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| Preface-How I Came to Write This Book | |
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| The Truth About Stress | |
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| The Myth Exposed | |
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| Where stress comes from. | |
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| The Iron Rule of Stress. | |
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| The Power of Insight | |
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| ActivInsight at Phoenix House. | |
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| A worksheet on "I shouldn't be here". | |
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| The 7 steps. | |
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| The point drop. | |
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| The Birth of Stress | |
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| Factual and counterfactual thinking. | |
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| Stress is not a survival advantage. | |
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| Expansive versus contractive thoughts. | |
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| Using should and shouldn't. | |
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| Insight in Action | |
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| Introduction to part two. | |
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| The Myth of Traffic | |
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| Why stressful-life-events scales are not accurate. | |
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| Measuring stress. | |
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| ActivInsight as an investment. | |
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| "There shouldn't be so much traffic." | |
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| The Myth of Anger | |
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| The ActivInsight SPIRAL. | |
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| "They shouldn't get so angry." | |
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| The Myth of Conflict Resolution | |
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| "They should see it my way." | |
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| Learning to lose. | |
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| The Myth of Weight Loss | |
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| "I should weigh less." | |
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| The stress threshold. | |
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| The paradox of insight. | |
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| The Myth of Success | |
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| "I should be more successful." | |
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| The myth of stress as a motivator. | |
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| The Myth of Financial Happiness | |
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| "I know that I'd be happier if I had more money." | |
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| Negation-checking. | |
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| ActivInsight in Context | |
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| The secret. | |
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| What you think is what you feel. | |
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| Believing is seeing. | |
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| Additive versus subtractive processes. | |
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| The Myth of Uncertainty | |
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| "I need to know what's going to happen to me." | |
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| Want versus need. | |
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| The Myth of a Broken Heart | |
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| "I want him back." | |
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| "He should still want to be with me." | |
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| The Myth of Having Too Much to Do | |
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| "I shouldn't have so much to do." | |
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| A problem versus a situation. | |
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| The Myth of Regret | |
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| "I shouldn't have done that." | |
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| Relative Peak Intelligence. | |
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| The Myth of Discrimination | |
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| "They shouldn't discriminate." | |
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| Psychological shrinkage. | |
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| The Myth of Dying Too Soon | |
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| "They shouldn't have died." | |
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| Seeing life and death as partners, not opponents. | |
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| Epilogue | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Frequently Asked Questions | |
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| The ActivInsight Worksheet | |