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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Introduction | |
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| Getting Involved | |
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| Who can benefit from this book? | |
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| Fears and hopes you might have | |
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| You are not alone | |
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| If you have a partner, how to decide what to do during your sexual growth | |
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| Ways to feel encouraged as you progress through the chapters | |
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| Getting to Know Yourself | |
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| The influence of early experiences on your attitudes toward sex | |
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| Your personal sex history and putting it in perspective | |
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| Abusive incidents that may have taken place | |
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| Dealing with concerns about your body | |
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| Where you get standards for appreciating yourself physically | |
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| Visual exploration of your genitals | |
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| Coming to terms with negative feelings and fostering positive feelings about your genitals | |
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| Myths and misconceptions about women's sexuality | |
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| Exploration Through Touch | |
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| Exploring the textures of your entire body | |
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| Dealing with uncomfortable feelings | |
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| Relaxation exercises | |
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| The G-spot and you | |
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| Strengthening your vaginal muscles | |
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| Touching for Pleasure: Discovery | |
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| Claiming your body as your own | |
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| A new way to look at masturbation | |
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| What does giving yourself pleasure mean to you? | |
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| Exploring your body for feelings of pleasure | |
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| Some ideas to try | |
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| Cognitive therapy techniques | |
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| Putting pressure on yourself, and the tendency to become a spectator | |
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| Touching for Pleasure: Focusing | |
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| Continuing exploration through touch | |
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| Difficulties you might experience | |
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| Ways to focus and increase your arousal and pleasure, including body work and sensate focus | |
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| Exploring erotic literature and fantasy, and concerns you may have about them | |
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| Going FurtherProblems you may be having | |
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| Issues that influence change | |
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| The importance of appreciating and valuing who you are | |
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| Dealing with conflicted feelings about changing | |
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| Women's physical responses during the sexual response cycle | |
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| Influences on sexual response, including aging and contraception | |
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| Fears about orgasm.Role-play orgasm | |
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| Ways to increase arousal and trigger orgasm | |
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| Using a Vibrator: A Little Technology | |
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| Taking a new look at vibrators | |
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| Different types of vibrators and how to find the right one for you | |
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| Exploring your body | |
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| Concerns about excessive use of or attachment to the vibrator | |
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| Being Female, Being Sexual: Special Issues of the Body | |
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| The menstrual cycle as it begins and ends your reproductive years | |
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| Problems with menstruation, including premenstrual syndrome and amenorrhea | |
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| Sexual health and response throughout the life cycle | |
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| Your body during and after pregnancy | |
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| Ways to maintain gynecological health | |
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| Breast exams and doctor visits -- some suggestions | |
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| Sharing Self-Discoveries with Your Partner | |
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| Expectations and apprehensions about sharing your changes with your partner | |
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| Ways of sharing self-pleasuring with your partner | |
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| Sexual desire problems -- approaches to helping | |
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| Concerns from the woman's point of view | |
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| Concerns from the man's point of view | |
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| Learning new aspects of initiating and refusing sex | |
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| Pleasuring Each Other | |
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| The importance of trust and communication in pleasuring each other | |
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| Ways to avoid putting pressure on yourself and your partner | |
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| Using verbal and nonverbal communication during sexual interactions | |
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| How to encourage and support each other | |
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| Positions for pleasuring | |
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| Enjoying nonintercourse forms of lovemaking | |
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| Becoming less inhibited in front of your partner | |
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| Dealing with negative feelings about male genitals | |
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| Vibrators as part of lovemaking | |
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| Using fantasies with a partner | |
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| Intercourse: Another Form of Mutual Pleasure | |
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| Feelings about intercourse and other forms of sexual affection | |
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| Seeing intercourse as part of, rather than the pinnacle of, sexual expression | |
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| Appreciation as a key to encouraging change | |
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| Genital-size concerns | |
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| Advantages and disadvantages of different positions for intercourse | |
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| Coital | |