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| Foreword | |
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| Introduction | |
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| When Life Hangs In The Balance | |
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| Not Knowing If You Want To Know | |
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| Reacting To The News | |
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| Should You Tell Your Friends? | |
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| Should You Tell Your Teachers? | |
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| Are You The Real Parent? | |
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| Your Social Life | |
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| Who Else Can You Talk To? | |
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| Support Groups | |
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| The Hospice Movement | |
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| Feeling Scared | |
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| Hospital Visits | |
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| The $64,000 Question: Am I Going To Die? | |
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| Helping Your Siblings | |
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| Feeling Angry | |
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| Saying Good-Bye | |
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| Showing That You Care | |
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| When Death Comes | |
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| Discovering The Body | |
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| Do I Want To Be There When He Dies? | |
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| What Happens Next? | |
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| What Is Death Like For The Dying Person? | |
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| What Does A Dead Body Look Or Feel Like? | |
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| Why Am I So Weak And Jittery? | |
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| When Death Is Sudden | |
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| How You Found Out | |
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| I Can't Believe That This Has Happened | |
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| No Time To Say Good-Bye | |
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| Do You Want To Know The Details? | |
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| Flashbacks Or Nightmares | |
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| When You Can't Cry | |
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| Funerals, Formalities, And Farewells | |
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| Why Do We Have Funerals? | |
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| But What If It Hurts Too Much? | |
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| Helping Yourself By Getting Involved | |
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| The Viewing, Visitation, Or Wake | |
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| Sitting Shiva | |
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| Memorial Services | |
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| The Burial Service | |
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| Visiting The Grave | |
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| Cremation | |
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| The Headstone | |
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| Understanding Your Grief | |
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| What Is Grief? What Is Mourning? | |
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| How Long Is Grief? | |
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| Am I Normal? | |
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| Who Am I? I Feel Different | |
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| I Can't Sleep | |
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| What About Dreams? | |
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| I Can't Eat | |
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| I Can't Remember Anything | |
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| I Can't Concentrate | |
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| Close Calls While Driving | |
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| Responses To Expected Versus Sudden Death | |
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| Your Relationship Will Affect Your Grief | |
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| Understanding Your Feelings | |
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| Shock And Disbelief | |
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| Denial I Won't Accept This | |
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| Anger Life Stinks; It's Not Fair | |
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| Guilt And Regrets | |
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| Depression I Am Too Sad To Move | |
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| I Want To Die, Too | |
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| Fears And Worries I Have So Many Concerns | |
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| Physical Symptoms | |
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| On Resuming Your Life | |
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| How Best To Announce The News | |
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| Your First Day Back | |
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| Your Grades | |
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| Your Homework | |
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| Helping Your Friends Help You | |
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| What Happens When You See A Counselor? | |
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| Managing Your Stress | |
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| Why Does It Have To Be So Hard? | |
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| Postponing Grief | |
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| Reminders Of Your Loss | |
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| Is It Ok To Ask For Keepsakes? | |
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| When Death Comes At A Really Bad Time | |
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| When More Than One Person Has Died | |
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| When You Can't Attend The Funeral | |
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| Dealing With The Press | |
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| The Death Of Someone Famous | |
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| Holidays, Birthdays, And Anniversaries | |
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| Dreams And Nightmares | |
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| Tricks Of The Mind | |
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| Tightening The Screws | |
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| If You Witnessed The Death | |
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| Survivor Guilt I Should Have Died Instead | |
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| I Caused The Death | |
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| Secrets Discovered After A Death | |
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| Dealing With Suicide | |
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| My Brother Died Of Aids | |
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| Dealing With Murder | |
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| What Is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (Ptsd)? | |
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| What Does The Future Hold For Me? | |
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| What If My Parent Starts Dating? | |
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| Maybe Some Guy Will Take Advantage Of My Mom | |
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| Mom Is Getting More Calls For Dates Than I Am | |
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| I Have A Crush On The Guy Who Mom Is Dating | |
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| I Feel Disloyal To My Mom | |
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| My Dad Is Getting Married | |
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| Living With A Stepparent | |
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| Will I Ever Be Happy Again? | |
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| How Do I Know That I Am Getting Better? | |
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| Teens And Their Secrets | |
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| Megan | |
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| Scott | |
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| Natalie | |
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| Cynthia | |
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| Karen | |
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| What Friends Can Do | |
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| Should You Talk About What Happened? | |
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| Practical Help You Can Provide | |
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| What Do You Tell Other People? | |
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| Relaying Word To The School | |
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| Keep An Eye On How Your Friend Is Coping | |
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| What Can You Do If It Was Your Friend Who Died? | |
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| Secrets Too Big To Handle | |
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| Don't Get Into A Sorrow Competition | |
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| Are You Worried About Saying Something Stupid? | |
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| Other Things To Avoid | |
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| Some Good Things To Say And Do | |
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| Being A Friend Carries Responsibilities | |
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| Is That All There Is? | |
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| Resource List Helpful Books And Web Sites | |
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| Other Books On Teen Grief | |
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| Web Sites On Grief | |
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| Web Sites With Information About Funeral Practices In Various Faiths | |
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| Index | |