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Preface | |
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Principles, Evaluation, and Planning | |
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The Couple as a Unique System | |
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Couples Counseling Poses Unique Challenges for the Counselor | |
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Stressors and the Couple | |
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Vertical Stressors | |
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Horizontal Stressors | |
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Systems-Level Stressors | |
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Couples, Marriage, and Unmarriage in the New Millennium | |
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The Unmarried and the Cohabiting | |
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Same-Sex Marriage | |
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The Marriage Movement | |
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Dynamics of the Couple System | |
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Boundaries and Boundary Violations | |
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Couple Needs Versus Individual Needs | |
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Families of Origin Shape Expectations and Influence the Couple System | |
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Dealing with Conflicting Roles: Husband/Father and Wife/Mother | |
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Couples Need Intimacy | |
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Couples Must Deal with Power | |
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What a Couple Goes Through: Psychological Tasks | |
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Characteristics of Healthy Couples | |
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Conclusion | |
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Theories of Couples Therapy: Part One | |
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Behavior Therapy Applied to Couples | |
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What Is Behavior Therapy? | |
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Definitions of Key Terms | |
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Some Premises of Behavior Theory | |
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Problems That Couples Experience | |
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Therapy Methods and Techniques | |
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Multigenerational Approaches to Couples Therapy: Object Relations and the Bowen Theory | |
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Object-Relations Theory | |
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The Bowen Theory | |
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Conclusion | |
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Theories of Couples Therapy: Part Two | |
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Structural Therapy and Strategic Therapy Applied to Couples | |
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Definitions of Key Terms | |
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Some Premises of the Theories | |
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Problems That Couples Face | |
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Therapy Methods and Techniques | |
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Solution-Focused Therapy | |
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Constructivism | |
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Overview | |
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Definitions of Key Terms | |
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Some Premises of Solution-Focused Theory | |
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Problems That Couples Face | |
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Therapy Methods and Techniques | |
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Narrative Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy | |
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Narrative Therapy | |
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Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy | |
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Conclusion | |
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An Integrative Model for Couples Therapy | |
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Common Threads of the Theories | |
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A Circular Model of Causation | |
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Blame Is Not a Useful Concept | |
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Assessment Is a Crucial First Activity | |
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The Couple Must Form a Team | |
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Feelings, Behaviors, and Cognitions Must Change | |
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Couples Must Learn Maintenance Tasks | |
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Couples Must Develop Joint Solvable Problems | |
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Therapists Must Foster Hope | |
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An Integrative Model for Couples Therapy | |
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Assessment and Identifying a Shared Definition: "We Have a Problem" | |
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Goal Setting: "We Have a Common Goal" | |
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Interventions: "We Have a Solvable Problem" | |
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Maintenance: "We Have a Solution" | |
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Validation: "There Is No Problem" | |
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Our Experiences in Working With the Integrative Model | |
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Conclusion | |
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The Assessment of Couples and Their Problems | |
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Assessment Is an Ongoing Process | |
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Are Assessment and Treatment Really Separate? | |
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Biases and Assumptions in Assessment | |
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Self-Assessment of Assumptions About Couples | |
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Assessment Using the Integrative Model | |
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The Funnel of Assessment | |
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Direction for Couples Assessment: Individuals, Problems in the Relationship, or Quality of the Relationship? | |
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Assessing Individuals | |
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Assessing Relationship Problems | |
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Assessing the Quality of the Relationship | |
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Assessment During a Crisis | |
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Using Tests and Informal Tools to Assess Couples | |
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Testing Couples | |
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Sharing Assessment Data With Clients | |
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Other Considerations | |
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The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator | |
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Informal Assessment Tools for Couples | |
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Other Tools | |
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Conclusion | |
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Diagnosis, Goal Setting, and Treatment Planning With Couples | |
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Forms of Diagnosis | |
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The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Training Revision (DSM-IV-TR) | |
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Conditions, or V Codes, in DSM-IV-TR | |
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DSM-IV-TR Adjustment Disorder Diagnoses | |
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Family Therapy Diagnoses | |
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Assessment and Diagnosis: A Precursor to Treatment Planning in the Integrative Model | |
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Formulating an Interactive Definition in Goal Setting | |
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Deciding Which Problems Should Be Addressed First | |
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Helping Couples Decenter | |
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Collaboration on the Interactive Definition of the Problem | |
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Refining the Problem | |
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Setting Goals | |
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Transforming a Problem Into a Goal | |
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Choosing the Kinds of Goals | |
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Conclusion | |
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Common Issues in the Life of the Couple | |
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Treatment Strategies | |
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The Need for Creative Treatment Strategies | |
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Reframing | |
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Metaphor and Imagery | |
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Role Reversal | |
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Role Rehearsal | |
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Rituals | |
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Contracting | |
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Creating Intensity | |
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De-escalating Conflict | |
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Using Storytelling and Narrative Techniques | |
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Dance/Movement Therapy | |
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Psychodrama Techniques | |
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Art Therapy Techniques | |
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Music Therapy | |
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Exploring Exceptions | |
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Therapeutic Compliments | |
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Instilling Hope | |
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Play and Humor | |
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Conclusion | |
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Communication and Relationship Education | |
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"I Miss You Most When We Are Together" | |
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Communication as Skills | |
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A Short History of Communication in Couples Therapy | |
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Communication Fundamentals | |
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Nonverbal Communication | |
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Gender Differences in Communication | |
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Self-Disclosure and Male-Female Relationships | |
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The Linear Model | |
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Feedback: The Way Out | |
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Games, Smokescreens, Dreams, and Manipulations | |
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Indirectness and Culture | |
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Assessment of Communication Problems and Strengths | |
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Videotaped Assessment | |
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Who Should Receive Communication Training? | |
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Communication Problems in Couples | |
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Common Problems | |
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Other Maladaptive Problems | |
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Positive Communication Skills | |
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Communication-Training and Relationship Education Programs | |
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Sound Marital House | |
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PREPARE/ENRICH | |
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Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program | |
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Relationship Enhancement | |
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Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills | |
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Marriage Encounter and Marriage Enrichment | |
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Conclusion | |
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Intimacy and Sexuality | |
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Intimacy | |
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Gender Issues | |
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Sternberg's Triangular Model of Love | |
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Case Example: Amy and Greg | |
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Application of the Integrative Model: A Problem of Intimacy | |
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Considerations for Working with Intimacy Problems | |
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Sexual Aspects of Relationships | |
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Sexuality and the Couple | |
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Social Issues and Sexuality | |
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Communication and Sexuality | |
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The Development of Sexual Problems | |
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Dysfunction or Problem? | |
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The Process of Sexuality Therapy | |
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Assessment and Diagnosis | |
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Sexual Genogram | |
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Goal Setting for Sexual Problems in Therapy | |
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Male and Female Sexual Dysfunctions | |
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Male Dysfunctions | |
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Common Female Sexual Dysfunctions | |
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Other Problems in Sexual Relationships | |
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Sexually Transmitted Diseases and Infections | |
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Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome | |
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Alcohol and Sexuality | |
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Infertility Issues | |
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Aging Issues | |
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Childhood Sexual Abuse and Therapy | |
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Checklist for Treatment of Sexual Dysfunction | |
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Ethical Concerns for Counselors Treating Sexual Issues | |
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Case Example: Charlotte and Frank | |
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Application of the Integrative Model: Working with a Sexual Problem | |
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Conclusion | |
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Conflict: Negotiation and Resolution | |
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Sources of Conflict | |
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Social Context | |
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Situational Stress | |
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Perceptual Differences Theories | |
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Behavior/Event Theories of Conflict | |
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Negotiation Theory | |
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Developmental Theory | |
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Verbal Conflict and Anger | |
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An Anger Genogram: Questions to Ask | |
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Anger as Manipulation or Defense | |
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Withdrawn Partners | |
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Characteristics of Verbal Abuse | |
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Conflict Issues and Patterns | |
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Control, Power, and Equity | |
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Blame | |
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Triangulation | |
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Interactive Conflict Patterns | |
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Developmental Stages of Couples Conflict | |
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Early Disagreement | |
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Repeated Conflict | |
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Severe Conflict | |
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Severed Couple's Relationship | |
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Violence in a Couple's Relationship | |
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Scope of the Problem | |
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Definition of Battering | |
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Recognizing a Potential Batterer | |
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The Cycle of Violence | |
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Reasons Why Women Stay or Return to Abusive Situations | |
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Counseling for Batterers and Victims of Domestic Violence | |
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Equity in a Couple's Relationship | |
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Negotiation and Problem Solving for Couples | |
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Conflict Training | |
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Problem-Solving Model | |
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Fair Fighting | |
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Clinical Interventions | |
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Reframing | |
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Using Metaphors | |
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Contracting | |
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Case Example: Maria and Kimberlee | |
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Role Reversal | |
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Case Example: Morena and Saul | |
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Application of the Integrative Model | |
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Considerations for Working With Couples in Conflict | |
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Conclusion | |
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Divorcing Couples | |
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Sociological Context: The Prevalence of Divorce | |
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Divorce Stage Theories | |
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Making the Divorce Decision | |
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The Stages of Divorce | |
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Developmental Models of Divorce | |
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The Three Stages of Divorce | |
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A Diaclectic Model of Divorce | |
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Application of Divorce Stage Models | |
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Counseling and the Stages of Divorce | |
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The Integrative Model and Divorce Therapy | |
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Case Example: David and Marcy | |
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Application of the Integrative Model: Divorce Therapy | |
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Considerations for Counselors | |
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Intervention Strategies | |
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Mediation | |
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Rituals for Separation and Divorce | |
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Case Example: Kim and Lia | |
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Conclusion | |
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Extramarital Affairs | |
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Definitions | |
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How Prevalent Are Extramarital Affairs? | |
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Are There Types of Affairs? | |
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Online Infidelity | |
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Why Do People Have Affairs? | |
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Gender Differences | |
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Romance: Threat or Menace? | |
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Societal Factors | |
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Treating Infidelity in Light of Culture | |
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Case Example: Elaina and Jorge | |
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Helping People Deal Constructively With Affairs: Practical Issues | |
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Is an Affair the End of the Relationship? | |
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Can We Help People Fall Out of Love? | |
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Should the Therapist Who Learns About an Affair From One Spouse Keep It a Secret? | |
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When Should Affairs Not Be Revealed? | |
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What if You Are Not Sure That an Affair Is Taking Place? | |
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Guidelines for Revealing an Affair | |
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Guidelines for the Therapist Using the Integrative Model | |
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Affairs and the Integrative Model: A Case Example | |
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Case Example: Clarice and William | |
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Conclusion | |
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Special Challenges | |
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Counseling Couples With Alcohol Problems | |
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Alcohol and the Couple | |
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Aspects of Alcoholism: Terminology | |
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Alcoholic | |
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Codependency | |
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Alcohol Dependence and Alcohol Abuse | |
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Abstinence and Sobriety | |
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The Couple Relationship That Supports Alcoholism | |
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Referring the Couple for Alcohol Treatment | |
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Couple Patterns That Support Alcoholism | |
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How the Partner Can Help the Alcoholic | |
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The Systems Approach Toward Alcoholic Behavior | |
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The Alcoholics Anonymous Approach and the Systems Approach | |
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The Problem Drinker | |
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Therapy Techniques | |
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Interventions to Support the Alcoholic's Change | |
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Interventions to Enhance the Quality of the Relationship Following Treatment | |
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Behavioral Couples/Marital Therapy | |
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Relapse Prevention | |
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The Integrative Model and Couples With Alcohol Problems | |
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Assessment Issues | |
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Assessing the Alcoholic and the Relationship | |
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Developing the Interactive Definition | |
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Case Example: Ed and Beth | |
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Application of the Integrative Model: Alcoholism | |
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Conclusion | |
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Blending Couples | |
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Sociological Context | |
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Issues for Blending Couples | |
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Differences Between Blending Families and Biological Nuclear Families | |
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The Role of Stepmother | |
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The Role of Stepfather | |
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Healthy Stepfamily Characteristics | |
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Flexibility and Adaptability | |
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Patience | |
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Realistic Expectations | |
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Cooperation of Separate Households | |
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A Unified Couple | |
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Establishment of Constructive Rituals | |
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Formation of Satisfactory Step-Relationships | |
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Strengths of Stepfamilies | |
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Stepfamily Hurdles and Challenges: Stressors in the Family | |
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Stages of Stepfamily Development | |
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The Impact of Blending Families at Various Stages of the Life Cycle | |
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Issues Within Blending Couples and Families | |
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Economic Issues | |
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Conflicted Feelings and Behaviors | |
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Movement of Children Between Households | |
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New Roles and Rules | |
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Treatment Issues | |
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Treatment Modalities | |
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Case Example: Corey and Corina | |
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Application of the Integrative Model: Blending Couples | |
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Summary of Techniques for Working with Blending Couples | |
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Scenarios for Discussion and Role Playing | |
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Conclusion | |
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Same-Sex Couples | |
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Sociological Context | |
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The Gay or Lesbian Lifestyle's Effects on the Couple | |
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Stage Model of Relationship Development for Same-Sex Couples | |
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Sources of Conflict in the Gay or Lesbian Lifestyle | |
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External Factors | |
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Internal Factors | |
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Therapy Issues for Same-Sex Couples | |
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Couples Issues | |
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Working with Same-Sex Couples | |
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The Integrative Model and Same-Sex Couples | |
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Case Example: Barbara and Melissa | |
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Application of the Integrative Model: Same-Sex Couple | |
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Intervention Strategies Useful for Same-Sex Couple Therapy | |
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Scenarios for Discussion and Role Playing | |
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Conclusion | |
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References | |
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Index | |