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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Introducing Your Toolshop Tour Guide | |
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| Touring The Parent's Toolshop | |
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| Another Parenting Book? | |
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| What The Parent's Toolshop Does | |
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| The Universal Blueprint | |
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| Suggestions for Use | |
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| Prevention Toolbox | |
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| Foundation-Building Toolset | |
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| Establishing a Common Language | |
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| What Are Our Parenting Goals? | |
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| Parenting Styles | |
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| Parenting as a Team | |
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| Attitude Adjustment Tools | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Detailed Answers | |
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| The Universal Blueprint | |
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| Balancing Logic and Emotion | |
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| Types of Problems | |
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| The Universal Response Formula | |
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| Identifying Problem Types | |
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| Tips for Tots to Teens | |
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| Nobody Said Parenting Was Easy | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Detailed Answers | |
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| Self-Esteem Toolset | |
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| What Is Self-Esteem? | |
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| Encouragement Versus Praise | |
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| Self-Esteem Tools | |
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| Is Praise Ever Okay? | |
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| Encourage Yourself | |
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| Important Points About Encouragement | |
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| The Language of Encouragement | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Possible Answers | |
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| Cooperation Toolset | |
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| The Difference Between Cooperation and Obedience | |
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| Cooperation Tools | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Possible Answers | |
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| Independence Toolset | |
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| The Balance of Independence | |
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| Developing Responsibility | |
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| Independence Tools | |
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| Tips for Tots to Teens | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Possible Answers | |
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| Child Problem Toolbox | |
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| Taking over Child Problems | |
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| F-A-X Listening Toolset | |
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| Peeling Onions | |
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| Fax Communication | |
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| Problem-Solving Styles | |
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| Communication Barriers | |
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| F-A-X Listening | |
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| Step B1: Focus on Feelings | |
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| Tips for Tots and Teens | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Possible Answers | |
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| Problem-Solving Toolset | |
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| Step B2: Ask Helpful Questions | |
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| Step B3: X-amine Possible Solutions | |
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| When to Move from Step to Step | |
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| Variations of Problem Solving | |
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| Use a Problem-Solving Worksheet | |
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| Common Child Problems | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Possible Answers | |
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| Parent Problem Toolbox | |
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| Where We Are in the Universal Blueprint | |
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| Keep Your Cool Toolset | |
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| What Is Anger? | |
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| Steps of Constructive Anger/Stress Management | |
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| Resistance to Change | |
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| Dealing with Others' Anger and Stress | |
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| Practice-Use an Anger Log | |
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| Clear Communication Toolset | |
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| Styles of Communication | |
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| Nonverbal Communication | |
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| Clear Communication Tools | |
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| Tips for Tots and Teens | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Possible Answers | |
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| PU Toolset (Unintentional Misbehavior) | |
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| Identifying PU Problems | |
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| Using the Universal Blueprint | |
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| Step C2: Redirecting PU Behavior | |
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| Common PU Behaviors | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Detailed Answers | |
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| PO Toolset ("On Purpose" Misbehavior) | |
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| Identifying PO Problems | |
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| The Importance of the Universal Blueprint | |
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| PO Tools | |
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| The Four Types of PO Behavior | |
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| Important Points to Remember | |
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| PO Combination Problems | |
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| The Goals of Adult Misbehavior | |
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| Lying | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Detailed Answers | |
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| Discipline Toolset | |
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| The Difference Between Punishment and Discipline | |
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| Long-Term Consequences of Punishment | |
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| Discipline Tools | |
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| Using the Decision-Making Worksheet | |
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| Practice Exercises | |
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| Detailed Answers | |
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| Maintenance Toolbox | |
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| Family Council Toolset | |
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| The Purpose of Family Councils | |
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| The Benefits of Family Councils | |
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| Family Council Roles | |
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| Format Options | |
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| Getting Started--The First Few Meetings | |
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| Family Councils Use All the Tools | |
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| Family Council Trouble-Shooting Guide | |
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| Agenda/Activity Ideas | |
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| Practice | |
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| Detailed Answers | |
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| Three C's: Consistency, Criticism, Confidence | |
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| Increasing Consistency | |
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| Handling Criticism and Unhelpful Advice | |
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| Practice | |
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| Possible Answers | |
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| Maintaining Your Confidence | |
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| Closing | |
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| Appendix | |
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| Glossary of Terms | |
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| Index | |