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| Introduction: Kids Do Experience Hate | |
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| Understanding Hate and Where It Comes From | |
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| From Birth to Teens: How Children Learn About Differences | |
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| Infants--I Distinguish Between "Me" and Others | |
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| First Discovery of "Others" | |
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| Toddlers--I Explore Differences | |
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| First Questions About Differences | |
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| Three- to Five-Year-Olds--I'm Learning to Interact with Others | |
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| Self-worth Develops | |
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| Children Are Not Color-blind | |
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| Six- to Eight-Year-Olds--I'm Myself and I'm Part of Society | |
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| First Conscious Contact with Hate | |
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| From Hate to Hope | |
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| Nine- to Twelve-Year-Olds--Myself, My World, My Own Values | |
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| Teenagers--I'm Independent, Except When I Need You | |
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| Cruelty May Not Be Hate | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Some Things That Make People Different from One Another | |
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| Gender | |
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| Sexual Orientation | |
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| Race | |
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| Religion | |
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| Culture and Ethnicity | |
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| Reacting to Differences | |
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| Differences of Ability | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Why Do People Hate? | |
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| What Is Hate and Why Do People Feel It? | |
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| Hating Out of Ignorance and Untrue Information | |
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| "Kids, Kids, Remember What I Told You..." | |
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| Hating Out of Fear of the Unfamiliar | |
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| "I Am a Member of--. That's Why I Have to Say What I Have to Say..." | |
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| "I Believe I Should Speak Up..." | |
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| Hating Out of Hurt and Anger | |
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| Role Models for Overcoming Hatred | |
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| "Momma, Daddy Said We Shouldn't Hate" | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| What Can We Do About Hate? | |
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| Talking to Your Kids | |
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| Dialogue About Diversity | |
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| Ground Rules | |
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| Respecting Our Differences | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Questions About Hate/Responses to Hate | |
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| Introduction | |
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| Hello, World: Questions and Answers for Infants to Preschoolers | |
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| Watch Out, Here I Come: Questions and Answers for Three- to Five-Year-Olds | |
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| First Stereotypes | |
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| Onward and Upward: Questions and Answers for Six- to Eight-Year-Olds | |
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| Sample Scenarios | |
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| Tweens: Questions and Answers for Nine- to Twelve-Year-Olds | |
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| Clarifying Values | |
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| Ask, Don't Tell, and Other Protocols | |
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| Asking for Affirmation, Not Answers | |
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| I Exist, Therefore I Embarrass You: The Teenage Years | |
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| Name-calling | |
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| What Parents Can Do to Respond to Name-calling | |
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| When Your Child Uses Hurtful Names | |
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| When Your Child Has Been on the Receiving End of Hurtful Words | |
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| Joking | |
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| Responding to Situations You Find Offensive: A Five-step Process | |
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| Sexual Orientation and Disability Slurs | |
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| Excluding, Zooing, and Other Inappropriate Behaviors | |
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| Excluding | |
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| Explore the Expressed Reason for Exclusion | |
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| Responding to the Perpetrator | |
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| Discuss How Exclusion Feels | |
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| When Your Child Is the Victim | |
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| Zooing | |
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| Crimes of Hate: Physical and Emotional Violence | |
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| Setting the Rules on Violence | |
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| If Your Child Is Being Victimized | |
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| Ask Questions | |
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| Offer Help | |
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| Don't Keep It Secret | |
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| Common Questions | |
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| When Your Child Is the Perpetrator | |
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| Key Diversity Skills and Concepts | |
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| Basic Diversity Skills | |
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| Asking Questions | |
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| Answering Questions | |
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| Ten Key Concepts About Hate | |
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| Challenging Hate Outside the Home | |
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| Introduction | |
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| Combating Hate in Schools | |
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| What Parents Can Do | |
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| What Children Can Do | |
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| Combating Hate in the Media--TV, Movies, Books | |
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| Screening Television and Movie Messages | |
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| TV and Movie Questionnaire | |
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| Evaluating and Selecting Children's Literature | |
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| Combating Hate on the Internet | |
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| What Parents Can Do | |
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| What Children Can Do | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Making a Commitment to Change | |
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| In Your Community | |
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| In Your Workplace | |
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| In Your House of Worship | |
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| Resources | |
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| Organizations and Web Sites | |
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| Selected Bibliography | |
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| Permissions | |