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Foreword | |
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Preface | |
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Acknowledgments | |
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Note to the Reader | |
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Insights into Alcoholism and Other Drug Addictions | |
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Love First | |
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What Does It Take to Get an Alcoholic or Addict to Accept Help? | |
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Are You Barking Up the Wrong Tree? | |
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When You and the Alcoholic Are Speaking Different Languages | |
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When Keeping You Off Balance Is a Good Thing for an Alcoholic or Addict | |
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What Science Has Learned about the Genetics of Addiction | |
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The Addicted Brain | |
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Eleven Misconceptions about Chemical Dependency | |
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Understanding Family Responses | |
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Good Intentions Can Take You Down the Wrong Road | |
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Combine Love with Denial and You Have Innocent Enabling | |
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Combine Reality with Fear and You Have Desperate Enabling | |
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What Are the "Rewards" of Enabling? | |
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Detachment: A New Recipe | |
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Are You Seeing the Addict as a Bad Person or as a Sick Person? | |
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Using the Power of the Group | |
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Preparing for an Intervention | |
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Building a Team | |
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A Few Things to Consider before Picking Up the Phone | |
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Involving Doctors and Other Professionals | |
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Involving the Workplace | |
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Finalizing Your Team | |
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Becoming Aware of the Influence of the Group | |
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Understanding the Role of Leverage | |
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What Do You Need to Know? | |
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Using the Planner | |
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Keeping Tabs on Your Progress | |
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Calling Treatment Centers and Asking Questions | |
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Choosing a Date and Time | |
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Choosing a Place | |
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Selecting a Chairperson | |
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Do You Need a Professional Interventionist? | |
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Choosing Inpatient over Outpatient Treatment | |
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Finding Low-Cost or No-Cost Treatment | |
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Writing a Letter to Your Addicted Loved One | |
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Letters Written for Real Interventions | |
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Your Bottom Line | |
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The Intervention | |
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Listing Possible Objections and Your Answers | |
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Rehearsing the Intervention | |
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Some Thoughts for Intervention Day | |
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Notes for the Chairperson | |
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Making Team Decisions | |
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Intervening on an Adolescent | |
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Intervening on Someone Over Age Fifty-five | |
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What an Intervention Looks Like | |
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Intervention: A Portrayal | |
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A Different Ending | |
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Helping without a Family Intervention | |
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Executive-Style Intervention | |
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After the Intervention | |
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Talking to People Who Did Not Take Part in the Intervention | |
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Sending Your Intervention Letters to the Counselor | |
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Understanding What Goes On during Treatment | |
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Preparing for Objections during Treatment | |
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Supporting the Alcoholic or Addict during Treatment | |
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Your First Al-Anon Meeting | |
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A Few Words about Alcoholics Anonymous | |
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Preparing for the Possibility of Relapse | |
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Using Family Intervention for Other Problems | |
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An Instrument of Love | |
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Tools and Resources | |
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Tools | |
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Building a Team | |
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The Planner | |
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The Checklist | |
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Enabling Behaviors | |
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Evaluating Treatment Centers | |
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Objections and Answers | |
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Bottom Lines | |
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Family and Friends Commitment Statement | |
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Self-Quizzes | |
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Quiz: Is a Family Member Chemically Dependent? | |
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Quiz: Signs of Alcoholism and Drug Abuse in Older People | |
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Quiz: Is Our Teen Chemically Dependent? | |
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Quiz: Signs of Inhalant Use in Our Teen | |
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Quiz: Are You Troubled by Someone's Drinking? | |
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The Jellinek Curve | |
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Resources | |
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Web Sites | |
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Books and Publications | |
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Twelve Step Organizations | |
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Alcohol and Drug Treatment Centers | |
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Low-Cost Alcohol and Drug Treatment Centers | |
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Alcohol and Drug Treatment Centers for Special Populations | |
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Help Lines | |
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Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous | |
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Index | |
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About the Authors | |