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| Acknowledgements | |
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| An Alternative To Despair | |
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| Self-Hate | |
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| Self-Hate in Process | |
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| How Self-Hate Begins How Self-Hate Is Sustained Consciousness and Unconsciousness in Self-Hate Forms of Self-Hate: Direct Self-Derision Self-Derisive Fantasies Self-Vindictive Criticism Self-Diminution Terrorism Depression Suicide Accident Proneness, Psychosomatic Illness and Dangerous Situations Alcohol, Drugs, Tobacco and Food Use of Painful Memories and Lists of Crimes and Indiscretions Use of Other People Murder Guilt Anticipation and Excessive Inappropriate Worrying Competition and Perfectionism Gambling Postponing DecisionsCheating Oneself of Pleasure Hating Oneself for Hating Oneself Forms of Self-Hate: Indirect Illusions Illusions Involving Self Illusions involving Self and Other People Illusions Involving Self and the Human Condition The Grand Illusion Impossible Standards, Unrealistic Goals, Exorbitant Expectations Boredom Polarization and Superlatives Self-Hate as a Way of Life | |
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| Compassion | |
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| Compassion in Process Origins of Compassion Generating Compassion Forms of Compassion: The Direct Way Forms of Compassion: The Indirect Way Destroying illusions Lowering Standards, Limiting Goals and Reducing Expectations The Move Against Boredom Compassionate Shades of Gray Compassionate Psychophilosophy Compassion as a Way of Life I Am Because I Am! I Am I I Need, I Want, I Choose I Am Where I Am Be Here Now! The Process Is the ProductI Always Do My Best | |
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| Contracts, Consistency, Congruity | |
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| Participation and Performancehe Right to Die and the Right to Live | |
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| Helping to Prevent Self-Destruction | |
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| Life Is Tough | |
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| On Human Terms | |
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| The Destructive Culture | |
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| People, Animals and Ants | |
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| Cowardice, Bravery, Courage and Fear | |
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| Arrogance, Jealousy, Envy, Paranoia and Generosity, Honesty, Openness and Trust | |
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| Prejudice | |
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| Winning, Losing, Striving and Resignation | |
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| Competition, Equality and Fair Play Being Cheated, Helplessness, Dependency and Rejection | |
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| Recognition | |
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| Opportunism | |
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| Acquisitiveness | |
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| Millionaires | |
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| Betrayal | |
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| Snobbism | |
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| Sadism and Masochism | |
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| FoolsLogic, Rationale and Feelings | |
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| Moods | |
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| AngerSadness | |
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| Optimism and Pessimism | |
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| Dreams and Fantasies | |
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| Security and Happiness | |
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| Ideal, Pure, Absolute and Perfect Endurance, Toughness, Fragility Indebtedness Subservience and Passivity Affability and Charm Self-Control, Restlessness, Anxiety and Insomnia Humility Types and Categories Maturity Conforming, Popularity, Mastery and Individuality Involvement and Detachment Reserve and Gregariousness Privacy Temptation and Curiosity Healthy Narcissism Uniqueness and Eccentricity Poets and Artists Abilities Pride and Greatness Problems, Limitations and Compassion Health, Sickness, Pain, Frustration and Patience Aging Surrender and Respite Convalescence Social Roles and Relationships Friendship Sex Homosexuality and Sexual Purity Battle of the Sexes Love and Marriage Parenthood Dependency on ChildrenStatus Quo and Change Work Knowledge and Study Pleasure and Seriousness Decisions Pain and Pain-Killers Alcohol and Tobacco Politicians and Leaders Justice New Beginnings and Continuums The Great Rehearsal Chance and Circumstances Adaptation, Accommodation, Adjustment, Growth and Evolvement Crisis and Disaster Joy Joy: The Reason for Living Joy: Prejudices Against Joy Joy: The Mood and Philosophy | |
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