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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Introduction | |
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| Return to the Beginning | |
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| Romantic Beginnings | |
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| We Need Help | |
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| Walk Down Memory Lane | |
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| Get Better Acquainted | |
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| Get Back to the Simple Basics of Respect | |
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| It Works | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Keep Your Mate at the Top of Your List | |
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| False Impression | |
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| Parenting Pressures | |
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| Extended Family Pressures | |
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| Career Demands | |
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| Extracurricular Interests | |
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| Be Creative | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Be Each Other's Very Best Friend | |
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| The Importance of Marital Friendship | |
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| What Is Friendship? | |
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| A Friend Is Someone Who Accepts Me As I Am | |
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| A Friend Is Someone I Can Talk To | |
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| A Friend Is Someone I Can Have Fun With | |
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| A Friend Is Someone Who Cares About Me | |
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| A Friend Is Someone I Can Trust | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Focus on the Positive | |
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| The Critical Eye | |
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| Rude Awakening | |
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| Desperate Measures | |
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| Turn Things Around | |
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| Things My Mate Does That Help Me Feel Happy | |
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| The Together Time | |
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| Keep It Alive | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Appreciate the Differences | |
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| Hooray for the Difference! | |
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| We Come Loaded | |
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| Baggage of Your Own | |
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| Cultural Differences | |
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| Gender Differences | |
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| Talking | |
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| Physical Brain Difference | |
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| Men Compartmentalize | |
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| Reasons for Communication | |
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| Judging Distance | |
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| Physical Makeup | |
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| It's Not Cold! | |
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| Male Need for Independence | |
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| What About the Movies? | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Have a Sense of Humor! | |
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| Make a Conscious Decision | |
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| Laugh More Than You Cry | |
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| Little Inside Jokes | |
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| Humor Can Stop an Argument | |
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| Don't Miss the Little Opportunities | |
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| Fun with Money | |
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| When Humor Hurts, It's Not Funny | |
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| Good Humor Is Healing | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Enjoy Sexual Intimacy--Both of You | |
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| How It Used to Be | |
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| Why Is Sex Important? | |
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| Excuses | |
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| Male Pride Gets in the Way | |
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| Women Are Different | |
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| A Woman's Emotional Needs | |
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| A Wife Can Help | |
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| Love Your Mate as She Is | |
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| Set the Stage | |
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| Women Are Easily Distracted | |
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| The Power of Touch | |
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| Why Men Want to Make Love So Often | |
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| What Men Like | |
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| What Women Like | |
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| Never Make Comparisons | |
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| Talk About Your Sexual Relationship | |
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| What Sexual Activities Are Appropriate? | |
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| When Illness Puts a Damper on Sex | |
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| Nursing Mothers | |
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| The Effects of Sexual Trauma | |
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| The Effects of Aging | |
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| A Few Extra Tips | |
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| Books to Read | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Talk to Each Other | |
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| A Place of Safety | |
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| It Ought to Be Easy | |
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| Change of Focus | |
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| The Universal Need | |
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| Principles of Validation | |
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| Rules of Validation | |
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| Questions--The Right Kind | |
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| Operative Words | |
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| Conflict Resolution | |
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| The Three-Pronged Approach | |
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| I Feel-- | |
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| About-- | |
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| I Need-- | |
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| Responding | |
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| The Here and Now | |
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| It Takes Time | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Be Your Mate's Favorite Cheerleader | |
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| A Team Member's Job | |
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| You Win Some, You Lose Some | |
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| Match Wisdom with Opportunity | |
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| Enjoy Your Mate's Talents | |
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| Assist in Educational Opportunities | |
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| Stand Up for Each Other | |
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| The Magic of Approval | |
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| No Place for Jealousy | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Set Your Boundaries | |
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| What Are Boundaries? | |
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| Hologram or Real? | |
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| Boundary-Setting Process | |
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| It May Get Worse Before It Gets Better | |
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| Children Push the Boundaries | |
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| What Is Yours? | |
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| My Family/Your Family | |
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| Boundaries with Children | |
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| Second Marriages (Blended Families) | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Raise Your Kids Together | |
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| Whose Job Is It? | |
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| Playing One Parent Against the Other | |
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| Plan Your Strategies | |
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| Compromise Is Necessary | |
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| Share the Heavy Load | |
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| Stand by Each Other | |
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| Draw on Each Other's Strengths | |
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| Children Want Both Parents | |
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| Blended Family Challenges | |
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| Books to Read | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Manage Your Money in Harmony | |
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| The Need for Money | |
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| Who Earns the Money? | |
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| Where Should the Money Go? | |
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| Imitating Your Parents | |
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| Pool Your Resourses | |
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| Keeping Generosity in Balance | |
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| Build Trust | |
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| Personal Pocket Change | |
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| Don't Spend Your Future | |
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| Those Killer Credit Cards | |
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| I Want That Car! | |
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| A House of Our Own | |
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| Good-bye to Debt | |
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| Fashion on a Shoestring | |
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| Learn from the Millionaires | |
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| Kids Need Mom at Home | |
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| Giving, Cosigning, and Loaning Money | |
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| Secure Your Future | |
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| Tips from the Pros | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Nourish the Spiritual Side of Your Marriage | |
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| Belief in God | |
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| The Need for Prayer | |
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| A Caution | |
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| Attending Religious Services Together | |
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| Music to Soothe the Soul | |
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| Light Up Your Life | |
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| Scripture Reading | |
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| Discover Holiness in Everyday Things | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Hold On Through the Hard Times | |
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| Hard Times Come | |
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| Accept Each Other's Comforting | |
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| Serious Losses | |
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| The Heartache of Having a Disabled Child | |
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| When a Loved One Is in Prison | |
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| The Agony of Addiction | |
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| Unexpected Burdens | |
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| The Illness of a Spouse | |
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| Facing the Death of Your Spouse | |
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| Begin Today | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| The Legacy | |
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| One Step at a Time | |
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| Notes | |
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| Index | |