Tired of Nagging?: An Introduction | p. 1 |
Behavioral Ages and Stages: A very short course in what's going on with your child, from infancy to age 5 | p. 6 |
6 months to 1 year | p. 8 |
1 year to 18 months | p. 9 |
18 months to 2 years | p. 10 |
2 to 3 years | p. 12 |
3 to 3 1/2 years | p. 13 |
3 1/2 to 4 years | p. 15 |
4 to 5 years | p. 16 |
The 30 Parenting Tools | p. 18 |
Assume your child wants to cooperate | p. 19 |
Each day, spend 20 minutes of uninterrupted time with your child | p. 21 |
Provide plenty of outside time | p. 22 |
Give your child the power to make her own choices | p. 24 |
Let your child know you've noticed his good, kind behavior | p. 26 |
Offer substitutions | p. 27 |
Provide transitions to ease your child through moments of change | p. 29 |
Praise your child with descriptive words | p. 31 |
Change "no" to "yes." | p. 33 |
Empathize; put yourself in your child's shoes | p. 35 |
Wait until the emotions (yours and hers) have settled before you try to correct behavior | p. 36 |
Give your child hope | p. 38 |
Sometimes insist, sometimes negotiate ... and know when to do which | p. 39 |
Ask your child what she thinks should be done to correct a behavior problem | p. 41 |
Grab your child, if you must--and sometimes you must--but don't slap | p. 43 |
Give reasonable consequences for misbehavior | p. 45 |
Let your child know his behavior has an impact on you or others | p. 47 |
Let your child know what to expect | p. 48 |
Give your child words to use | p. 50 |
Be your child's play date supervisor | p. 52 |
When you can, appoint a neutral bad guy | p. 54 |
Set up success stories | p. 55 |
Let your child save face | p. 57 |
Learn to spot your own "I'm about to lose it" trigger points | p. 58 |
Model polite behavior | p. 60 |
To defuse a problem instantly, backtrack | p. 62 |
When your child is going through an impossible-to-live-with stage, find help! | p. 63 |
Use a little humor, drama, or exaggeration to make a point | p. 65 |
Plan joint approaches with your spouse | p. 65 |
Remember that tomorrow is another day | p. 68 |
The Tools in Action, by Ages and Stages: How to prevent, correct, and encourage ... and what to do next when what you're doing isn't working | p. 70 |
When your 6-month- to 1-year-old ... | |
Grabs dangerous or fragile objects | p. 73 |
Mouths everything he holds | p. 75 |
Spits or throws food | p. 76 |
Makes loud noises or repetitive sounds | p. 77 |
Demands a new activity every 10 minutes | p. 78 |
Gets clingy | p. 81 |
When your 1-year- to 18-month-old ... | |
Hates the stroller | p. 83 |
Wants to touch or grab all new or fascinating objects | p. 85 |
Runs away in open spaces | p. 87 |
Tries to climb whenever possible | p. 88 |
Bites, hits, or pushes | p. 90 |
When your 18-month- to 2-year-old ... | |
Hits or pushes | p. 92 |
Shakes loose of your hand outdoors and runs off | p. 95 |
Gets upset when he can't practice new things | p. 97 |
Won't let other children play with her things | p. 98 |
Repeats activities he's been told not to do | p. 100 |
Has a temper tantrum | p. 102 |
Throws things | p. 103 |
When your 2- to 3-year-old ... | |
Bites, hits, or pushes | p. 106 |
Whines | p. 109 |
Says "no" to everything, even to activities and foods she likes | p. 112 |
Won't let go of an object or activity | p. 114 |
Throws a temper tantrum | p. 116 |
Wants to explore everything and run, climb, and jump | p. 118 |
Puts up a fight about bedtime | p. 121 |
Dislikes being hurried | p. 124 |
Is reluctant to give up the pacifier or bottle | p. 126 |
Doesn't want help getting dressed | p. 128 |
Doesn't want to share a favorite toy | p. 130 |
Won't sit still at the table | p. 132 |
Won't eat the dinner served | p. 134 |
Loses interest in toilet training | p. 136 |
When your 3- to 4-year-old ... | |
Resists leaving a play date | p. 139 |
Dawdles | p. 141 |
Dislikes routines | p. 143 |
Excludes or is excluded by other children at play | p. 146 |
Has fears | p. 149 |
Goes wild in the car | p. 151 |
Gets overexcited | p. 153 |
Wants everything he sees | p. 155 |
Won't get dressed | p. 158 |
Won't pick up toys | p. 159 |
Has trouble sharing | p. 163 |
Gets into sibling fights | p. 165 |
Wants to play doctor | p. 169 |
Makes embarrassing observations about grown-ups she sees | p. 172 |
Interrupts your talk with another adult | p. 173 |
When your 4- to 5-year-old ... | |
Resists your request to help out | p. 175 |
Likes superheroes and all-powerful talk | p. 177 |
Wants to win at games all the time | p. 179 |
Is disrespectful to property | p. 182 |
Acts unruly in a public place | p. 184 |
Expresses criticism of adults with rudeness or threats | p. 186 |
Says "I hate you!" or "You're so stupid!" | p. 189 |
Likes toilet talk and swearing | p. 191 |
Acts bossy or ignores you | p. 194 |
Keeping Up the Progress: Good ways to maintain positive parenting | p. 196 |
Notes | p. 200 |
Suggested Reading | p. 202 |
Index | p. 206 |
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