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I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye Surviving, Coping and Healing after the Sudden Death of a Loved One

ISBN-10: 1402212216

ISBN-13: 9781402212215

Edition: 2008

Authors: Brook Noel, Pamela D. Blair

List price: $17.99
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This updated edition of the best-selling bereavement classic (more than 75,000 copies in print) explores tragic and sudden loss, authored by two women who have lost someone firsthand. Featured on ABC World News, Fox and Friends and many other shows, this book acts as a touchstone of sanity through difficult times. I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye covers such difficult topics as the first few weeks, suicide, death of a child, children and grief, funerals and rituals, physical effects, homicide and depression. With new material covering the unique circumstances of loss, men and women's grieving styles, religion and faith, myths and misunderstandings, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye reflects the shifting face of grief. Each year about eight million Americans suffer the death of a close family member. Such incomprehensible loss must be dealt with daily-for those who face the challenges of a sudden death, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye can be a comforting hand to hold.
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Book details

List price: $17.99
Copyright year: 2008
Publisher: Sourcebooks, Incorporated
Publication date: 5/1/2008
Binding: Paperback
Pages: 336
Size: 5.75" wide x 8.75" long x 0.50" tall
Weight: 1.298
Language: English

Brook Noel is a CEO, author, speaker, and mom. She has been featured in hundreds of shows and magazines, including ABC World News, CNN Headline News, and Fox & Friends. She is the author of Good Morning, I Wasn#39;t Ready to Say Goodbye, The Change Your Life Challenge, and other books. She lives in Wisconsin.

Blair, PhD, is a holistic psychotherapist, spiritual counselor, and personal coach with a private practice. She has written for numerous magazines, appeared on radio and television talk shows, and co-authored a bestselling book on grief entitled I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye. She lives in Shelburne, VT. Visit her online at www.pamblair.com.

Introduction
An Unfamiliar World: The Journey into Grief
The Starting Point: Notes from the Austhors Pam's Story Brook's Story Sudden Loss Comes Again
Notes for the First Few Weeks
Treat Yourself as if You Were in Intensive Care Expect to Be Distracted
Have Someone Near You Accept the Help of Friends Caring for Your Children
Someone to Take Calls and Check Email Seek Assistance with Final Arrangements Don't Worry about Contacting People
Let Your Body Lead You Religious Traditions Wills and Arrangements Cultural
Differences Going Back to Work Grief Sessions A Guide for Those Helping Others with Grief
Understanding the Emotional and Physical Effects of Grief Exhaustion
Days of Distraction Denying Our New Reality Anger . . . a Normal Response Grief Knows No Schedule Physical Symptoms
Emotional Ambushes Grief and Dreams
If You Don't Dream If You Do Dream
Important Things to Remember on the Pathway Feeling the Presence of the Deceased
When You Don't Feel the Presence of the Deceased Communicating with Your Loved One (and If You Haven't)
The World Becomes Dreamlike
A Time to Withdraw Hurtful Self-talk Impulsive Living Instant Replays and Obsessive Thoughts The "If Only" Mind Game Fear
Myths and Misunderstandings of the Grieving Process Myth
Death is death, sudden or long-term, and we all grieve the same way Myth
By keeping busy I can lessen or eliminate my grief. Myth
I must be going crazy or "losing it." Myth
I will need to make sure I don't grieve for too long - one year should be enough Myth
If I express my anger at God or the circumstances of thedeath, I am a bad person and will "pay" for it. Myth
My friends tell me it is time to let go. Since others haveacclimated to life again, I should too Myth
I must wear black for a designated time period or I willdishonor the person who died Myth
I won't have to grieve as much and I will feel better if Iuse alcohol or medication to alleviate my sadness Myth
If I talk about the loss of my loved one I'll feel worse Myth
Shouldn't I be strong enough to "tough it out" by myself? Myth
I've done something wrong because some of my family and friends are turning away from me Myth
I should be relieved that they didn't suffer a long and lingering illness Myth
Someday I'll have another (spouse, child, parent, lover...) and that person will erase the pain and replace what I have lost. Myth
Once I am done with one stage of grief, I will simply move on to the next Myth
If I relive the good times, I'll stay stuck in the pain Myth
Children really don't understand death and probably don't need to be included in the funeral plans or memorial services Myth
To properly honor the deceased, I must have the standard wake and burial Myth
I am scared that if I grieve, I'll "get over my loss." I don't want to forget him! Myth
Help, I'm stuck on instant replay. I can't get this out of my thoughts - something is wrong with me Myth
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