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| Introduction | |
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| Women Reject the Very Things They Say They Want the Most | |
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| I Thought I Was Superwoman | |
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| What to Do When the Easy Times Hit | |
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| You'll Feel As If You're Getting Away with Something | |
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| How I Discovered My Receiving Muscles, and How You Can, Too | |
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| I Was Standing in My Own Way | |
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| I Had the Kookiest Problem | |
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| I Had to Override the Alarm System in My Head | |
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| How I Know It's Better to Receive Than to Give | |
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| Anyone Can Learn to Receive | |
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| Reflect on What You Reject | |
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| Begin to Receive | |
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| Miss Manners Would Not Approve, Gentle Reader | |
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| Things Were Better Than I Could Stand | |
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| Get Glad, Not Even | |
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| Feel Uncomfortable and Say "Thank You" Anyway | |
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| Speak Tenderly to Yourself | |
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| Good Receivers Don't Put Themselves Down | |
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| You're the Enemy Inside the Tent | |
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| Sometimes Self-Criticism is So Familiar You Don't Even Notice It Anymore | |
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| A Criticism Is Never the Truth | |
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| If You Can't Say Something Nice to Yourself, Find Someone Else Who Will | |
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| Pretend You're Comfortable | |
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| If You Act As If You Don't Deserve Something, Everyone Else Will Agree | |
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| There Was Not Enough in the World for Me | |
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| How to Feel Deserving | |
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| Receiving Requires Faith | |
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| Get Out of Control | |
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| Receiving Means Feeling Exposed | |
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| To Have Intimacy You Must Give Up Control | |
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| Drop the Gun and Put Your Hands in the Air | |
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| Receiving Is Trickier Than It Sounds | |
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| Stay in Your Own Skin | |
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| I Know Only What I Want, So I Trust Others to Say What They Want | |
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| Receiving Compliments | |
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| What Every Great Receiver Knows | |
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| Receiving Compliments Well Makes You More Attractive | |
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| Feeling Like a Fake Is Better Than Looking Like a Jerk | |
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| Take All the Help You Can Get | |
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| Let Others Lighten Your Load | |
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| No Woman Is an Island | |
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| You Have to Be Vulnerable to Get Emotional Help | |
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| Rejecting Help Is Rejecting an Emotional Connection | |
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| Get Advice from People Who Have What You Want | |
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| Take My Advice--I Won't Be Needing It | |
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| Be Still and Know That You Are Not God | |
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| The Cure for the Chronically Busy | |
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| Should You Get Involved? | |
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| The Danger of Doing Everything Yourself | |
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| You're Not the Fire Department | |
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| Give Up the Rush | |
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| Sometimes Less Really Is More | |
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| Busy Isn't Better | |
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| Fill Your Own Cup First | |
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| Receiving Requires a Full Cup | |
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| No One Can Fix Me but Me | |
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| How to Lose Friends and Irritate People | |
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| Self-Care Is a Discipline | |
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| Forming a Happy Habit | |
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| Own Your Gifts | |
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| Modesty Is Dishonesty | |
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| It's Hard to Be Humble | |
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| Identify Your Authentic Desires | |
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| Only Dead People Don't Want Anything | |
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| Will My Real Desire Please Stand Up? | |
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| Don't Be Afraid of Impossible Desires | |
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| Desires Are Not Dangerous | |
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| When Your Brain and Your Heart Argue, Your Heart Always Wins | |
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| Desires Are Road Maps to Destiny | |
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| Figure Out What You Want | |
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| Say What You Want | |
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| Invite Support By Speaking Your Desires | |
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| Be Straight and You Won't Manipulate | |
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| Saying What You Want Makes You More Beautiful | |
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| Secret Desires Can Drive Your Loved Ones Crazy | |
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| Your Desires Are Not Set in Concrete | |
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| Say What You Want to Someone Safe | |
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| Admit That You Goofed and Apologize for Your Part | |
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| Good Receivers Are Accountable | |
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| Admitting You Were Wrong Is Not as Bad as You Think | |
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| Your Critics Will Be Speechless | |
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| There's Nothing Left to Fight About | |
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| No Ifs or Buts About It | |
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| Admitting You're Wrong Is Attractive | |
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| Get Forgiveness from Yourself | |
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| Apologies Are Free, So Spread Them Around | |
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| It Takes Two to Tango | |
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| Give Up Guilt | |
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| "Guilt Is the Gift That Keeps on Giving" | |
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| You're the Deejay of Your Own Head | |
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| If One Apology Is Good, More Is Better, Right? | |
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| Your Words Count the First Time | |
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| Contrition Leads to Change | |
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| Accept Apologies | |
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| The High Price of Making Nice | |
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| Rehearse Your Acceptance Speech | |
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| First Receive, Then Accept or Reject an Apology | |
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| Not All Apologies Are Acceptable | |
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| If You Haven't Been Wronged, It's Right to Reject an Apology | |
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| Receiving Apologies Increases Your Confidence | |
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| Never Complain | |
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| Make Yourself a Magnet | |
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| Gratitude Gets You Further | |
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| Gratitude Is a Glass That's Half Full | |
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| The Opposite of Gratitude Is Entitlement | |
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| Gratitude Shows That You're Pleasable | |
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| Grateful Women Have Better Romantic Relationships | |
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| Marvel at Small Things | |
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| Wake Up to Your Good Fortune | |
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| Saying Thanks Won't Make Someone Stop Giving | |
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| Be Grateful for the Things You Hate | |
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| When Life Throws You a Hardball, Be Glad You're in the Game | |
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| Reject What Doesn't Fit for You | |
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| Know When to Say No | |
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| Use the Distress Test | |
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| Reject Things That Get on Your Very Last Nerve | |
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| Good Things Come to Those Who Say, "No, Thanks." | |
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| Listen to Your Spidey Sense | |
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| Foster Romance with Receiving | |
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| Let Him Please You | |
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| What Makes a Man Feel Successful | |
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| Rejecting His Offers Is Emasculating | |
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| Consider Keeping Presents You Hate | |
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| You Won't Owe Him Anything in Return | |
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| Sex Is a Gift | |
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| Rejecting Sex Is Rejecting the Relationship | |
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| Let a Man Support You | |
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| Don't Try This at Home | |
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| Let a Good Guy Support You | |
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| Behind Every Great Man Is a Very Surprised Mother-in-Law | |
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| You're His Inspiration | |
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| What Inspires a Man | |
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| Use Your Power Wisely | |
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| The Mother of All Receiving Challenges | |
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| Receive Money for Work You Love | |
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| Misery Made Me Feel Virtuous | |
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| It Pays to Play | |
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| Clinging to the Wrong Job Will Keep You From Getting the Right One | |
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| How Receiving Can Help You Make a Career Change | |
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| Tell Everyone About Your Talents | |
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| If You Love What You Do, You'll Never Work a Day in Your Life | |
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| Speak For Yourself | |
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| Not Everyone Will Applaud You | |
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| Receiving Is Better Than the Alternative | |