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| As Christians Care for Elderly Parents | |
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| The Crucible of Caring | |
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| Who are the caregivers of the elderly? | |
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| What do they do? | |
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| Emotional issues of caregiving | |
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| Sources of stress for the caregiver | |
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| Stress and the issue of who is in control | |
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| You Can't "Fix" Old Age | |
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| The tasks of aging: adjusting to losses; achieving integrity; modeling love | |
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| Getting beyond the stereotypes | |
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| Independence, dependence, or interdependence - what does the Bible teach? | |
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| How caregivers can help: understanding and acceptance | |
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| The Skills of Active Loving | |
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| Don't react; act | |
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| Minister to aging parents by active listening, nonverbal touching, giving positive reinforcement, encouraging life review | |
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| Is Self-Preservation Wrong? | |
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| Scriptural self-care: admit your needs; ask for help; learn to set limits and to let go; nurture yourself | |
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| How support groups can help | |
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| Deliverance from the Captivity of the Past | |
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| How "unfinished business" with parents and siblings prevents effective caregiving | |
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| Recognizing that you're grieving | |
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| Sibling rivalry | |
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| Healing old hurts | |
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| Forgiveness | |
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| Counting the Cost of Caregiving | |
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| The strain of caregiving on marriages | |
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| Being fair to your spouse and children | |
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| The care of in-laws | |
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| Retirement problems | |
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| Step families and grandchildren | |
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| Love and Money | |
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| Family communciation about financial concerns | |
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| It's expensive to be old | |
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| Keeping records | |
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| Wills and trusts | |
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| Financial victimization of the elderly | |
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| Durable power of attorney and guardianship | |
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| Where to Find the Help You Need | |
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| Adapting the home for "aging in place." | |
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| Community services | |
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| Sources of financial assistance with housing and health costs | |
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| Insurance | |
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| Care at a distance | |
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| Hiring help and monitoring care | |
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| How churches can help | |
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| Where Can Your Parent Live? | |
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| Group homes and shared housing | |
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| Continuing care retirement communities | |
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| Life-care communities | |
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| Board-and-care homes | |
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| Should your parent move in with you? | |
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| Coping with the Health Problems of Aging | |
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| Chronic illnesses in a health care system not geared to handle them | |
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| Your parent's doctor: how to choose and work with one | |
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| Drugs and the aging body | |
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| Understanding and living with Alzheimer's disease and other dementias, arthritis, bronchitis/emphysema, high blood pressure, cancer, diabetes, heart disease and strokes, osteoporosis, Parkinson's disease | |
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| Hospitalization of the elderly | |
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| Spiritual needs during illness | |
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| When Your Parent Must Be in a Nursing Home | |
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| Positive aspects of nursing home care | |
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| Adjustment process | |
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| Monitoring nursing home care; the need for vigilance | |
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| Choosing a nursing home | |
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| Patients' rights | |
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| Family councils | |
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| Meeting the challenges | |
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| Making visits more enjoyable | |
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| Walking Through the Valley of the Shadow of Death | |
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| What is a "good death"? | |
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| The stages of dying | |
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| Caregivers' emotions | |
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| Death in an acute care hospital versus death at home | |
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| The role of hospices | |
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| Euthanasia | |
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| Ethical dilemmas | |
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| The grieving process | |
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| Afterword to the Reader | |
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| Walking toward the light | |
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| What kind of an old person will you be? | |
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| What caregivers have learned from their experiences | |
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| Appendix | |
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| Admissions Agreement | |
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| Living Will | |
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| Index | |