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The starting point | |
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Notes for the first few weeks | |
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Treat yourself as if you were in intensive care | |
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Someone to take calls | |
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Seek assistance | |
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Don't worry about contacting people | |
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Let your body lead you | |
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Religious traditions | |
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Wills and arrangements | |
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Expect to be distracted | |
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Have someone near you | |
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The help of friends | |
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Handout for those close to you | |
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Understanding the emotional and physical affects of grief | |
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Exhaustion | |
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Days of distraction | |
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Grief knows no schedule | |
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Physical symptoms | |
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Grief and dreams | |
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If you don't dream | |
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If you do dream | |
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Troublesome dreams | |
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Communication dreams | |
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Feeling the presence of the deceased | |
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The world becomes dreamlike | |
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A time to withdraw | |
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Impulsive living | |
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Instant replays and obsessive thoughts | |
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The "if only" mind game | |
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Anger | |
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Fear | |
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The world is upside down | |
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Assumptions are shattered | |
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When faith is shattered | |
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Loss of purpose | |
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Redefining ourselves | |
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What matters? | |
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Finding a beginning, middle and end | |
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Why did this happen? | |
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The stages of grief | |
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Shock | |
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Denial | |
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Depression | |
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Anger | |
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Acceptance | |
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Complicated mourning | |
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The first year | |
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The second year | |
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The third year | |
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Multiple grief | |
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Will I ever get over it? | |
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Warning signs | |
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Myths and misunderstandings of the grieving process | |
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Grief blocks | |
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Relating to others | |
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Too close to home | |
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You are a different person | |
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It's okay to laugh | |
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The ten-day syndrome | |
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Repeating the story | |
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Awkward questions | |
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Non-traditional relationships | |
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Going back to work | |
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Helping children cope with grief | |
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Babies | |
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Toddlers | |
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Young children | |
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Adolescents | |
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Teenagers to young adults | |
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General guidelines | |
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Special occasions and challenges | |
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The ambush | |
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Birthdays | |
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Anniversaries | |
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Weddings | |
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Holidays | |
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Holiday traditions | |
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Where does one go during the holidays? | |
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Happy new year? | |
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Looking toward next year | |
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Part Two: Sharing our stories | |
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The loss of a friend | |
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Some things you can do | |
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The loss of a parent | |
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Some things you can do | |
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The loss of a child | |
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Extreme emotions | |
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Losing and adult child | |
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Suicide | |
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Common reactions to suicide | |
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Questions and suicide | |
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Religion and suicide | |
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The stigma of suicide | |
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Your relationship with your partner | |
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Grieving styles: the differences between men and women | |
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Grieving guidelines for men and their partners | |
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Guidelines for grieving couples | |
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Single parents | |
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Some things you can do | |
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The loss of a partner | |
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Loss of identity | |
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Circles of friends | |
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Lingering memories and images | |
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Learning to do things alone | |
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Funeral arrangements | |
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When one parent is doing the job of two | |
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For parents who have surviving children | |
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Will I ever love again? | |
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Seeking purpose | |
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Some things you can do | |
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The loss of a sibling | |
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Being overlooked in the grieving process | |
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Double the loss | |
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Identity through a sibling | |
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We fought so much | |
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No one understands | |
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Some things you can do | |
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Part Three: Pathways through grief | |
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Pathways through grief: Questions and answers | |
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Self-help and therapy | |
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Self-help books | |
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FAQ about self help and therapy | |
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Some therapies that can be useful | |
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Alternative solutions: herbs, therapies and other techniques | |
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Sadness | |
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Feeling depleted | |
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Depression | |
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Inability to cry | |
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Fatigue | |
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Guilt | |
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Headaches | |
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Distraction | |
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Forgetfulness | |
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Lack of concentration | |
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Stomach discomfort | |
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Anxiety | |
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Insomnia | |
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Grief recovery exercises | |
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Anger exercise | |
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Thank you exercise | |
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The search for meaning | |
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Learning through loss | |
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What my loved one has left me | |
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Screaming exercise | |
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Define your priorities | |
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Coping with guilt | |
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Poetry | |
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The gratitude journal | |
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Calming | |
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Visualization | |
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Rituals | |
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Memory books | |
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Resources and support | |
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Supportive publications | |
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Support for loss of a partner | |
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Support for grieving children | |
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Support for the lost of a child | |
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General books for adults | |
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Books about grief recovery | |
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Books for grieving men | |
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Books about the loss of a friend | |
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Books about helping someone who is grieving | |
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Books about the loss of a child | |
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General books for professionals | |
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Books for children, teens and their caregivers | |
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Books about the death of a mate | |
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Books about losing a parent | |
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Books about suicide | |
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Books for helping professionals | |
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Where am I now?/Notes from the authors | |
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Appendix/Worksheets and forms | |
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The memorial service | |
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The eulogy | |
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A checklist of calls to make | |
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Friends support group invitation | |
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Bibliography | |
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Index | |
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How to contact the authors | |
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Mailing list | |
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About the authors | |
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Other Champion Press, Ltd. Titles | |