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Preface | |
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Acknowledgments | |
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Make Peace with the Past: The First Principle | |
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What Every Good Parent Wants | |
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Connect to the Power of Your Memories | |
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Sort Out Your Issues | |
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Look for Positives | |
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Unpack the Baggage from Your Parents' Divorce | |
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Listen Carefully to the Voices on Your Message Tape | |
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Erase the Negative Messages | |
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Reassess Your Parenting Approach | |
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Talk to Your Children about Your Past | |
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Living the First Principle | |
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Make Peace with Your Partner: The Second Principle | |
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Getting in Sync | |
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How Is Your Parent-to-Parent Relationship Affecting Your Child? | |
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Do You Believe That Mother Knows Best? | |
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Do You Think That Father Knows Best? | |
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Are You Divided by Spiritual Faith? | |
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Is Your Parenting Style Competitive? | |
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Are You "Parallel Parenting"? | |
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Are You Ever the Martyr? | |
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Do You Sabotage Your Partner? | |
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Are You the Insecure Teammate? | |
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Are You Divorced or Separated? | |
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Are You the Parent Who Works a Lot? | |
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How Compassionate Are You? | |
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Do You Know How to Give and Take Criticism? | |
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When to Seek Professional Help | |
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Living the Second Principle | |
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Communicate Compassionately: The Third Principle | |
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Couple Communication Skills | |
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Understand Your Different Communication Styles | |
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Master the Art of Assertive Communication | |
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Seven Golden Rules of Communication | |
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What Your Children Are Telling You | |
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Family Communication Skills | |
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Teaching Children to Listen | |
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Encouraging Compassionate Communication | |
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Living the Third Principle | |
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Reach Out to Your Village: The Fourth Principle | |
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The Team Beyond Your Doorstep | |
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How to Ask for Help | |
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Rediscover Your Village | |
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Reach Out to Extended Family Members | |
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Reach Out to Friends | |
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Reach Out to Your Community | |
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Reach Out to Your Religious Leader | |
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Reach Out to Your Child's School | |
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School Is Not for Moms Only | |
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Reach Out at Work | |
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Living the Fourth Principle | |
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Direct Your Child's Behavior: The Fifth Principle | |
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The Goals of Positive Discipline | |
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Are You a Good Model of the Behavior You Want for Your Child? | |
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Eleven Easy Rules for More Positive Discipline | |
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What to Expect at Every Age | |
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Are You and Your Partner on the Same Discipline Team? | |
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What's Your Personal Discipline Style? | |
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What's Your Team Discipline Style? | |
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Eight More Winning Discipline Techniques | |
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Handling the "Problem" Child | |
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When to Seek Professional Help | |
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The Gender Factor | |
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Negative Lessons of Physical Punishment | |
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Time-out for Parents | |
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Living the Fifth Principle | |
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Nurture the Sibling Bond: The Sixth Principle | |
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The Positive Side of Rivalry | |
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How Does Sibling Rivalry Get Started? | |
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The Role of Age Differences | |
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How Do Your Children Actually Get Along? | |
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When to Seek Professional Help | |
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Seven Recommendations for Reducing Rivalry | |
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Growing Away from Rivalry | |
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The Trap of Favoritism: Try Not to Make It Worse | |
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Embrace Your Stepchildren | |
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Eleven Ways to Strengthen the Sibling Bond | |
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Living the Sixth Principle | |
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Acknowledge Peer Pressure: The Seventh Principle | |
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The Power of Peer Pressure | |
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How Peer Pressure Starts | |
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Handling Peer Pressure at Every Age | |
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The Gender Factor | |
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Dealing with Prejudice and Interracial Friendships | |
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Dealing with Sex | |
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Dealing with Violence and Aggression | |
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Separating Out Your Feelings from Your Child's Feelings | |
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Teaching Your Child about Friendship and Fitting In | |
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Guiding Children toward More Positive Relationships | |
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Relating to Your Child's Friends | |
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How to Talk about Peer Pressure with Your Child | |
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Giving Your Child Basic Communication Tools | |
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When You Should Worry | |
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How to Handle Passing Fads | |
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Defining Positive Role Models | |
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Living the Seventh Principle | |
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Allow Time for Spirituality and Joy: The Eighth Principle | |
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Draw from Spirituality | |
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Acknowledge Your Family's Spiritual Needs | |
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"Mixed" Partnerships | |
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Ten Ways to Teach Your Children about Faith | |
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Simple Spiritual Messages for Children | |
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Simple Religious Messages for Children | |
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Simple Fun | |
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What's the Rush? Slow Down | |
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Set Aside Parent Time | |
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The Value of Family Meetings | |
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Learn to Manage Anger Together | |
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Celebrations and Reunions: The Power of Making Memories Together | |
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Living the Eighth Principle | |
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Index | |