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| Introduction | |
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| Mostly, Be Pals | |
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| Learn to Laugh at Yourself | |
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| Let It Go Already | |
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| Turn Up the Heat | |
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| Consider That the Grass Probably Isn't Greener | |
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| Throw Away Your Scorecard | |
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| Be Kind First (Kris) | |
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| Don't Use Your Partner as a Punching Bag! | |
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| Ask the Question, "Whose Quirk Is This, Anyway?" (Kris) | |
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| Talk to Him His Way | |
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| Avoid the Words, "I Love You, BUT" | |
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| Fill Your Life with Opportunities to Express Love | |
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| Look for the Gifts | |
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| Mark Your Calendar (Kris) | |
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| Share an Insight | |
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| Stay Away from Ultimatums | |
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| Allow Time for Transitions | |
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| Don't Fight Unless the Mood Is Right | |
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| Know Your Own Value | |
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| Put a Positive Spin on It | |
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| Remember That Your Partner Can't Read Your Mind | |
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| Set a Good Example (Kris) | |
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| Don't Fight over Stupid Things | |
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| Become a World-Class Listener | |
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| Experience a Sudden Shift | |
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| Avoid the "I've Had a Really Hard Day" Habit | |
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| Let Him Buy His Lunch | |
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| Surprise Her with Compliments | |
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| Stop Wishing She (or He) Were Different | |
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| Don't Put Your Partner On the Spot | |
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| Think Before You Speak | |
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| Discover What Part You Are Playing | |
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| Finish the Job | |
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| Think Gentle Thoughts | |
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| Stay Compassionate | |
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| Jump-Start Your Relationship | |
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| Don't Allow Passing Thoughts to Turn into Issues | |
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| Become a Low-Maintenance Partner | |
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| Do It Your Way | |
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| Wake Up and Think about Three Things You Love about Her | |
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| Choose Peace over Irritation | |
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| Don't Sweat the Occasional Criticism | |
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| Stay Playful | |
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| Stop Rehearsing Unhappiness | |
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| Don't Be the Hero of Every Story | |
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| Make the Fresh-Start Commitment | |
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| Avoid Correcting Each Other | |
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| Sit in Silence | |
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| Take Responsibility for Your Own Happiness | |
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| Master the Art of the Heart-to-Heart | |
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| Don't Confuse Your Own Frustration with a Problem in the Relationship | |
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| Stop Being So Defensive | |
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| Be Consistently Grateful | |
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| Don't Fall into the "I've Got Time for Everyone but You" Trap | |
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| Organize a Charitable Project Together | |
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| Ask Yourself the Question, "In the Scheme of Things, Is This Really That Big a Deal?" | |
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| Don't Continue Doing the Same Things and Expect a Different Result | |
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| Respond with Love | |
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| Look in the Mirror | |
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| Allow Your Partner to Be Human | |
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| Make Peace with Change | |
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| Don't Overanalyze the Flaws | |
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| Choose to Be Supportive (Kris) | |
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| Jump Ahead and Look Back | |
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| Remember the Equation: A Happy Person Equals a Happy Partner | |
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| Ask for "Dream Updates" | |
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| Never Underestimate the Power of Love | |
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| Don't Let Your Children Come between You | |
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| Learn to Deflect Occasional Uncalled-for Comments | |
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| Don't Come Home Frazzled | |
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| Ask Your Partner the Question, "What's the Most Difficult Part of Being in a Relationship with Me?" | |
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| Don't Question Her (or His) Motives | |
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| Graciously Receive Compliments | |
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| Let Go of Your Top Three Pet Peeves | |
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| Avoid Absolute Statements (of a Negative Nature) | |
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| Predict the Predictable | |
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| Stop Treating Everything Like an Emergency | |
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| Use Letters as a Communication Tool | |
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| Don't Make Your Partner Walk on Eggshells | |
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| Make a Plan to Become More Loving | |
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| Gracefully Accept Apologies | |
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| Reflect, for a Moment, on All You Don't Do | |
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| Practice Regular Stress Prevention | |
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| Don't Speak for Your Spouse (or Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Fiancee, or Anyone Else)! | |
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| Conspire to Inspire | |
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| Cast Away Jealousy (Kris) | |
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| Allow Your Partner a Few Eccentricities | |
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| Stop Being So Demanding | |
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| When in Doubt, Pause | |
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| Practice Unconditional Love | |
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| Go Ahead and Do It | |
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| Say the Words, "I'm Sorry" | |
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| Stay Away from Comparisons | |
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| Learn from a Teen | |
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| Step Aside from Stubbornness | |
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| Raise Your Standard of Living | |
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| Allow Your Partner the Space to "Lose it" Every Once in a While | |
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| Balance the Act (Kris) | |
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| Remember the Magic | |
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| Treasure Each Other | |