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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Preface | |
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| Introduction | |
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| Recognizing Abusive Behavior | |
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| Identifying Abuse | |
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| Patterns of Domination and Control | |
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| The Domestic Violence Cycle | |
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| Types of Abuse | |
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| Emotional Abuse | |
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| Patterns of Emotional Abuse | |
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| Emotional Abuse Inventory | |
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| Physical Abuse | |
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| Patterns of Physical Abuse | |
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| Physical Abuse Inventory | |
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| Sexual Abuse | |
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| Patterns of Sexual Abuse | |
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| Rape | |
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| Incest and Other Sexual Abuse of Children | |
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| Sexual Abuse Inventory | |
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| Social Abuse | |
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| Patterns of Social Abuse | |
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| Social Abuse Inventory | |
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| Financial Abuse | |
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| Patterns of Financial Abuse | |
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| Financial Abuse Inventory | |
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| Religious and Spiritual Abuse | |
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| Patterns of Spiritual Abuse | |
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| The Misuse of Religious Doctrine | |
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| Religious and Spiritual Abuse Inventory | |
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| Learning About Abusers and Victims | |
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| Recognizing Abusers | |
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| Characteristics and Attitudes of Abusers | |
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| Female Abusers | |
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| Abuser Inventory | |
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| Recognizing Danger Signals | |
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| Indicators of Potentially Dangerous Behavior | |
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| Potential Danger Inventory | |
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| Victims of Abuse | |
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| Myths About Victims of Abuse | |
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| Why Victims Stay in or Return to Abusive Relationships | |
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| Victim Dependencies | |
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| Mutual Dependency | |
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| Examining Your Reasons for Staying in or Returning to an Abusive Relationship | |
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| Specific Victim Circumstances and Concerns | |
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| Abusers with Money, Influence, and Power | |
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| Cultural Concerns | |
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| Male Abuse Victims | |
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| Victims in Rural Areas | |
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| Same-Sex Partners | |
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| Victims with Disabilities | |
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| Abuse During Pregnancy | |
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| Abuse at Different Ages | |
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| Abuse of Children | |
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| Adolescents, Teenagers, and Dating Violence | |
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| Abuse of Seniors | |
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| Preparing for Emergencies | |
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| Violent Crisis and Emergency Situations | |
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| Emergency Plans and Safety Plans | |
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| If You Leave Home During a Crisis | |
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| Remaining at Home | |
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| Taking Care of Children in a Crisis | |
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| Avoiding Child Abduction | |
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| Hostage Taking | |
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| Stalking | |
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| The Legal Process | |
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| Civil and Criminal Courts and Protective Orders | |
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| Protective Orders | |
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| Criminal Court Procedures | |
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| Victim-Related Court Concerns | |
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| Mediation | |
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| Court Advocates | |
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| Attorneys | |
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| Federal Laws and Civil Lawsuits | |
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| Getting Help After a Crisis | |
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| Getting Help Immediately After a Crisis | |
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| Medical Attention and Evidence | |
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| Support from Family and Friends | |
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| Community Resources and Shelters | |
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| Getting Help for the Longer Term | |
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| From Victim to Survivor | |
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| Keeping Safe After a Crisis | |
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| Money Matters | |
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| Immigration Help | |
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| Work Issues | |
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| Transportation Issues | |
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| Making the Decision to Stay or Leave | |
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| Evaluating Your Relationship | |
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| The Examination Process | |
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| Restricting Abuser Communication | |
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| Abuser Assessment | |
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| Effects on Children | |
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| Assessing the Impact on You | |
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| Examination Do's and Don'ts | |
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| Evaluation Questions for Victims of Abuse | |
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| Planning for Change | |
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| Forming Realistic Expectations | |
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| Building Alternatives to Abuse | |
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| Making Goals and Plans | |
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| Rebuilding Your Sense of Self | |
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| Establishing Nonabusive Boundaries | |
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| Taking Action | |
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| Taking Action | |
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| The Decision to Stay or to Leave | |
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| Learning to Heal and Rebuild | |
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| Healing and Rebuilding | |
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| Grief and Abuse | |
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| After Grief | |
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| Healing Strategies | |
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| Long-Term Rebuilding and Restoration Strategies | |
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| Counseling After Abuse | |
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| Why Seek Counseling? | |
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| Choosing a Counselor | |
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| Programs for Abusers | |
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| Couples Counseling | |
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| Depression | |
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| Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) | |
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| Remaining Abuse-Free | |
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| Precautions for Your Protection | |
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| General Safety Precautions | |
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| New Dates and Acquaintances | |
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| New Relationships | |
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| Precautions for Seniors | |
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| Rape Safeguards | |
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| Safeguards to Avoid Child Abduction | |
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| Maintaining Your Life Free from Abuse | |
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| Establish and Maintain Financial Security | |
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| Know Your Legal Rights | |
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| Maintain Healthy Personal Behaviors | |
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| Maintain Individual Interests and Relationships | |
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| Teach Your Children Nonabusive Behavior | |
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| Welcoming a Life Without Abuse | |
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| A Heritage of Violence | |
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| Collaborating in Your Community | |
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| A Victim's Bill of Rights | |
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| Resources | |
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| Notes | |