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| Introduction | |
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| Welcome to the Jungle: Your First Steps Into Adventure | |
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| Kink? What Is This Kink Thing? | |
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| Who Is Into Kink? | |
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| Why Are People Into Kink? | |
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| Why Join the Community? | |
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| Choose Your Own Adventure | |
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| Does This Flogger Make My Ass Look Fat?: Kink Etiquette, Kink Culture | |
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| A Gathering of Tribes vs. a Monolithic "Community," | |
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| Dispelling a Few Myths | |
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| Myths Within the Community | |
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| Courtesy and Respect | |
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| Personal Responsibility | |
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| Check Your Assumptions | |
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| Language, Names and Social Styles | |
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| Maintaining Privacy: Yours and Mine | |
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| So Many Choices! Events, Groups and Gatherings | |
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| Which Event Is Right for You? | |
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| Can/Should You Join This Group? | |
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| Finding Events | |
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| Types of Events | |
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| Munches, Brunches &: Meetups | |
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| Fetish/Club Nights and Dance Parties | |
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| Leather Bars and Kink Cafes | |
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| Fetish Balls and Performance-Based Events | |
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| Private/ House Parties | |
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| Exploratoriums, Samplers & Tastings | |
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| Local Classes &. Education | |
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| Public Dungeons, SM Clubs and Play Spaces | |
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| Private Dungeons, SM Clubs and Play Spaces | |
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| Fetish Nights at Swinger Clubs/Bathhouses | |
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| Club Operations, Boards & Meetings | |
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| The Big Hotel Event | |
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| Kinky Camping, Runs and Retreats | |
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| Shopping and Swap Meets | |
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| Pride Parades and Street Festivals | |
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| Leather Contests and Title Competitions | |
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| Intensive Education | |
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| Leadership Conferences and Alternative Academia | |
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| When Kink is Just a Slice | |
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| Faith and Spirituality Gatherings | |
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| Virtual Communities and Gatherings | |
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| Other Major Categories of Events | |
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| …And Even More? | |
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| The Pre-Game Plan: Planning, Budgeting, Packing and Getting There | |
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| Planning | |
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| Budgeting | |
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| Packing Your Bags! | |
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| Getting There | |
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| Male New Friends (and Keep the Old): Keeping It Hot without Burning Bridges | |
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| Preparing For Successful Networking | |
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| In-Person Connections | |
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| Managing Your Virtual Self | |
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| Lasting Connections | |
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| But It Followed Me Home!: Pre-Event Negotiation And Planning | |
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| Setting Frameworks Before You Go | |
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| Pre-Event Preparation | |
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| Prep For Relationships | |
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| Styles of Partnered Attendance | |
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| Consent | |
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| Communication Systems | |
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| Involving Other People | |
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| Find Your Systems and Stick By Them | |
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| Unicorns, Trolls and Other Creatures: Behavior Awareness in Kink Communities | |
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| Mythical Creatures Are Mythical | |
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| Emotional Traps | |
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| Physical Pitfalls | |
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| Social Snares | |
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| People Are People, Everywhere | |
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| Oh the Places You'll Go!: Dungeons, Play Spaces and Erotic Arenas | |
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| Understanding the Space | |
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| Laws of the Land | |
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| Dungeon Dos and Don'ts | |
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| Wanna Do Some Stuff?: Negotiating For Play | |
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| Who To Negotiate With | |
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| What And Why To Negotiate | |
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| Setting Play Dates | |
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| Even Perverts Get The Blues: Staying Healthy (and Happy) at Events | |
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| Managing Needs, Wants and Desires | |
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| Con Drop and Con Crud | |
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| Refraining "Negative" Experiences | |
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| Transitioning with Grace: Back In the Default World | |
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| Real World? Fantasy World? | |
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| Transition Tools and Techniques | |
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| Who to Tell, What to Tell | |
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| Honoring Your Journey | |
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| Afterword | |
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| Kink Lingo Glossary | |
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| Kink Flags and Symbols | |
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| Better Know Your Hanky Code | |
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| Flags | |
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| Symbols | |
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| Items/Clothing/Props | |
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| Negotiation Tools | |
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| Before We Play | |
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| Playcard | |
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| Before We Play Questionnaire | |
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| Before we Play Checklist and Extended Questionnaire | |
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| Further Resources | |
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| Non-Fiction Books | |
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| Websites and Social Media | |
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| Sources of Kinky Inspiration | |
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| Out To Your Doctor?: Talking To Health Care Professionals, by Barak, RN | |
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| Understanding STDs and STIs: Sexual Expression and Infection Control, by Scotty Thomson | |
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| Sex, Gender, Identity, Orientation and Behavior, by Aiden Fyre and Lee Harrington | |
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| Relationships Beyond Labels: Some Terminology You May Encounter, and What It May (Or May Not) Mean, By Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy | |
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| SM vs. Abuse, by Jay Wiseman | |
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| Is it a Cult?: The Advanced Bonewits' Cult Danger Evaluation Frame (version 2.6), by Isaac Bonewits | |
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| Pocket Reference to Dealing With Law Enforcement, provided by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Law Enforcement Outreach Program, www.ncsfreedom.org | |
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| Thanks/Acknowledgments | |
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| About the Authors | |