Help Me Live, Revised 20 Things People with Cancer Want You to Know

ISBN-10: 158761149X

ISBN-13: 9781587611490

Edition: 2nd 2011 (Revised)

Authors: Lori Hope

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A cancer survivor offers 20 crucial suggestions for the friends, family members, physicians, and caregivers of cancer patients wishing to understand, communicate, and act with greater empathy and sensitivity. Knowing the right things to say and do for someone with cancer can be daunting, and asking the patient for direction may feel inappropriate. Following her own diagnosis and treatment for lung cancer, Lori Hope surveyed hundreds of cancer patients and survivors for the first edition of Help Me Live. In 2010, her new survey received many surprising responses, such as: “Although I need to feel hopeful, telling me to think positively makes me feel worse,” “I need to know you’ll forgive me when I bite your head off,” and “If you really want to help me, be specific about your offer.” Presented with humor, insight, and honesty, the updated edition will help readers communicate more effectively, listen more compassionately, and make a positive difference to those living with cancer.
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Book details

List price: $22.99
Edition: 2nd
Copyright year: 2011
Publisher: Potter/TenSpeed/Harmony
Publication date: 9/13/2011
Binding: Paperback
Pages: 288
Size: 6.00" wide x 8.00" long x 1.00" tall
Weight: 0.638
Language: English

Lori Hope, a cancer survivor herself, has produced more than 20 documentaries, winning dozens of awards including two Emmys. A former editor-in-chief of Bay Area BusinessWoman News, Hope has been published in Newsweek and her essays have been broadcast on radio stations nationwide. She is also a public speaker who has worked with The American Cancer Society, the Jewish Federation, the American Thoracic Society, and many other organizations around the country.

Preface to the Revised Edition
20 Things People with Cancer Want You to Know
"It's okay to say or do the 'wrong' thing."
"I need to know you're here for me, but if you can't be, you can still show you care."
"I like to hear success stories, not horror stories."
"I am terrified and need to know you'll forgive me if 1 snap at you or bite your head off."
"I need you to listen to me and let me cry."
"Asking my permission can spare me pain."
"I need to laugh�or just forget about cancer for a while!"
"I need to feel hope, but telling me to think positively can make me feel worse."
"I want you to respect my judgment and treatment decisions."
"I want you to give me an opening to talk about cancer, and then take my lead."
"I want compassion, not pity."
"Advice may not be what I need, and it can hurt more than help. Try comforting me instead."
"I am still me; treat me kindly, not differently."
"If you really want to help me, be specific about your offer, or just help without asking."
"I love being held in your thoughts or prayers."
"Hearing platitudes or what's good about cancer can minimize my feelings."
"I don't know why I got cancer, and hearing your theory may add grave insult to injury."
"Don't take it personally if I don't return your call or want to see you."
"I need you to offer support to my caregiver, because that helps me, too."
"I don't know if I'm cured, and bringing up my health can bring me down."
And one more thing ...
"I am more grateful than I can say for your care, compassion, and support."
A Quick Guide to Cancerquette
The 2010/2011 Survey
Different Kinds of Cancer
Cancer through the Stages
Cancer in Different Circumstances
Cancer at Different Ages
She Wants/He Wants: Cancer and Gender
Cancer and Cultural Background
Other Situations, Complications, and Conditons
The Lists. Do's, Don�ts, Tools, and Treasures
How to Listen
The Cheat Sheet
For Survivors: Hoping and Coping in a World of Uncertainty
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