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Divorce and New Beginnings A Complete Guide to Recovery, Solo Parenting, Co-Parenting, and Stepfamilies

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ISBN-10: 0471326488

ISBN-13: 9780471326489

Edition: 2nd 2000 (Revised)

Authors: Genevieve Clapp

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This revised guide deals with the emotional and the practical aspects of divorce, offering helpful tips and insights on navigating the problematic areas of this life adjustment.
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Book details

List price: $36.95
Edition: 2nd
Copyright year: 2000
Publisher: John Wiley & Sons, Incorporated
Publication date: 9/4/2000
Binding: Paperback
Pages: 404
Size: 6.25" wide x 9.25" long x 1.00" tall
Weight: 1.408
Language: English

Laying the Foundation: Coping Successfully with Divorce
The Aftermath of Marriage
The Impact of Separation and Divorce
Preseparation
Transition-Restructuring
Recovery-Rebuilding
Is Divorce Worth It? The Verdict Is ...
Legal Fundamentals: What Everyone Should Know
A Primer on Current Divorce Trends
Selecting an Attorney
Marital Settlement Agreements
Litigation
Divorce Mediation: An Alternative to an Adversarial Divorce
Stress and the Emotional Roller Coaster: Tools to Cope
Coping with Stress
Dealing with Anxiety
Feeling like a Robot: Is There a Person in There?
Sadness and Grief: The Importance of Mourning
Thoughts about Your Ex: "Am I Going Crazy?"
Feelings of Rejection, Worthlessness, and Failure
Euphoria: Why Can't It Always Be like This?
Feeling Defeated and Immobilized: How to Combat Depression
Taking Action
Doing a Tune-Up on Your Thinking
What Do I Do with All This Anger?
Where Does It All Come From?
When Anger Is Self-Defeating
How to Deal with Self-Defeating Anger and Let It Go
Dealing with "New" Anger Constructively
Children and Divorce
Divorce through a Child's Eyes
Children's Divorce Experience
Is It Better to Divorce When Children Are One Age versus Another?
How Long Are Children Likely to Experience Problems?
"Should We Stay Together for the Children's Sake?"
Critical Ingredients for Children's Adjustment
Parents' Prolonged Conflict versus Cooperation
Children's Relationships with Both Parents
The Quality of Parenting and Stability in the Primary Home or Homes
Amount of Additional Stress in Children's Lives
Social Support
Temperament and Predivorce Adjustment
Conflict! The Number One Predictor of Children's Poor Adjustment after Divorce
How Children Experience Conflict
The Many Faces of Conflict: The Trauma of Being Caught in the Middle
The Nightmare of Transitions
Conflict's Repercussions for Children
Surviving the Conflict
Custody Battles: The Most Damaging of Postdivorce Conflicts
Fostering Children's Long-Term Adjustment: A Step-by-Step Guide
Starting Out Right
How to Create a Stable Home Life
How to Shore Up Your Relationship with Your Child
How to Become a Communication-Friendly Parent
Fostering Your Child's Relationship with the Other Parent
If the Other Parent Has Dropped Out
Limiting the Amount of Change in Children's Lives
Arranging Social Support for Children
Contain the Conflict!
Should You Seek Professional Help?
Divorce and the Steeling Effect
Rebuilding a Rewarding Single Life
Your Emotional Divorce: Stepping-Stone to a Rewarding New Life
Setting the Stage: Separation
Early Steps
Disengaging from Your Spouse
Dislodging Your Spouse from Your Mind
Your Account
Mourning and Rituals
Letting Go of Your Anger
The Power of Forgiveness
The Role of Social Support
Reinvolving Yourself
Final Resolution
Rebuilding
Rebuilding Self-Esteem
Overcoming Your Identity Crisis
Coping with the Lonely Times
Building a New Social Support Network
Opportunities for Personal Growth
Communicating with an Ex-Spouse: Ten Tools that Will Make the Difference
Use "I" Messages
Turn Complaints into Requests
Attack the Problem, Not the Person
Offer Suggestions, Not Solutions
Tune Up Your Listening Skills
Avoid Button-Pushing Language
Be Respectful
Use Disarming Tools
How to Keep Your Cool
Use Effective Negotiating Tools
New Romantic Relationships
Building a Strong Foundation
What If There Are Children?
How to Create a Successful One-Parent Home
Creating a Home in Which Your Children Can Thrive
Creating a Home in Which a Single Parent Can Thrive
The Consequences of Growing Up in a One-Parent Home:Facts or Myths?
The Parent without Custody: Dilemmas and Solutions
The "Visitation" Dilemma
The Important Role of the Nonresident Parent
Solutions for the "Visitation" Dilemma
Parenting at a Distance
Parenting Young Children at a Distance
The Myth of the Inconsequential Parent
Co-Parenting Children after Divorce
Custody: What's the Real Scoop?
Legal Custody versus Physical Custody
Physical Custody: Joint versus Sole Custody
Mother Custody versus Father Custody
Split Custody: Should Siblings Stay Together?
Parenting Plans: Blueprints for a Smooth Future
The Nuts and Bolts of a Parenting Plan
Selecting a Parenting Schedule Tailored to Your Family
Guidelines for Children's Developmental Needs
Making Co-Parenting Work
How to Build a Co-Parenting Relationship
Seven Keys to Sound Co-Parenting
Ending the Conflict: A Step-by-Step Approach
High-Conflict Parents: Could This Be You?
Steps to Protect Children from Conflict
Steps to End the Conflict
Extraordinary Steps for Extraordinary Conflict
A Wise Step: Co-Parenting Counseling
How to Discipline Effectively and Still Be a "Good Guy"
Different Parenting Styles and Their Repercussions
The Principles of Positive Parenting
Discipline and Teens
Your Relationship with Your Children: The Foundation of Effective Discipline
Stepfamilies
Stepfamily Myths versus Stepfamily Reality
Remarriage Is Often Just What Is Needed to Help People Get Back on Their Feet after Divorce
When We Get Married We Will Have an Instant Family
When We Get Married the Children Will Be Able to Have a Traditional Family
Well-Adjusted People Can Adapt to Stepfamily Life after a Brief Adjustment Period
Losing Strategies: Eight Common Paths to Serious Stepfamily Problems
Trying to Replace the Out-of-Home Parent
Creating a False Sense of Togetherness
Forced Blending
Dramatically Changing Parent-Child Relationships
Assuming Authority Too Quickly
Resisting Family Blending
Trying to Shut Out the Out-of-Home Parent from Children's Lives
Denying Problems and Conflicts
Learning What Works: Successful Strategies for Stepfamilies
Communicate Openly
Set Realistic Family Goals
Build a Strong Couple Relationship
Move Slowly; Do Not Push
Develop Your Own Unique Role with Your Stepchildren; Do Not Try to Replace Their Out-of-Home Parent
Let the Biological Parent Handle Discipline While the Stepparent Bonds with Stepchildren
Build a Family Identity
Do Not Try to Shut Out the Out-of-Home Parent or Force Loyalty
Overview and Appendixes
Closing Remarks
How to Make Changes in Your Life and Stick to Them
Learning a Deep Relaxation Technique
Sample Parenting Plans
Suggested Reading
Notes
Selected Sources
Index