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| Introduction | |
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| How This Book Came to Be | |
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| Our Need, Our Fear, Our Risk | |
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| Practice: Exploring Our History of Trust | |
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| What Is Trust? | |
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| Intelligent Distrust | |
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| Our Capacity for Trusting | |
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| Needs and How They Play Out | |
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| Reading Ourselves | |
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| Practice: Following Our Needs | |
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| There Are Healthy Connections | |
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| Bonds of Attaching and Relating | |
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| Practices | |
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| Breathe, Pause, Start Over | |
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| Exploring Our Childlike and Adult Trust | |
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| Our Early Sense of Trust | |
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| Our First Steps | |
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| Gone but Here | |
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| Practices | |
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| Receiving Comfort and Facing Challenge | |
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| Trusting and Loving | |
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| How Trust Happens in Relationships | |
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| Reciprocal Trust | |
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| Surrender in a Committed Relationship | |
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| To Whom Shall We Go? | |
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| Exploring Our Style of Trusting | |
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| When the Five A's Meet the Ego | |
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| Practices for Auditing Our Relationship | |
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| How to Know If Someone Can Be Trusted | |
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| How Communication Becomes Trustworthy | |
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| How We Miss Trust | |
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| Trusting Can Wake Old Ghosts | |
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| Practice: Freeing Ourselves from the Fear of Trusting Our Own Power | |
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| When Our Story Gets in the Way | |
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| Practice: Erasing the Storyboard | |
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| Trust Lost, Trust Regained | |
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| The Silent Treatment | |
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| Lies We Tell, Hear, or Won't Hear | |
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| A Double Life | |
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| Practice: Letting Go of Obsession | |
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| When We Cheat | |
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| When We Are Betrayed | |
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| Why We Put Up with Pain | |
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| Practices for Rebuilding Broken Trust | |
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| Noticing How Our Past Is Present | |
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| The Work of the Partner Who Broke Trust | |
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| The Personal Work of the Partner Who Was Betrayed | |
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| When Both Partners Want to Work on the Relationship | |
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| Trusting Ourselves | |
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| Trusting Our Feelings | |
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| Practice: Working with Our Emotions | |
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| Trusting Our Bodies | |
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| Trusting Our Sexuality | |
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| Can I Trust Myself in a Crisis ? | |
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| Practices | |
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| Befriending the Three Witches | |
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| No Longer Victims | |
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| A Positive Approach to Ourselves | |
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| Our Core Trust in Reality | |
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| The Supreme Attunement | |
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| Practice: Fidelity to Ourselves | |
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| Four Reliable Directions | |
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| Practice: Using Our Compass of Trust | |
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| Trust in Powers beyond Us | |
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| Our Longing for Meaning | |
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| Buddhist Paths to Adult Trust | |
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| Trust in the Higher Self | |
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| Practice: Awakening at Many Levels | |
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| Epilogue: Trust in Grace-full Coincidence | |
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| About the Author | |