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| Preface to the Second Edition | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Foreword | |
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| The Grief of Pregnancy Loss | |
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| When an Unborn or Newborn Baby Dies | |
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| Bonding with Your Unborn Baby | |
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| Grieving for Your Baby | |
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| The Phases of Grief | |
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| Initial Shock | |
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| Anticipatory Grief | |
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| Acute Grief | |
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| Grief Work | |
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| Integration of Your Grief | |
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| Anniversary Reactions | |
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| Grieving Loss in a Multiple Pregnancy | |
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| If You Have Difficulty Mourning | |
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| Pregnancy Loss Changes You | |
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| Key Points to Help You Grieve | |
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| The Mother's Experience | |
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| Factors That Affect Your Grief | |
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| Feeling You Failed the Baby's Father | |
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| The Ways Women Grieve | |
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| Your Return to the Community | |
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| Key Points for Bereaved Mothers | |
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| The Father's Experience | |
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| Bonding with Your Baby | |
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| Your Grief and the Pressure to Move On | |
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| Your Concern for the Baby's Mother | |
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| The Urge to Be Strong | |
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| When Your Grief Is Unfinished | |
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| Key Points for Bereaved Fathers | |
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| Pregnancy Loss and Your Relationship: Grieving Together and Apart | |
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| Your Relationship during the Crisis | |
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| Incongruent Grief | |
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| Your Grief and Sexuality | |
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| How Pregnancy Loss Can Change Your Relationship | |
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| Key Points for Couples | |
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| Pregnancy Loss Examined | |
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| Early Losses | |
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| Issues Common to All Early Losses | |
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| Experiencing a Miscarriage: Symptoms and Diagnosis, Treatment, Causes, Emotional Aftermath | |
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| Experiencing an Ectopic Pregnancy: Symptoms and Diagnosis, Treatment, Causes, Emotional Aftermath | |
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| Experiencing a Molar Pregnancy: Symptoms and Diagnosis, Treatment, Causes, Emotional Aftermath | |
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| Key Points for Coping with Your Early Loss | |
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| Crisis Pregnancies and Loss | |
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| Issues Common to All Crisis Pregnancies | |
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| Experiencing Preterm Labor: Symptoms and Diagnosis, Treatment, Causes, Emotional Aftermath | |
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| Experiencing Premature Rupture of the Membranes: Symptoms and Diagnosis, Treatment, Causes, Emotional Aftermath | |
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| Experiencing Cervical Incompetence: Symptoms and Diagnosis, Treatment, Causes, Emotional Aftermath | |
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| Key Points for Coping with Your Loss in a Crisis Pregnancy | |
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| Stillbirth and Newborn Death | |
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| Issues Common to All Stillbirths and Newborn Deaths | |
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| Experiencing a Stillbirth: Diagnosis and Treatment, Causes, Emotional Aftermath | |
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| Experiencing a Newborn Death: Causes, Emotional Aftermath | |
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| Key Points for Coping with Your Stillbirth or Newborn Death | |
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| Prenatal Diagnosis and the Burden of Choice | |
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| Preparing for Prenatal Testing and Receiving the Results | |
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| Continuing Your Pregnancy when Your Baby Is Not Expected to Live | |
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| Your Hospital Stay when You End a Pregnancy | |
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| How to Discuss Ending Your Pregnancy with Your Children | |
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| Your Emotional Recovery after Ending Your Pregnancy | |
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| Finding the Support You Need after Ending Your Pregnancy | |
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| Key Points to Help You Cope with an Impaired Pregnancy | |
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| The Response of Others | |
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| Medical Care when You Lose Your Pregnancy | |
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| Learning about Your Loss | |
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| Your Hospital Care | |
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| Special Considerations with Stillbirth and Newborn Death | |
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| Communication among Medical Staff | |
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| Your Hospital Discharge and Follow-up Care | |
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| How You Can Improve Hospital Bereavement Services | |
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| Key Points to Help You Obtain Compassionate Medical Care | |
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| Bereavement Protocol | |
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| Finding Solace in Your Religion | |
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| When Your Loss Feels Like Retribution | |
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| When You Turn to the Clergy | |
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| When the Clergy Console You | |
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| When Religion May Disappoint You | |
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| The Relevance of Rituals | |
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| Naming Your Baby | |
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| Burying or Cremating Your Baby | |
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| When Ritual Is Denied | |
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| Theology and Ritual | |
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| Jewish Traditions | |
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| Islamic Traditions | |
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| Catholic Traditions | |
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| Protestant Traditions | |
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| Mixed Religions | |
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| The Need for Special Rituals | |
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| Rituals for Early Losses | |
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| Rituals for Ending an Impaired Pregnancy | |
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| Your Return to Faith | |
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| Key Points to Help You Find Solace in Your Religion | |
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| The Response of Your Family and Friends | |
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| Telling People about Your Loss | |
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| Informing Close Family and Friends | |
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| Telling Your Wider Social Circle | |
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| Special Issues | |
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| Finding the Support You Need | |
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| Handling Thoughtless Remarks | |
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| Coping with Social Pressures | |
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| Being with Pregnant Women and Little Children | |
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| Key Points to Help You with Family and Friends | |
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| The Five Worst Comments You Might Hear | |
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| The Five Best Comments You Might Hear | |
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| Helping Your Children at Home | |
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| How to Talk with Your Child | |
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| Toddlers and Preschoolers | |
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| Children Age Six to Eleven | |
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| Preteens and Teenagers | |
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| Special Issues for You to Consider | |
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| Saying Good-bye to a Baby Sibling | |
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| Your Child and Religious Rituals | |
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| Your Child's Peers | |
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| After the Crisis | |
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| If You and Your Family Need Extra Help | |
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| Key Points to Help Your Children after a Loss | |
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| For Bereaved Grandparents | |
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| Grandparents' Guilt | |
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| Helping Your Adult Children | |
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| Family Celebrations and Holidays | |
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| Pregnancy after a Loss | |
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| Strengthening Family Ties | |
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| Key Points for Bereaved Grandparents | |
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| Special Circumstances | |
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| The Impact of Pregnancy Loss on Your Career | |
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| Making Career Decisions | |
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| Men and Their Careers | |
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| Your Career Choices and High-Risk Pregnancy | |
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| Key Points when Pregnancy Loss Affects Your Career | |
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| Pregnancy Loss and Infertility: A Twofold Sorrow | |
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| Coping with a Pregnancy Reduction | |
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| When to Stop Trying to Conceive | |
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| Enduring Uncertainty | |
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| Key Points to Help You Cope with Pregnancy Loss and Infertility | |
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| Becoming Pregnant Again | |
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| Making the Decision | |
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| The Right Timing | |
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| Finding Out You Are Pregnant Again | |
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| Telling Others | |
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| If a Loss Occurs Again | |
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| Reconsidering Your Medical Care | |
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| Changing Doctors | |
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| Use of Technology | |
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| Surviving the New Pregnancy | |
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| For Mothers Who Must Manage a Subsequent High-Risk Pregnancy | |
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| Parenting after Your Loss | |
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| Experiencing the Birth of a Healthy Baby | |
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| Problems with Child Rearing | |
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| Responding to Awkward Questions | |
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| Key Points to Help You Survive a Subsequent Pregnancy | |
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| Appendices | |
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| Managing Problem Pregnancies | |
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| Rituals | |
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| Pregnancy Loss and the Environment | |
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| Resources | |
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| Resources for Pregnancy Loss | |
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| Resources for Loss in Multiple Gestations | |
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| Resources Online | |
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| Resources for Psychotherapy | |
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| Resources for Genetics Information and for Ending a Pregnancy | |
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| Resources for Infertility | |
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| Resources for Childbirth | |
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| Resources for Adoption | |
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| Resources on Health and Pregnancy | |
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| Glossary | |
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| Bibliography | |
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| Index | |