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| Getting Started | |
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| Prevention | |
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| Prevention: Actions | |
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| Choices | |
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| The Substitution Principle: Exchanging Old Behavior for New | |
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| How I Piss People Off | |
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| Doing, Not Trying | |
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| Prevention: Thoughts | |
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| Hope for the Best, but Prepare for the Worst | |
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| Know Your Hot Thoughts | |
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| This Is No Time to Get Wasted | |
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| Setting Small Goals for the Future | |
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| Feelings | |
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| Where in Your Body Do You First Feel Angry? | |
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| Halt: Hungry, Anxious, Lonely, Tired | |
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| Staying Calm: Preventive Relaxation Techniques | |
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| What Has Been Driving Your Life--You or Your Anger? | |
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| Prevention: Spirit | |
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| Challenging Your Angry Spirit | |
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| Accepting Reality: You Can't Always Get What You Want | |
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| What Would You Do If You Weren't So Angry? | |
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| Self-Hate: The Saboteur of Anger Management | |
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| Containment | |
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| Containment: Actions | |
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| Time-out: Recognize, Retreat, Relax, Return | |
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| I Know Exactly How to Hurt Them, but I Won't | |
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| Do Something Different | |
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| Turning Down the Heat | |
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| Containment: Thoughts | |
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| Don't Jump to Conclusions (Don't Get Paranoid) | |
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| Don't Make a Bad Situation Worse | |
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| Disputations and Anger Control | |
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| How Do You Justify Your Anger? | |
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| Containment: Feelings | |
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| Notice Your Other Feelings | |
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| How to Relax in the Middle of an Argument: A Pocket Guide | |
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| Shouting Won't Make You Feel Better: Beware the Myth of Ventilation | |
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| Breaking the Shame-Rage Connection | |
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| Containment: Spirit | |
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| Discovering the Wounded Idealist Hiding Behind Your Sarcasm, Cynicism, and Put-downs | |
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| Why Am I So Critical of Others? | |
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| Looking for the Good in Others: A Healing Medicine | |
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| Helpless Fury/Impotent Rage | |
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| Resolution | |
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| Resolution: Actions | |
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| Praise | |
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| "I" Statements: Feeling and Action Versions | |
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| Fair Fighting | |
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| Apologies Made, Apologies Accepted | |
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| Resolution: Thoughts | |
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| Nondefensive Conflict: Looking for the Grain of Truth in the Other's Viewpoint | |
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| Be Willing to Compromise | |
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| Keeping Things in Perspective | |
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| Enough, Already! Stop Being So Stubborn | |
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| Resolution: Feelings | |
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| Understanding the Other Person's Feelings | |
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| Checking in with Yourself to Prevent Sabotage | |
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| Letting Go of Your Anger | |
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| The Secret Attraction of Anger | |
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| Resolution: Spirit | |
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| Looking for God in Yourself and Others | |
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| Forgiving Those Who Have Harmed You | |
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| Turning Anger into Advocacy: Fighting Injustice Intelligently | |
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| The Final Line: Doing More Good Than Harm | |
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| Afterword | |