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Acknowledgments | |
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Introduction: What's Happening to My Life? | |
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My Story | |
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What You Can Expect from This Book | |
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Examining Our Issues | |
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Prompts to Start Planning | |
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Responses from the Group | |
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Organizing Answers and Choosing Discussion Topics | |
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Things I Want to Say but Don't Expect a Response To | |
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Things I Want to Say but Won't, Because It Won't Make a Difference | |
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Things I Want to Say but Should Only Share with a Friend | |
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Things I Really Need to Talk About, Know About, Have Resolved, or Make a Decision About | |
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Communication Tools 101 (or Shall I Say, 9-1-1) | |
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Keep Your Viewpoint While Your Husband and Others Keep Theirs, Yet Still Get What You Want | |
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Change a Person's Behavior, Whether or Not They Change Their Opinion | |
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Changing Your Behavior May Make It Unnecessary for Other People to Change Theirs | |
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Encouraging Your Husband to Say More | |
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Pitfalls to Avoid | |
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Speaking His Language | |
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Summary of Communication Tools | |
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Talk Your Way to Understandings | |
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What If He Refuses to Meet? | |
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What If I Refuse to Meet? | |
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The Setting for Your Discussion | |
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Preparing for the Discussion | |
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The Discussion | |
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Closing the Discussion and Creating Understandings | |
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Sample Understandings | |
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Comprehending Our Emotions-Life in the Guilt Factory | |
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The Big C | |
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Emotional Fine-Line Issues | |
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The Stress of Living Grief | |
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Sometimes Our Emotions Surprise Us | |
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I'm So Tired of Being the "Man"! | |
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Emotions and Words | |
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My Way Versus His Way | |
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Ultimately It Is His Disease | |
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Practical Issues | |
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Practical Fine-Line Issues | |
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Social and Familial issues | |
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Whose Business Is It, Anyway? | |
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Everyone Has an Opinion | |
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The Hottest Button | |
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When Someone Asks | |
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Public Face with Private Pain | |
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Visitors and Privacy | |
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Ceremonies and Services | |
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Self-Care | |
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Manufacture Time | |
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Stop Energy Drains | |
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The Delicate Topics-Love, Sex, Intimacy, and Affairs | |
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Staying Awake When Trauma Becomes Normal | |
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"Sometimes a Cigar Is Just a Cigar" | |
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Health Lessons I Learned from My Husband | |
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50 Do's and Don'ts | |
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Decisions, Transitions, and Discoveries | |
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Resources | |
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Index | |