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| Foreword | |
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| Introduction | |
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| Get Ready, Get Set | |
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| Talking with Your Parent | |
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| Gathering Essential Documents | |
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| Researching the Options | |
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| Organizing Your Own Life | |
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| When You Can't Be There | |
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| Your Parent and You | |
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| Adapting to New Roles | |
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| Knowing When to Intervene | |
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| Defusing Old Struggles | |
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| Managing Day-to-Day | |
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| The Difficult Parent | |
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| Caring for the Caregiver | |
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| Setting Limits | |
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| The Male Caregiver | |
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| Emotional Minefields: Guilt, Anger, Grief, and Depression | |
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| Support Groups | |
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| When One Parent Is Well | |
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| I2 Steps to a Healthy Mind-Set | |
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| Healthy Aging | |
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| Pumping Iron: Finding the Right Exercise Program | |
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| The ABCs of Diet | |
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| The Liquor Cabinet | |
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| Up in Smoke | |
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| Heart, Mind, and Soul | |
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| Staying Involved | |
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| Family and Friends | |
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| Spirituality | |
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| Creativity | |
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| Volunteering | |
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| Expanding the Mind | |
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| Dating, Sex, and Marriage | |
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| Tips for Daily Living | |
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| Safety First | |
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| Preventing Falls | |
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| Bathing and Dressing | |
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| Eating Right | |
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| The Question of Driving | |
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| Useful Gadgets and Gizmos | |
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| Getting Help | |
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| Assessing the Need | |
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| Help from Family and Friends | |
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| Community Services: What's Available and How to Find It | |
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| Geriatric Care Managers | |
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| More Help, at Home | |
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| Home Health Care | |
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| Nurses, Therapists, and Aides | |
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| The Hiring Process | |
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| Managing the Troops | |
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| Respite Care | |
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| The Inner Circle | |
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| Sharing the Care with Siblings | |
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| A Family Meeting | |
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| Spouses | |
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| The Sandwich Generation: Aging Parents and Young Children | |
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| Balancing Career and Caregiving | |
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| Doctor Do's and Don'ts | |
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| Rx for the Elderly | |
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| A Good Doctor | |
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| A Geriatric Checkup | |
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| Being an Informed Advocate | |
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| Complementary and Alternative Medicine | |
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| The Body Imperfect: Part I | |
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| On the Lookout for Symptoms | |
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| Overseeing Medications | |
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| Vision and Hearing | |
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| Insomnia | |
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| Dehydration | |
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| TLC for Skin, Legs, and Feet | |
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| Dental Care | |
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| The Body Imperfect: Part II | |
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| Osteoporosis and Arthritis | |
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| Incontinence | |
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| Constipation | |
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| Other Digestive Disorders | |
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| Matters of the Mind | |
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| Depression: Diagnosis and Treatments | |
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| Anxiety Disorders | |
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| Delirium | |
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| On the Fifth Floor | |
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| Entering the Hospital | |
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| Tests, Surgery, and Treatments | |
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| Dealing with Staff | |
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| Your Role as Advocate | |
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| Comfort on the Fifth Floor | |
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| When You Are Far Away | |
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| Preparing for Discharge | |
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| Bills | |
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| Paying the Way | |
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| Talking about Money | |
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| Financial Planning and Budgets | |
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| Benefits and Discounts | |
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| Homes as Collateral | |
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| Tax Tips | |
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| Using Your Own Funds | |
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| Financial and Legal Counsel | |
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| Frauds and Scams | |
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| Paying for Health Care | |
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| What Medicare Really Covers | |
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| Prescription Drugs | |
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| Medigap Plans | |
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| Medicaid | |
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| Long-Term Care Insurance | |
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| Legal Issues | |
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| Wills | |
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| Power of Attorney | |
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| Advance Directives | |
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| Trusts | |
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| Reducing Estate Taxes | |
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| Probate | |
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| Guardianship | |
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| Legal Help | |
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| Home Away from Home | |
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| Is It Time to Move? | |
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| Sharing Your Home with Your Parent | |
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| Senior Apartments | |
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| Group Homes | |
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| Assisted Living | |
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| Continuing Care Retirement Communities | |
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| A Good Nursing Home | |
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| Making the Decision | |
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| Who Pays? | |
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| The Search | |
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| What to Look for in a Nursing Home | |
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| Getting In | |
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| Making the Move Work | |
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| Moving Day | |
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| A Plan of Care | |
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| Your Role as Visitor and Advocate | |
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| Long-Distance Caregiving | |
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| When Trouble Brews | |
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| Getting Adjusted | |
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| The Aging Brain | |
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| What Is Normal? | |
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| Dementia | |
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| Getting Tested | |
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| Alzheimer's Disease | |
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| Dealing with the Diagnosis | |
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| Treating Dementia | |
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| Living with Dementia | |
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| Helping Yourself: A Clear Perspective and a Little Humor | |
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| Helping Your Parent: Simplicity, Routines, and Diversions | |
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| Managing Day to Day | |
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| Bathing, Dressing, Eating, and Communicating | |
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| Behavior Problems | |
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| Coping with Special Issues | |
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| The Last Good-Bye | |
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| Talking about Death | |
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| Caring for Your Parent Now | |
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| Choosing Hospice Care | |
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| Treatment Decisions | |
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| The Face of Death | |
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| The Aftermath | |
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| Finding a Funeral Director | |
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| The Obituary | |
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| Services | |
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| Cemeteries | |
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| Dividing the Estate | |
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| Good Grief | |
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| Stages of Grief | |
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| Growing from Grief | |
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| Reviewing You Relationship with Your Parent | |
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| The Surviving Parent | |
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| Children and Grief | |
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| You're Next | |
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| Can You Afford to Grow Old? | |
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| Taking Care of Your Body | |
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| Keeping Your Mind Sharp | |
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| Living Fully | |
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| The Yellow Pages of Help | |
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| Useful Organizations | |
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| State Units on Aging and Long-Term Care Ombudsmen | |
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| State Health Insurance Counseling and Assistance Programs (SHIPs) | |
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| State Medicaid Offices | |
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| A Hospital Patient's Bill of Rights | |
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| Touring a Residence for the Elderly | |
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| A Nursing-Home Resident's Bill of Rights | |
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| State Citizen Advocacy Groups for Nursing-Home Reform | |
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| Dietary Details for the Elderly | |
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| Funeral Choices and Costs | |
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| Index | |