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| Foreword | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Introduction | |
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| A Paradigm Shift: Increasing the Focus on Your Child's Emotional Development | |
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| Purpose of This Book | |
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| Definition of Terms | |
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| Attachment Matters | |
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| Setting the Scene: Reconnecting with the Natural Instinct for Attachment | |
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| Attachment Defined | |
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| The History of Attachment Theory | |
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| Organized Attachment Styles | |
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| Disorganized Attachment | |
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| Comparing Organized and Disorganized Attachment | |
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| Internal Working Models: We All Have Early Childhood Experiences | |
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| Attachment Categories over Time | |
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| What Secure Children Learn | |
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| What Insecure-Avoidant and -Ambivalent Children Learn | |
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| What Disorganized Children Learn | |
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| Temperament and Attachment | |
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| You Don't Have to Parent the Way You Were Parented | |
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| Parents Need to Be Good Enough, Not Perfect | |
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| In a Nutshell: Attachment Security Is Built with Parental Attunement and Sensitivity | |
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| What's Behind the Face | |
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| Setting the Scene: Visualizing the Interior World of the Brain | |
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| Entrainment: Synchronizing Two Systems | |
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| Shaping Your Baby's Brain | |
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| Two Brains Meet: Nonverbal Communication Between You and Your Baby | |
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| Shifting to the Right: Making Time to Tune In to Your Child | |
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| Helping Your Child Pass Through the Survival Gates | |
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| Building Regulated Brains: How Parents Help | |
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| Emotional Regulation and Dysregulation: Case Examples | |
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| Wiring Optimal Arousal Ranges into the Autonomic Nervous System | |
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| In a Nutshell: Regulate Negative Emotions While Enhancing Positive Emotions | |
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| Crossing into a New Ocean: Pregnancy, Birth, and the Newborn Period | |
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| Setting the Scene: The Transition to Parenthood | |
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| Marriages, Commitments, and Other Necessary Ingredients | |
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| It Really Does Take a Village: Your Support System | |
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| Work Absorption: Balancing Home and Work | |
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| Building Your Family Infrastructure: Expect Change | |
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| Pregnancy | |
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| Fetal Movement | |
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| Approaching the Birth | |
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| The New Ocean: After Your Baby Is Born | |
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| The Newborn Period | |
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| Keys to Attachment | |
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| In a Nutshell: Take Care of Yourselves | |
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| We're Still Breathing! The Two-Month-Old | |
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| Setting the Scene: Jordan's Need for Contact | |
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| Developmental Milestones: Building Connection as Your Baby Grows | |
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| Cultivating Secure Attachment in the Two-Month-Old | |
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| Play and Attachment in the Two-Month-Old | |
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| Parent Focus: Reentering the Adult World | |
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| Living in the Charm: Pippa's Response to Her New Three-Month-Old Cousin | |
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| There Is Someone in There! The Four-Month-Old | |
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| Setting the Scene: China's Need for Predictable Interactions | |
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| Developmental Milestones: Building Connection as Your Baby Grows | |
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| Cultivating Secure Attachment in the Four-Month-Old | |
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| Play and Attachment in the Four-Month-Old | |
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| Parent Focus: Celebrations | |
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| Living in the Charm: Daniel's Attempt to Help | |
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| Knowing the Clan: The Six-Month-Old | |
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| Setting the Scene: Corey and His Young Mother | |
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| Developmental Milestones: Building Connection as Your Baby Grows | |
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| Cultivating Secure Attachment in the Six-Month-Old | |
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| Play and Attachment in the Six-Month-Old | |
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| Parent Focus: A Night Off | |
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| Living in the Charm: Randy's Gift from Heaven | |
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| There's a Stranger Amongst Us! The Nine-Month-Old | |
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| Setting the Scene: Amy's Struggle for Exploration | |
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| Developmental Milestones: Building Connection as Your Baby Grows | |
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| Cultivating Secure Attachment in the Nine-Month-Old | |
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| Play and Attachment in the Nine-Month-Old | |
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| Parent Focus: Family Vacations | |
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| Living in the Charm: Kara Finds Her Beat! | |
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| Free at Last: The Twelve-Month-Old | |
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| Setting the Scene: Max's Attempts to Take Care of His Mother | |
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| Developmental Milestones: Building Connection as Your Baby Grows | |
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| Cultivating Secure Attachment in the Twelve-Month-Old | |
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| Play and Attachment in the Twelve-Month-Old | |
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| Parent Focus: A Day at the Amusement Park | |
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| Living in the Charm: August's Social Protocol | |
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| I Think, Therefore I Am: The Eighteen-Month-Old | |
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| Setting the Scene: Morgan's Terror | |
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| Developmental Milestones: Building Connection as Your Toddler Grows | |
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| Cultivating Secure Attachment in the Eighteen-Month-Old | |
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| Play and Attachment in the Eighteen-Month-Old | |
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| Parent Focus: A Single Dad at Play | |
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| Living in the Charm: Owen's Learning How to Count | |
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| Where Did He Hear That Word? The Two-Year-Old | |
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| Setting the Scene: Cohen's Struggle with His Mother | |
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| Developmental Milestones: Building Connection as Your Toddler Grows | |
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| Cultivating Secure Attachment in the Two-Year-Old | |
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| Play and Attachment in the Two-Year-Old | |
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| Parent Focus: A Day at the Spa | |
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| Living in the Charm: Tess's Push Back | |
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| Shifting to the Left: The Three-Year-Old | |
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| Setting the Scene: Kierra's Working for Attention | |
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| Developmental Milestones: Building Connection as Your Preschooler Grows | |
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| Cultivating Secure Attachment in the Three-Year-Old | |
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| Play and Attachment in the Three-Year-Old | |
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| Parent Focus: Floor Time for Dad | |
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| Living in the Charm: Valerie's Perplexity | |
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| I Can Do It Myself: The Four-Year-Old | |
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| Setting the Scene: Dennis's Need for Unstructured Time | |
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| Developmental Milestones: Building Connection as Your Preschooler Grows | |
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| Cultivating Secure Attachment in the Four-Year-Old | |
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| Play and Attachment in the Four-Year-Old | |
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| Parent Focus: Health-Conscious Parents | |
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| Living in the Charm: Jack's Curiosity | |
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| Baby on the Go | |
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| Child Care Research | |
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| Quality of Child Care | |
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| More Options Are Needed | |
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| Family and Medical Leave Act | |
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| In Parting: Attachment Matters | |
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| References | |