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| Introduction | |
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| About This Book | |
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| Conventions Used in This Book | |
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| What You're Not to Read | |
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| Foolish Assumptions | |
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| How This Book Is Organized | |
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| Getting Ready for Sex | |
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| Doing It | |
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| Different Strokes | |
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| Having a Healthy Sex Life | |
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| The Part of Tens | |
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| Icons Used in This Book | |
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| Where to Go From Here | |
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| Getting Ready for Sex | |
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| So You Want to Know More about Sex | |
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| What Is Sex, Anyway? | |
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| So Why Do We Have It? | |
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| Making babies: A natural outcome | |
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| Enjoying a sensory experience | |
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| Understanding the Ins and Outs of the Sexual Response Cycle | |
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| Partnering Up | |
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| For love and the long haul | |
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| For lust and the fun of it all | |
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| Flying solo | |
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| Playing It Safe | |
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| Adjusting Over Time | |
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| Are You Ready to Get Busy? | |
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| Tuning the Male Organ | |
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| The Penis: Inside and Out | |
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| The three sponges (No cleaning involved) | |
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| At the head of the class: The glans | |
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| Size and sexual performance | |
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| Getting erection direction | |
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| Grasping the Basics of Your Testicles | |
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| Making the descent | |
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| Manufacturing hormones | |
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| Producing sperm | |
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| Why boys wear cups | |
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| At risk for testicular cancer | |
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| The Prostate Gland | |
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| Checking the prostate | |
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| Treating the prostate | |
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| Demystifying the Female Parts | |
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| Making Time for a Grand Tour | |
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| Translating All Those Latin Terms | |
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| Viva the vulva | |
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| The hymen: Symbol of virginity | |
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| The vagina: The main thoroughfare | |
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| At your cervix | |
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| The uterus: It stretches, and stretches, and stretches | |
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| The ovaries and fallopian tubes | |
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| The "Men" Words: Menstruation and Menopause | |
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| Menstruation - "Your monthly visitor" | |
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| Menopause - "The change of life" | |
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| Breasts: Hanging in There | |
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| Feeding babies | |
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| Getting sexual pleasure | |
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| Checking for breast cancer | |
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| Be proud of your breasts | |
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| Courtship, Marriage, and Commitment Getting to Yes | |
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| Starting Off with Courtship | |
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| Finding the right partner: Difficult, yes; impossible, no | |
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| Believing in yourself | |
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| Taking charge | |
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| Moving On to Commitment | |
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| Deciding that someone is sex worthy | |
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| Becoming friends with benefits | |
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| Sealing the Deal: Making Marriage Work | |
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| Knowing that love isn't enough | |
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| Handling children and commitment | |
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| Putting your marriage first | |
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| Strengthening your marriage | |
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| It's All about Control: Contraception and Sex | |
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| Why Use Contraceptives? | |
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| Warding off STDs | |
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| Preventing the natural outcome | |
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| Considering Your Birth Control Options | |
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| Sterilization | |
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| The Pill and other hormonal methods | |
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| The diaphragm, condom, and other barrier methods | |
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| Natural family planning | |
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| Facing Facts about Birth Control Myths | |
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| Douching doesn't prevent pregnancy | |
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| One time is all it takes | |
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| You can get pregnant without orgasms | |
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| Stand-ups don't stop sperm | |
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| Pregnancy and periods can mix | |
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| Pulling out is no protection | |
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| If Your Method Fails | |
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| Keeping the baby | |
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| Putting the baby up for adoption | |
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| Ending the pregnancy early | |
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| Making your decision | |
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| Growing Up Fast: The Challenges of the Teen Years | |
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| Being a Teenager in the Twenty-First Century | |
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| Evolving into Adulthood | |
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| The physical changes | |
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| The psychological changes | |
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| Dealing with Common Concerns | |
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| Friendships | |
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| Dating | |
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| Sex | |
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| Masturbation | |
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| Sexual orientation | |
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| Peer pressure | |
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| Cyberporn | |
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| Protecting Your Privacy | |
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| Don't Stop Here | |
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| Doing It | |
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| Foreplay: Revving Up Your Engines | |
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| Foreplay for Life | |
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| Linking the Emotional to the Physical | |
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| Setting the Stage | |
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| Sending flowers | |
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| Thinking ahead | |
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| Dressing for success | |
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| Dinner for two | |
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| Getting Physical | |
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| Bestowing a kaleidoscope of kisses | |
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| Making the most of massage | |
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| Turning up the heat in the hot tub | |
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| Pinpointing erogenous zones with body mapping | |
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| Switching Gears: Engaging the Genitals | |
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| Looking under the hood: Foreplay for her | |
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| Checking the dipstick: Foreplay for him | |
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| Moving on to the Main Event | |
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| Variety Is the Spice of Foreplay | |
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| Intercourse: Coming Together for the First Time | |
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| What's the Rush? | |
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| Making Your First Time Special | |
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| Choosing your partner wisely | |
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| Avoiding the dangers of demon rum | |
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| Giving the green light | |
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| Picking protection | |
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| Expressing your wishes | |
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| The First Time for Women | |
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| Breaking the hymen | |
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| If you're too tight | |
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| What to expect | |
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| The First Time for Men | |
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| Controlling your erection | |
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| Premature ejaculation | |
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| Working through the problem | |
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| The First Time All Over Again | |
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| Changing Positions: Variations on a Theme | |
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| The Good Old Missionary Position | |
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| Mating face-to-face | |
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| Recognizing drawbacks | |
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| Varying it up | |
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| The Female-Superior Position | |
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| Reaching maximum pleasure | |
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| Stressing about stamina | |
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| A variation to make your head spin | |
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| Taking Her from Behind | |
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| Gaining a new perspective | |
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| You might want kneepads | |
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| Experimenting with some alternatives | |
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| East Side, West Side, Side by Side | |
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| Lap Dancing | |
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| The Oceanic Position | |
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| Standing Up | |
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| Oral Sex: Using Your Mouth | |
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| Anal Sex: Handle with Care | |
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| Safe Sex: Playing Alone Together | |
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| Sex During and After Pregnancy: Orgasms Are Okay, with Changes | |
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| Rethinking what you can do | |
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| Be prepared for physical changes | |
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| Postpartum sex | |
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| Going for the Big O | |
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| What Is an Orgasm, Anyway? | |
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| Experiencing Orgasms: Differences for Men and Women | |
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| Men's orgasms: The penis is the star | |
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| Women's orgasms: Several paths to the goal | |
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| Kegelling is not a new dance | |
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| Achieving Orgasm: Let Me Count the Ways | |
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| Hitting the G-spot: Stuff of fact or fiction? | |
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| Climaxing during intercourse | |
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| The simultaneous orgasm | |
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| Multiple orgasms | |
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| Don't Try - Let It Come. You'll Be Glad You Did | |
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| Putting on Your O-Face: Responding to the Orgasmic Experience | |
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| The Best Reason to Have an Orgasm | |
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| Afterplay: Embracing the Moment | |
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| Understanding the Importance of Afterplay | |
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| Sharing the Moment | |
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| Advice for men: Stay awake | |
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| Advice for women: Tell him what you need | |
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| The Simplest of Techniques | |
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| Spicing Up Your Sex Life | |
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| Using Variety to Add Some Va Va Va Voom to Your Sex Life | |
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| Making the extra effort | |
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| Taking creativity on the road | |
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| Expanding Your Toy Chest | |
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| Visiting a sex shop | |
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| Ordering sexy stuff from a catalog or online | |
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| Watching X-rated movies | |
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| Different Strokes | |
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| Enjoying Oral Sex | |
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| Overcoming Your Inhibitions | |
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| Leaving Him Breathless: What Men Like | |
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| Making Her Toes Curl: What Women Like | |
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| Dealing with Some Delicate Details | |
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| Tidying up down there | |
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| To swallow or not to swallow | |
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| But I'm having my period | |
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| Avoiding lockjaw, lip languor, tongue tiredness | |
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| Assuming the Position | |
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| Addressing the Safety Issue | |
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| Savoring Solo Play and Fantasy | |
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| Exploring the Mythology of Masturbation | |
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| Avoiding Too Much of a Good Thing | |
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| Masturbation: Good for All Ages | |
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| Childhood: Figuring out what's "down there" | |
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| Adolescence: Exploring sexuality | |
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| Adulthood: Masturbating for many reasons | |
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| Masturbation Education | |
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| For men: Do-it-yourself techniques | |
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| For women: Tickling your own fancy | |
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| Fantasy: It's All in Your Head | |
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| Stories to get you started | |
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| Anything and anyone goes | |
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| Sharing your fantasies | |
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| A fantasy is a fantasy is a fantasy... | |
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| Keeping Up with Cybersex and Other Hot Stuff | |
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| Eyes Wide Open: A Word of Caution | |
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| Cybersex: Sights for Mature Minds | |
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| Computers as sex objects: Turned on all the time | |
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| Getting kinky with a keyboard: Chatting online | |
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| Off-line viewing | |
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| Sex and the Telephone: Aural Sex | |
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| Pay to play - 900 or 976 numbers | |
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| I just called to say... | |
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| Cell phones: Sex on the go | |
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| Sex and the Radio: It's All Talk | |
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| Sex and Television: A Different Meaning of Boob Tube | |
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| Renting films to view alone or together | |
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| Starring in your own sex flick | |
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| Pulp Nonfiction | |
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| Sex with Multiple Partners: Where Do All of These Body Parts Go? | |
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| The lure of adultery | |
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| Wife swapping, swinging, and group sex | |
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| Celebrating Same-Sex Relationships | |
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| Considering Sexual Orientation | |
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| What determines sexual orientation? | |
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| Keeping religion and government out of the bedroom | |
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| Behaving responsibly, no matter what orientation you are | |
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| Where does bisexuality fit in? | |
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| Determining Your Orientation: What Turns You On | |
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| Revealing Your Sexual Identity | |
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| Living in the closet | |
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| Coming out | |
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| Outing by others | |
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| Finding support | |
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| Sexual Practices among Gay Men | |
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| Sexual Expression between Lesbians | |
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| Marriage between Same-Sex Partners | |
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| Conquering the Challenges of Mature Sex | |
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| Female Changes: Tackling Menopause | |
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| The downside of menopause: vaginal dryness | |
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| The upsides of menopause: No periods, no pregnancy | |
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| Male Changes: Not All the Same | |
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| The spirit is willing, but the penis is weak: Fewer psychogenic erections | |
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| Impotency: Don't ignore it; bring it up | |
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| A benefit of aging: No more premature ejaculation | |
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| The Psychological Bonuses | |
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| Thriving Sexually with Illness or Disability | |
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| We Are All Sexual Beings | |
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| Sex When You're Physically Disabled | |
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| Finding a partner | |
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| Partnering the person with disabilities | |
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| Keeping the relationship alive | |
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| Sex After You've Had a Heart Attack | |
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| Overcoming fear | |
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| It may not all be in your head | |
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| What can you do? | |
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| Sex When You Have Diabetes | |
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| Sex and People Who Are Mentally Disabled or Ill | |
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| Sex and People Who Are Living in a Long-Term Care Facility | |
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| Uncompromising Compromised Sex | |
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| Having a Healthy Sex Life | |
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| What You Can Catch and How to Prevent It | |
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| STDs: Battle Scars No One Wants after a Night of Sex | |
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| Candidiasis | |
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| Chlamydia | |
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| Genital warts and HPV | |
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| Gonorrhea | |
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| Hepatitis B | |
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| Herpes | |
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| Human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) and AIDS | |
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| Molluscum contagiosum | |
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| Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) | |
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| Pubic lice | |
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| Syphilis | |
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| Trichomoniasis | |
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| Vaginitis | |
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| Let's Get Serious | |
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| Condoms give good, not great, protection | |
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| Have a relationship before you have sex | |
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| Don't be a silent partner | |
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| Minimize your risks | |
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| Erectile Dysfunction and Other Male Sexual Problems | |
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| Premature Ejaculation | |
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| Defining the dilemma | |
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| Does circumcision make a difference? | |
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| The age factor | |
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| Home remedies | |
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| The real cure: Recognizing the premonitory sensation | |
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| Is it really that simple? | |
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| Going for help | |
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| Erectile Dysfunction | |
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| The precursor: Loss of instant erection | |
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| Dealing with ED in older men | |
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| Managing short-term impotence | |
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| Monitoring your erections as a clue to your health | |
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| Giving Mother Nature a boost | |
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| Retarded Ejaculation | |
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| Priapism - The Case of the Permanent Erection | |
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| The Bent Penis | |
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| Lack of Desire | |
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| Low Libido and Other Female Sexual Problems | |
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| That Elusive Orgasm | |
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| Warming up to the idea of orgasms | |
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| Handling your own orgasm | |
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| I need more: Employing a vibrator | |
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| Forging ahead through the flat moment | |
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| Filing a missing orgasm report | |
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| Playing show-and-tell with your partner | |
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| Faking it | |
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| Ouch! It's Too Tight in There | |
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| When Cleaning the House Sounds Better Than Having Sex | |
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| Acknowledging your partner's frustration | |
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| Identifying and treating the problem | |
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| Every Body Is Attractive | |
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| Putting away the scales | |
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| Beautiful at any age | |
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| Sex After a Mastectomy | |
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| Avoiding Sexual Relationship Pitfalls | |
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| Making Time for Alone Time | |
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| Connecting through meaningful conversations | |
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| Scheduling sex dates | |
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| Fighting boredom in and out of the bedroom | |
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| Making the Most of a Long-Distance Relationship | |
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| Dealing with Addictive Behavior: Hooked on Porn | |
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| Surfing for a thrill | |
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| Deciding if porn is a problem | |
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| Stopping destructive habits | |
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| Staying Close to Avoid the Empty-Nest Syndrome | |
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| Sex and the Law | |
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| Sex, Children, and the Law | |
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| The age of consent | |
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| The legal marriage age | |
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| Incest: A violation of trust | |
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| Sex education: Spreading the word | |
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| Rape: A Growing Concern | |
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| The Law and Contraception | |
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| The Law against Spreading Diseases | |
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| Abortion: A Legal Safeguard | |
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| The Law and Homosexuality | |
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| Acknowledging homosexuality | |
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| Gay marriage | |
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| Prostitution: The Case for Legalization | |
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| Pornography: Erotic or Obscene | |
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| Adultery: Cheating the Law | |
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| Teaching Your Children about Sex and Keeping Them Safe | |
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| Not Everything Is Dangerous: Teaching Proper Functioning and Etiquette | |
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| Allowing children to explore their bodies | |
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| No prescription needed to play doctor | |
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| Answering Children's Questions | |
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| Warning Signs of Possible Sexual Abuse | |
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| The Accidental Voyeur | |
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| Protecting Your Children from the Media | |
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| Protecting Your Children from Cyberporn: Good News and Bad News | |
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| Educating your kids | |
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| Controlling kids' access | |
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| Giving the Speech about Strangers | |
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| Personal privacy | |
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| Telling kids to tell an adult | |
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| Organizing with other parents | |
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| That Other Discussion - Sex Ed and the Older Child | |
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| Knowing doesn't equal doing | |
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| To give or not to give condoms | |
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| Other Messages You Don't Want to Send | |
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| The Part of Tens | |
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| Ten Dumb Things People Believe about Sex | |
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| If I Haven't Had Sex by the Time I'm 18, I'm a Loser | |
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| The More I Score, the More Pleasure I'll Have | |
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| Being a Heterosexual Makes Me Immune to AIDS | |
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| The Grass Is Always Greener in the Neighbors' Bedroom | |
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| Having Sex Will Make Everything All Right | |
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| A Good Lover Must Be an Open Book | |
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| I Should Always Compare Sexual Partners | |
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| I Can't Become a Better Lover | |
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| Lovers Want and Need the Same Things | |
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| I'm Too Old to Have Sex | |
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| Ten Tips for Safer Sex | |
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| Learn to Say No | |
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| Limit Your Number of Partners | |
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| Don't Rely Solely on Your Instincts | |
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| Never Dull Your Senses When You're with Strangers | |
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| Discuss Safer Sex in Advance | |
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| Use Condoms | |
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| Develop a Relationship Before You Have Sex | |
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| Don't Engage in Risky Behavior | |
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| Don't Forget about the Other STDs | |
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| Don't Sell Your Other Options Short | |
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| Ten Things Women Wish Men Knew about Sex | |
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| Chivalry Isn't Dead Yet | |
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| Appearances Count | |
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| You Can't Hurry Love | |
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| A Clitoris Is Not Just a Small Penis | |
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| Women Need to Bask in the Afterglow | |
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| Kinky Sex Isn't Sexy Sex | |
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| Wandering Eyes Mean Less Sex | |
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| Slam-Bam-Thank-You-Ma'am Doesn't Cut the Mustard | |
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| Changing Diapers Is Sexy | |
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| Just Because You Can't Doesn't Mean You Won't | |
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| Ten Things Men Wish Women Knew about Sex | |
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| Try Not to Give Mixed Signals | |
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| Lack of Sex Really Can Hurt | |
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| Sometimes Wasting Electricity Is Okay | |
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| Teamwork Is Important | |
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| The Playboy Playmate Is Not a Threat | |
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| The Day I Stop Looking Is the Day I'm Dead | |
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| If You Really Loved Me, You'd... | |
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| The Way to a Man's Heart Is Not through His Stomach | |
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| To a Man, Sex Is Different than Love | |
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| The Older a Man Gets, the More Help He Needs | |
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| Ten Tips for Truly Great Lovers | |
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| Don't Make Love on Your First Date | |
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| Set the Mood as Far in Advance as Possible | |
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| Find Out What Your Partner Needs | |
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| Protect Yourself and Your Partner | |
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| Don't Fall into a Rut | |
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| Fix the Potholes of Love | |
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| Use Your Sense of Touch | |
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| Become a Great Kisser | |
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| Satisfy Your Partner Even If You Don't Feel Like Sex | |
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| Adjust to Changes Caused by Aging | |
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| Step into My Office | |
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| Baring All for the Sexual Status Exam | |
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| Tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth | |
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| Take a number; one at a time, please | |
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| Do you need a partner? | |
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| I am not a medical doctor: Ruling out physical problems | |
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| Accepting that sex is natural | |
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| Advancing to psychosexual therapy | |
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| Sex Therapists Give the Best Homework | |
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| The start-stop method | |
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| Sensate focus exercises | |
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| Finding a Sex Therapist | |
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| Choosing a Sex Therapist | |
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| Terrific Resources | |
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| Counseling | |
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| Sex Therapy | |
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| Sexually Transmitted Diseases | |
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| Sexual Orientation | |
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| Sexuality and Family Planning | |
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| Sexual Toys | |
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| Protecting Children | |
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| Support Groups | |
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| Index | |