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| List of Homework/Handout Sheets for the Couple | |
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| Foreword to the Second Edition | |
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| Preface to the Second Edition | |
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| Foreword to the First Edition | |
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| Preface to the First Edition | |
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| How to Use This Book | |
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| Making Couples Therapy Work: Start With the Basic Ingredients | |
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| First, a Temperature Check | |
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| A Base of Respect and Trust | |
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| Basic Couples Skills | |
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| The Research of John Gottman | |
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| Emotional Intimacy as a Key to Attachment | |
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| Putting All the Ingredients Together | |
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| Introduction to Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy | |
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| Cupid and Psyche | |
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| Romantic Love | |
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| The Imago and the Brain | |
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| The Power Struggle | |
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| Commitment, Safety, Couples Dialogue, and the Stretching Principle | |
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| Reimaging Your Partner | |
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| The Container Process | |
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| Cupid and Psyche Revisited | |
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| Couples Dialogue: The Essential Skill | |
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| Couples Dialogue | |
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| Case Study: Mike and Linda | |
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| The Gremlins Under the Behavior | |
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| What Does Couples Dialogue Do? | |
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| Session One: The Cosmic Journey, the Brain, and Couples Dialogue | |
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| Connection: An Important Goal of the First Session | |
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| About the Lecture | |
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| Couples Dialogue | |
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| Dave and Diana: A Case Study | |
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| Dave and Diana: Session One | |
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| Session Two: Development, Childhood Experiences, and Mate Selection | |
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| Starting the Session | |
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| About the Lecture | |
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| About the Guided Imagery | |
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| Dave and Diana: Session Two | |
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| Session Three: Developing Empathy and Reimaging the Partners | |
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| Starting The Session | |
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| Filling Out the "My Imago" Form | |
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| Using the Imago Workup | |
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| About the Lecture | |
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| Parent-Child Dialogue | |
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| The Holding Position | |
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| Dave and Diana: Session Three | |
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| Session Four: Reromanticizing the Relationship | |
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| Starting the Session | |
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| About the Lecture | |
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| Caring Behaviors Exercise | |
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| Little Surprises Exercise | |
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| Belly Laughs Exercise | |
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| Mutual Relationship Vision Homework | |
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| Dave and Diana: Session Four | |
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| Session Five: Restructuring Frustrations | |
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| Starting the Session | |
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| About the Lecture | |
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| Behavior Change Request Process | |
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| Dave and Diana: Session Five | |
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| Session Six: Resolving Rage | |
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| An Option | |
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| Starting the Session | |
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| About the Lecture | |
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| The Container Process | |
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| Follow-Up Plan | |
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| Dave and Diana: Session Six | |
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| Outcome Measures | |
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| Ten Years Later: A Follow-Up | |
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| After the Therapy | |
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| Follow-Up Plan | |
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| Being Creative With the Basic Format and Working With Special Populations | |
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| An Eight-session Format | |
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| A 10-Session Format | |
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| A 12-Session Format | |
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| Additional Exercises | |
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| Special Treatment Populations | |
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| What If the Therapy Does Not Work? | |
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| Case Studies | |
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| Staging in Couples Therapy | |
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| "Just Fix It!" | |
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| Early Wounded Couples | |
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| The Rigid-Diffuse Couple | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Resources | |
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| The Efficacy of Short-Term Imago Therapy | |
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| Brief Report | |
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| References | |
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| Acknowledgments from the First Edition | |
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| Homework and Handout Sheets for Couples | |