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| Foreword | |
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| Preface | |
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| Facing Reality | |
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| "It Doesn't Happen Here!" | |
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| When Appropriate Training Has Not Occurred | |
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| The Importance of Collaboration | |
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| Why Do Victims-Survivors Remain with Their Offenders? | |
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| Why Are Most Abusers Male? | |
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| Rationalization for Violent Behavior | |
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| Intimate Partner Violence in GLBT Communities | |
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| Effects of Economic Downturn on Domestic Violence | |
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| Separating Fact from Myth | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Questions for Discussion | |
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| Preparing to Serve | |
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| A Survivor and Her Pastor Reflect | |
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| Why Domestic Violence Awareness Training Is Essential | |
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| Domestic Violence Awareness Training: Sample of an Eight-Hour Session | |
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| Why Partnerships Are Essential | |
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| Final Preparation | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Questions for Discussion | |
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| Once an Abuser, Always an Abuser? A Further Exploration | |
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| Edgar's Story, Spring 1998 | |
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| Edgar's Reflections, Spring 2010 | |
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| Tactics Used by Batterers | |
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| Can Abusive Men Change? | |
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| Providing Pastoral Care to Batterers | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Questions for Discussion | |
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| When the Abuser Is a Male Spiritual Leader | |
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| Alison's Story | |
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| Joyce's Story | |
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| Hope's Story | |
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| What Can Be Learned from These Stories? | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Questions for Discussion | |
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| Thorny Still: The Question of Forgiveness | |
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| Complexities of Forgiveness | |
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| What Is Forgiveness-and What Is It Not? | |
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| Forgiveness: Perspectives from Two Survivors | |
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| Forgiveness: After the Abuse | |
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| How Spiritual Leaders Can Help Survivors Struggling with Forgiveness | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Questions for Discussion | |
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| Goals and Best Approaches | |
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| Responding to Victims-Survivors | |
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| Responding to Batterers | |
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| Responding When the Abuser Is a Male Spiritual Leader | |
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| Biblical and Theological Perspectives | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Questions for Discussion | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Checklists | |
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| Selected Resources | |
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| Coalitions | |
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| Notes | |