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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Prologue | |
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| The Lies We Believe | |
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| The Truth About the Lies We Believe | |
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| Self-Lies | |
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| "I Must Be Perfect." | |
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| "I Must Have Everyone's Love and Approval." | |
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| "It Is Easier to Avoid Problems Than to Face Them." | |
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| "I Can't Be Happy Unless Things Go My Way." | |
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| "My Unhappiness Is Somebody Else's Fault." | |
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| Worldly Lies | |
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| "You Can Have It All." | |
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| "My Worth Is Determined by My Performance." | |
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| "Life Should Be Easy." | |
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| "Life Should Be Fair." | |
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| "You Shouldn't Have to Wait for What You Want." | |
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| "People Are Basically Good." | |
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| Marital Lies | |
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| "All My Marital Problems Are My Spouse's Fault." | |
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| "If Our Marriage Takes Hard Work, We Must Not Be Right for Each Other." | |
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| "My Spouse Can and Should Meet All of My Emotional Needs." | |
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| "My Spouse Owes Me (for All I Do)." | |
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| "I Shouldn't Have to Change Who I Am to Make Our Marriage Better." | |
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| "My Spouse Should Be Like Me." | |
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| Distortion Lies | |
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| "Magnification: Making a Mountain Out of a Molehill" | |
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| "Personalization: Taking Everything Personally" | |
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| "Polarization: Making Everything Black or White" | |
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| "Selective Abstraction: Missing the Forest for the Trees" | |
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| "Overgeneralization: History Always Repeats Itself" | |
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| "Emotional Reasoning: Feelings Equal Facts" | |
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| Religious Lies | |
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| "God's Love Must Be Earned." | |
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| "God Hates the Sin and the Sinner." | |
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| "Because I'm a Christian, God Will Protect Me from Pain and Suffering." | |
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| "All My Problems Are Caused by My Sins." | |
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| "It Is My Christian Duty to Meet All the Needs of Others." | |
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| "A Good Christian Doesn't Feel Angry, Anxious, or Depressed." | |
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| "God Can't Use Me Unless I'm Spiritually Strong." | |
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| Telling Ourselves the Truth | |
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| The Truth About the Truth | |
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| To Err Is Human | |
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| You Can't Please Everyone | |
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| There Is No Gain without Pain | |
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| You Don't "Have to" Do Anything | |
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| The Virtue Lies in the Struggle, Not the Prize | |
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| Life Is Difficult | |
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| You Reap What You Sow | |
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| You Are Not Entitled to Anything | |
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| Emotional Pain Is Good | |
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| You Are Going to Die | |
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| Is There an Ultimate Source of Truth? | |
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| The Truth About God and the Truth About You | |
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| Living the Truth | |
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| Doing the Truth | |
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| The Battle for Our Minds The Truth Workout | |
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| Identifying the Lies You Tell Yourself | |
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| Knowing Your A-B-C's | |
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| Challenging Your Lies with the Truth | |
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| Dealing with Past Events | |
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| Overcoming Perfectionism | |
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| Defeating the Need for Approval | |
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| Facing Problems | |
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| Discovering Your Identity and Worth | |
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| Rejecting Your "Have To's" | |
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| Facing Your Own Death | |
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| Being Needy, Meeting Needs | |
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| Developing the Mind of Christ | |
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| Epilogue | |
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| Secular and Biblical Teachings on the Importance of "Right" Thinking for Emotional and Spiritual Health | |
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| Secular and Biblical Truths for Defeating the Lies We Believe | |
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| Biblical Support for the Ten Truths Necessary for Emotional and Spiritual Health | |
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| Biblical Teachings on Truth | |
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| Recommended Readings | |
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| Notes | |
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| About the Author | |