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| Introduction | |
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| Seeing the Problem | |
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| How to Use The Grief Recovery Handbook | |
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| Grief: A Neglected and Misunderstood Process | |
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| Grief and Recovery | |
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| Staying Open to Grief | |
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| Grief Recovery: How Does It Work? | |
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| An Incomplete Past May Doom the Future | |
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| Compounding the Problem | |
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| Confusion About Stages | |
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| What About Anger? | |
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| Common Responses | |
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| Getting Over or Getting Complete | |
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| When Is It Time to Begin to Recover? | |
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| Suicide, Murder, AIDS, and Other Tragic Circumstances | |
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| The "G" Word | |
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| Survivor: Another Inaccurate Word | |
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| There Is Nothing Wrong with You | |
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| We Are Ill Prepared to Deal with Loss | |
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| We're Taught How to Acquire Things, Not What to Do When We Lose Them | |
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| We're Taught Myths About Dealing with Grief | |
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| Participating in Your Own Recovery | |
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| Loss of Trust | |
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| Practice Makes Habits | |
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| Others Are Ill Prepared to Help Us Deal with Loss | |
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| They Don't Know What to Say | |
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| They're Afraid of Our Feelings | |
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| They Try to Change the Subject | |
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| They Intellectualize | |
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| They Don't Hear Us | |
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| They Don't Want to Talk About Death | |
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| Professional Distortions | |
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| They Want Us to Keep Our Faith | |
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| Academy Award Recovery | |
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| Enshrine or Bedevil? | |
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| We Want the Approval of Others | |
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| "I'm Fine" Is Often a Lie | |
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| We Begin to Experience a Massive Loss of Energy | |
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| We Experience a Loss of Aliveness | |
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| Preparing for Change: Starting to Recover | |
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| Your First Choice: Choosing to Recover | |
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| Who Is Responsible? | |
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| Your Second Choice: Partnership or Working Alone | |
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| Finding a Partner | |
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| Setting the Guidelines | |
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| Initial Partners Meeting | |
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| Making Commitments | |
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| First Homework Assignment | |
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| Review Thoughts and Reminders | |
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| Second Partners Meeting | |
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| Identifying Short-Term Energy Relievers | |
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| Short-Term Relief Doesn't Work | |
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| Identifying Your Short-Term Energy-Relieving Behaviors | |
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| Second Homework Assignment | |
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| Third Partners Meeting | |
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| The Loss History Graph | |
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| Compare and Minimize | |
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| Loss History Graph Examples | |
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| What Goes on the Loss History Graph | |
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| Third Homework Assignment: Preparing Your Loss History Graph | |
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| Time and Intensity | |
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| Learning from Your Loss History Graph | |
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| Fourth Partners Meeting | |
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| Finding the Solution | |
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| What Is Incompleteness? | |
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| How to Identify What Is Incomplete | |
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| Choosing a Loss to Complete | |
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| More Help Choosing the First Loss to Work On and Questions about Other Losses | |
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| Introducing the Relationship Graph | |
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| The Relationship Graph Is Different from the Loss History Graph | |
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| Completing Is Not Forgetting | |
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| Accurate Memory Pictures: Your Part | |
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| Truth Is the Key to Recovery | |
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| Even Long Illnesses End in Unfinished Business | |
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| Hopes, Dreams, and Expectations | |
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| The Relationship Graph | |
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| Fourth Homework Assignment: Making Your Relationship Graph | |
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| Dawn of Memory-the Death of an Infant | |
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| Fifth Partners Meeting | |
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| Almost Home: Converting the Relationship Graph into Recovery Components | |
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| Apologies | |
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| Victims Have Difficulty with Apologies | |
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| Forgiveness | |
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| Significant Emotional Statements | |
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| Fifth Homework Assignment: Putting It All Together | |
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| Sixth Partners Meeting | |
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| Moving from Discovery to Completion | |
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| Final Homework Assignment: The Grief Recovery Completion Letter<sup><$$$></sup> | |
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| Important Note | |
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| Final Partners Meeting: Reading Your Letter | |
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| What Does Completion Mean? | |
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| Stuck on a Painful Image | |
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| What About New Discoveries? Cole's Window Story | |
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| More Help with Relationship Graphs and Completion Letters | |
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| What Now? | |
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| Cleanup Work | |
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| More on Choices and Other Losses | |
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| More on Choices-Which Loss to Work on First | |
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| Start with Relationships You Remember | |
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| Other First Choice Concerns: Hidden or Disguised Choices | |
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| Guidelines for Working on Specific Losses | |
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| Death or Absence of Parent from an Early Age | |
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| Infant Loss and Infertility | |
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| Alzheimer's-Dementia | |
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| Growing Up in an Alcoholic or Otherwise Dysfunctional Home | |
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| Unique Loss Graphing Situations: Faith, Career, Health, Moving | |
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| Moving | |
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| Miscellaneous Tips | |
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| The Final Word | |
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| The Grief Recovery Institute: Services and Programs | |
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| Acknowledgments | |