |
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| For parents who have surviving children | |
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| Will I ever love again? | |
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| Seeking purpose | |
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| Some things you can do | |
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| The loss of a sibling | |
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| Being overlooked in the grieving process | |
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| Double the loss | |
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| Identity through a sibling | |
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| We fought so much | |
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| No one understands | |
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| Some things you can do | |
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| Part Three: Pathways through grief | |
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| Pathways through grief: Questions and answers | |
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| Self-help and therapy | |
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| Self-help books | |
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| FAQ about self help and therapy | |
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| Some therapies that can be useful | |
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| Alternative solutions: herbs, therapies and other techniques | |
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| Sadness | |
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| Feeling depleted | |
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| Depression | |
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| Inability to cry | |
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| Fatigue | |
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| Guilt | |
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| Headaches | |
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| Distraction | |
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| Forgetfulness | |
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| Lack of concentration | |
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| Stomach discomfort | |
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| Anxiety | |
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| Insomnia | |
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| Grief recovery exercises | |
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| Anger exercise | |
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| Thank you exercise | |
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| The search for meaning | |
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| Learning through loss | |
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| What my loved one has left me | |
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| Screaming exercise | |
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| Define your priorities | |
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| Coping with guilt | |
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| Poetry | |
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| The gratitude journal | |
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| Calming | |
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| Visualization | |
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| Rituals | |
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| Memory books | |
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| Resources and support | |
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| Supportive publications | |
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| Support for loss of a partner | |
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| Support for grieving children | |
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| Support for the lost of a child | |
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| General books for adults | |
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| Books about grief recovery | |
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| Books for grieving men | |
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| Books about the loss of a friend | |
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| Books about helping someone who is grieving | |
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| Books about the loss of a child | |
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| General books for professionals | |
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| Books for children, teens and their caregivers | |
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| Books about the death of a mate | |
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| Books about losing a parent | |
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| Books about suicide | |
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| Books for helping professionals | |
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| Where am I now?/Notes from the authors | |
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| Appendix/Worksheets and forms | |
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| The memorial service | |
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| The eulogy | |
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| A checklist of calls to make | |
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| Friends support group invitation | |
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| Bibliography | |
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| Index | |
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| How to contact the authors | |
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| Mailing list | |
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| About the authors | |
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| Other Champion Press, Ltd. Titles | |