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| Illustrations | |
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| Preface to the Second Edition | |
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| Introduction | |
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| Welcome | |
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| Desire and Fantasy | |
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| What's Your Fetish? | |
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| Run Wild | |
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| Make Your Dreams Come True | |
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| Nurture Your Libido | |
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| Sex + Intimacy | |
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| Fantasy | |
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| Lesbian Porn | |
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| Anatomy and Sexual Response | |
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| Anatomy | |
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| Sexual Response | |
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| Sexual Response over a Lifetime | |
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| Orgasm | |
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| This Is Taking Too Long | |
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| If You Can't Have an Orgasm | |
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| Does Viagra Work for Women? | |
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| How Do You Come? | |
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| Getting Her Off | |
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| Multiple Orgasms | |
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| Tantra and Extended Orgasms | |
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| Ejaculation | |
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| The Road to Heaven Leads to You | |
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| A Love/Hate Relationship | |
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| Take a Good Look | |
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| Appreciate Yourself | |
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| Take It In | |
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| Join the Crowd | |
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| Get Into Your Body | |
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| Somatic Healing | |
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| You Are What You Eat | |
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| Get a Pelvic Exam | |
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| Safer Sex, Please | |
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| Be Present | |
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| Life Changes | |
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| Masturbation | |
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| What Will Masturbation Do for You? | |
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| The Masturbation Workshop Adventure | |
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| Teach Yourself Some New Tricks | |
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| How-To's of Masturbation | |
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| Solo Toys | |
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| Erotica and Fantasy | |
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| How-To's of Orgasm | |
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| Masturbating with a Partner | |
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| Communication and Finding Sex Partners | |
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| Geography, Not Destiny | |
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| Talk Talk Talk | |
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| Tongue-Tied? | |
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| Who Are You Looking For? | |
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| Making Your Move | |
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| "No, Thank You" | |
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| Personal Ads in Newspapers and Magazines | |
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| Sex on the Internet | |
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| Play Safe | |
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| Sex Parties | |
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| Sex Talk Guidelines | |
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| Where to Learn More | |
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| Sex and Partnership | |
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| Erotic Intimacy | |
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| What Kind of Sex Life Do You Want, Anyway? | |
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| What Kind of Partnership Do You Want? | |
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| You Make It Happen | |
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| What's Holding You Back? | |
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| Low Libido High Libido One Libido No Libido | |
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| What? No Sex? | |
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| Find Your Passion | |
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| Sexual Community | |
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| Keep It Happening | |
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| Breast Play | |
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| Sensitivity | |
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| Teach Your Partner | |
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| How-To's of Breast Play | |
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| Nipple Piercings | |
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| Toys for Breast Play | |
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| Clitoral Play | |
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| The Art of the Hand | |
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| Take a Tour | |
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| What If Your Hand Gets Tired? | |
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| Frottage | |
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| How-To's of Clitoral Stimulation | |
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| Genital Piercings | |
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| Genital Shaving | |
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| How-To's of Genital Shaving | |
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| Toys for Clitoral Play | |
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| Clitoral Play-Safely | |
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| Where to Learn More | |
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| Oral Sex | |
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| Cunnilingus | |
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| Going Down on Your Girl | |
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| How-To's of Cunnilingus | |
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| Analingus | |
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| How-To's of Analingus | |
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| Positions for Oral Sex | |
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| What a Pain in the Neck! | |
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| (Detachable) Cocksucking | |
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| How to Suck (Detachable) Cock | |
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| Oral Sex-Safely | |
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| So What's a Girl to Do? | |
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| Vaginal Penetration | |
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| Take a Tour | |
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| Finger-Fucking | |
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| Vaginal Fisting | |
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| Strap-On Dildos | |
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| How-To's of Vaginal Penetration | |
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| Positions for Vaginal Penetration | |
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| Toys for Vaginal Play | |
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| Vaginal Penetration-Safely | |
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| Where to Learn More | |
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| Anal Penetration | |
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| Take a Tour | |
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| Basic Preparations | |
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| Finger-Fucking | |
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| Anal Fisting | |
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| Strap-On Dildos | |
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| How-To's of Anal Penetration | |
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| Positions for Anal Penetration | |
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| Toys for Anal Penetration | |
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| Anal Penetration-Safely | |
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| Where to Learn More | |
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| Gender (Not Destiny) | |
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| What Is Gender? | |
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| Intersexuality | |
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| Transgender and Transsexual | |
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| Partners of Transgendered Women and Men | |
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| Sexual Orientation | |
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| Playing with the Boys | |
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| Butch/Femme | |
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| Play Nice! (...or Else) | |
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| Ouch!!! (Yum...) | |
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| Negotiation | |
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| Creating the S/M Scene: Ritual and Theater | |
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| Pushing the Emotional Edges | |
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| Teach Yourself Some New Tricks | |
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| How Do You Know What You Want? | |
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| Toys for BDSM Play | |
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| That Sounds Dangerous! | |
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| BDSM Play-Safely | |
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| Where to Learn More | |
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| Play Parties and Public Sex | |
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| Commercial Sex | |
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| Play Parties | |
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| How to Have Fun at a Sex Party | |
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| Where to Find Play Parties | |
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| Play Party Etiquette | |
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| How to Throw a Safer-Sex Party | |
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| Sex Toys and Accoutrements | |
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| How to Choose Sex Toys | |
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| Got Your Lube? | |
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| Got Your Safer-Sex Supplies? | |
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| Does Latex Make You Itch? | |
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| How's Your Budget? | |
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| How to Care for Your Toys | |
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| Safer Sex and Gynecological Health | |
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| Talking to Your Doctor About Sex | |
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| Gynecological Care | |
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| STDs and Gynecological Concerns | |
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| What If Your Partner Won't Use Barriers? | |
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| What If You Have an STD? | |
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| Bibliography | |
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| Resources | |
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| Notes | |
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| Index | |
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| About the Author | |