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| Introduction: What Do Mary Kay, Buddha, and Elvis Know That You Don't? | |
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| Embrace and: Why Either/Or Thinking Ruins Everything | |
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| Why Other People Drive Us Nuts | |
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| The Flawed And Fabulous Dichotomy of Human Nature | |
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| Either/Or: The Bane of Human Existence | |
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| Harnessing the Power of And | |
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| Intellectually Understandable, Emotionally Challenging | |
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| Why a Single Triangle Solves Millions of Problems | |
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| Filed Under Flawed | |
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| The Truth About Other People | |
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| Make Peace with Ambiguity: How Fear and Uncertainty Flatline Our Thinking | |
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| This Is Your Brain on Fear | |
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| The �I Can't Hear You� Brain-Lock | |
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| Fear Ignites Either/Or, Love Inspires And | |
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| Love Lessons from the Hanoi Hilton | |
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| Pessimism Versus Optimism: A False Choice | |
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| What POWs Teach Us About Choosing Our Thoughts | |
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| Why Faith Is Different from Optimism | |
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| A Very Expensive Lesson | |
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| Two Game-Changing Dualities | |
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| The Secret to Mastering the Triangle | |
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| Hold Space for Other Perspectives: Solving the Your Agenda Versus My Agenda Quagmire | |
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| The Sales Rep Who Loved | |
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| Why Your Body Is Smarter Than Your Brain | |
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| What the World of Sales Teaches Us About Assimilating Truths | |
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| What Differentiates the Superstars | |
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| Same Message, Different Results | |
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| A Subtle Shift of Focus | |
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| How You Organize Your Mind | |
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| It's Not You, It's Me (So Please Stick to the Subject) | |
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| Once More with Feeling | |
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| A Question of Timing | |
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| Interesting Versus Interested | |
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| Who's Afraid to Let the Other Guy Talk? | |
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| Why Love Means Never Having to Say, �Yes, But� | |
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| Act As If | |
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| Can I Get a Witness? | |
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| Seek Higher Ground: How to Rise Above the Comfort and Convenience of False Choices | |
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| We Hold These Truths to Be Complementary | |
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| The Myth of the Middle Ground | |
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| The Bumpy Path to Greatness | |
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| The �Therefore� Trap | |
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| Crossovers: Problematic and Successful (Sometimes) | |
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| Why John Adams Sold the Declaration, but Garth Brooks Couldn't Sell Chris Gaines | |
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| Are You My Thomas Jefferson? | |
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| Male Versus Female: A Dichotomy Worth Mastering | |
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| False Choices of Substance and Style | |
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| The Third Path: A Call to Intellectual Maturity | |
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| Discern Intent: Discovering the Real Truth Behind Imperfect Solutions | |
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| Judgment Versus Discernment | |
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| Survival Techniques of the Lizard | |
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| Discerning Their Truth, Even When You're Annoyed | |
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| First Truth Versus Second Truth Battles | |
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| Imperfect Solutions: Turf Wars | |
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| Discerning Intent in Emotionally Charged Debates | |
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| The Either/Or Debate That Tops Them All | |
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| Be the Hero (Somebody Has To) | |
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| Elevate Others: How to Change the Way Other People Think and Why You Should Even Bother to Try | |
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| Elevating the Conversation | |
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| Big Questions, Little Stories | |
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| The Doorbell Dynamic | |
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| Ask And Tell | |
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| Criticizing Versus Inviting | |
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| Locked and Loaded Questions | |
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| Once Upon a Triangle | |
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| Why Some Stories Work Better Than Others | |
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| How Sharing Perspectives Unlocks Creativity | |
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| Beyond Balance | |
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| A Special Note for Leaders | |
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| Why We're All Called to Lead | |
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| Be the Peace: How to Solve the Conflict in Our Head by Changing the Spirit in Our Heart | |
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| The Triangle of Truth: Seven Principles | |
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| The Triangle of Truth: Results | |
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| The Triangle of Truth: Tools | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| The Peace Alliance | |