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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Introduction | |
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| How to Use This Book | |
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| How to Discuss Your Differences | |
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| Your Past | |
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| Growing Up in a Traditional Family | |
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| Growing Up with Divorced or Single Parents | |
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| Impact and Influences of Other Relationships | |
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| At School and Play | |
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| Your Past: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Parents and In-Laws | |
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| Your Parents | |
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| Your In-Laws | |
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| Are We Our Parents? | |
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| Spending Time with Parents | |
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| One Big Happy Family | |
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| Parents and In-Laws: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Significant Others | |
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| Relatives | |
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| Friends | |
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| Pets | |
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| Exes and Past Relationships | |
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| Relating to Others | |
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| Significant Others: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Children | |
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| How Many, if Any? | |
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| Reasons to Conceive | |
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| Raising a Baby | |
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| Financing a Family | |
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| Stepchildren and Guardianship | |
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| How Would You Respond? | |
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| Children: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Perspectives | |
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| Religion and Spirituality | |
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| Race and Culture | |
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| Politics | |
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| Careers | |
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| Seven Years Later | |
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| Your Future | |
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| Perspectives: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Daily Life and Lifestyles | |
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| Who Will Do What? | |
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| Daily Routine | |
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| Changes | |
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| Do You Mind? | |
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| Daily Life and Lifestyles: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Leisure Time | |
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| How You Relax | |
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| Planning a Trip | |
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| Your Traveling Style | |
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| Are We Having Fun Yet? | |
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| Leisure Time: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Finances | |
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| Saving and Spending Styles | |
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| Managing Your Money | |
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| When Times Get Tough | |
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| Money Honesty | |
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| Our First Budget | |
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| Your Marriage, Money, and the Law | |
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| Financial Checklist | |
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| Finances: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Physical Intimacy | |
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| What, Where, and How Often? | |
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| Let's Get Physical | |
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| What Would You Do? | |
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| Honor and Trust | |
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| Physical Intimacy: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Emotional Intimacy | |
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| The Real You | |
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| Showing How You Feel | |
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| Saying "I Love You" | |
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| Are You Good for Each Other? | |
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| Are You Bad for Each Other? | |
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| Emotional Intimacy: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Special Situations | |
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| Marrying Someone in the Military | |
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| Marrying a Noncitizen | |
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| Marrying a Criminal | |
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| Marrying a Celebrity | |
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| Marrying Someone Significantly Older or Younger | |
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| Special Situations: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Your Wedding | |
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| Getting Married | |
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| Your Wedding | |
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| Family, Guests, and Attendants | |
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| Remarriage | |
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| To Have and to ... Hold On! | |
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| Your Honeymoon | |
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| Your Wedding: Thoughts on Your Answers | |
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| Marriage Builders or Breakers | |
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| Living Together Before Marriage | |
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| Communication | |
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| The Friendship Factor | |
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| Reasons to Reconsider Marriage | |
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| Personality Types | |
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| Habits That Drive Couples Apart | |
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| Epilogue: Final Thoughts | |
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| Spousal Ten Commandments | |