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Acknowledgments | |
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Preface | |
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Introduction | |
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Recognizing Abusive Behavior | |
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Identifying Abuse | |
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Patterns of Domination and Control | |
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The Domestic Violence Cycle | |
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Types of Abuse | |
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Emotional Abuse | |
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Patterns of Emotional Abuse | |
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Emotional Abuse Inventory | |
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Physical Abuse | |
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Patterns of Physical Abuse | |
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Physical Abuse Inventory | |
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Sexual Abuse | |
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Patterns of Sexual Abuse | |
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Rape | |
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Incest and Other Sexual Abuse of Children | |
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Sexual Abuse Inventory | |
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Social Abuse | |
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Patterns of Social Abuse | |
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Social Abuse Inventory | |
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Financial Abuse | |
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Patterns of Financial Abuse | |
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Financial Abuse Inventory | |
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Religious and Spiritual Abuse | |
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Patterns of Spiritual Abuse | |
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The Misuse of Religious Doctrine | |
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Religious and Spiritual Abuse Inventory | |
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Learning About Abusers and Victims | |
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Recognizing Abusers | |
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Characteristics and Attitudes of Abusers | |
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Female Abusers | |
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Abuser Inventory | |
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Recognizing Danger Signals | |
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Indicators of Potentially Dangerous Behavior | |
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Potential Danger Inventory | |
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Victims of Abuse | |
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Myths About Victims of Abuse | |
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Why Victims Stay in or Return to Abusive Relationships | |
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Victim Dependencies | |
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Mutual Dependency | |
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Examining Your Reasons for Staying in or Returning to an Abusive Relationship | |
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Specific Victim Circumstances and Concerns | |
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Abusers with Money, Influence, and Power | |
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Cultural Concerns | |
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Male Abuse Victims | |
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Victims in Rural Areas | |
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Same-Sex Partners | |
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Victims with Disabilities | |
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Abuse During Pregnancy | |
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Abuse at Different Ages | |
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Abuse of Children | |
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Adolescents, Teenagers, and Dating Violence | |
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Abuse of Seniors | |
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Preparing for Emergencies | |
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Violent Crisis and Emergency Situations | |
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Emergency Plans and Safety Plans | |
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If You Leave Home During a Crisis | |
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Remaining at Home | |
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Taking Care of Children in a Crisis | |
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Avoiding Child Abduction | |
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Hostage Taking | |
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Stalking | |
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The Legal Process | |
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Civil and Criminal Courts and Protective Orders | |
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Protective Orders | |
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Criminal Court Procedures | |
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Victim-Related Court Concerns | |
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Mediation | |
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Court Advocates | |
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Attorneys | |
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Federal Laws and Civil Lawsuits | |
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Getting Help After a Crisis | |
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Getting Help Immediately After a Crisis | |
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Medical Attention and Evidence | |
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Support from Family and Friends | |
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Community Resources and Shelters | |
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Getting Help for the Longer Term | |
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From Victim to Survivor | |
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Keeping Safe After a Crisis | |
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Money Matters | |
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Immigration Help | |
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Work Issues | |
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Transportation Issues | |
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Making the Decision to Stay or Leave | |
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Evaluating Your Relationship | |
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The Examination Process | |
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Restricting Abuser Communication | |
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Abuser Assessment | |
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Effects on Children | |
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Assessing the Impact on You | |
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Examination Do's and Don'ts | |
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Evaluation Questions for Victims of Abuse | |
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Planning for Change | |
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Forming Realistic Expectations | |
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Building Alternatives to Abuse | |
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Making Goals and Plans | |
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Rebuilding Your Sense of Self | |
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Establishing Nonabusive Boundaries | |
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Taking Action | |
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Taking Action | |
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The Decision to Stay or to Leave | |
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Learning to Heal and Rebuild | |
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Healing and Rebuilding | |
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Grief and Abuse | |
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After Grief | |
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Healing Strategies | |
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Long-Term Rebuilding and Restoration Strategies | |
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Counseling After Abuse | |
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Why Seek Counseling? | |
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Choosing a Counselor | |
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Programs for Abusers | |
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Couples Counseling | |
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Depression | |
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Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) | |
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Remaining Abuse-Free | |
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Precautions for Your Protection | |
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General Safety Precautions | |
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New Dates and Acquaintances | |
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New Relationships | |
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Precautions for Seniors | |
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Rape Safeguards | |
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Safeguards to Avoid Child Abduction | |
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Maintaining Your Life Free from Abuse | |
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Establish and Maintain Financial Security | |
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Know Your Legal Rights | |
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Maintain Healthy Personal Behaviors | |
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Maintain Individual Interests and Relationships | |
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Teach Your Children Nonabusive Behavior | |
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Welcoming a Life Without Abuse | |
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A Heritage of Violence | |
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Collaborating in Your Community | |
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A Victim's Bill of Rights | |
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Resources | |
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Notes | |