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| Foreword | |
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| Introduction: Secrets of Peaceful Parents | |
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| Regulating Yourself | |
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| Peaceful Parents Raise Happy Kids | |
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| Your Number One Responsibility as a Parent | |
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| Breaking the Cycle: Healing Your Own Wounds | |
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| How to Manage Your Anger | |
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| How to Stop Yelling at Your Child | |
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| When Your Child Melts Down: How to Keep Your Cool | |
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| You Can Nurture Yourself While Raising Your Child | |
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| Ten Rules to Raise Terrific Kids | |
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| Fostering Connection | |
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| The Essential Ingredient for Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids | |
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| Why Connection Is the Secret to Happy Parenting | |
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| Connection as Your Child Grows | |
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| Babies (0-13 Months): Wiring the Brain | |
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| Toddlers (13-36 Months): Building Secure Attachment | |
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| Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Developing Independence | |
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| Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Foundation for the Teen Years | |
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| Connection Basics | |
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| How to Connect More Deeply with Your Child | |
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| How Do You Know When Your Relationship with Your Child Needs Work? | |
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| Connecting with a Difficult Child | |
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| Action Guides | |
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| Your Child's Emotional Bank Account | |
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| What's So Special About Special Time? | |
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| Daily Habits to Strengthen and Sweeten Your Relationship with Your Child | |
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| Use Connection to Get Your Child Out the Door In the Morning | |
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| Use Connection to make Bedtime Easier | |
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| Ten Ways to Become a Brilliant Listener | |
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| But How Do I Get My Child to Listen to Me?! | |
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| When Your Child Just Shuts Down | |
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| When You and Your Child Are Stuck in Negativity | |
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| Coaching, not Controlling | |
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| Raising a Child Who Can Manage Himself: Emotion Coaching | |
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| Why Emotion-Coach? | |
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| Emotional Intelligence as Your Child Grows | |
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| Babies (0-13 Months): A Bedrock of Trust | |
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| Toddlers (13-36 Months): Unconditional Love | |
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| Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Empathy | |
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| Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Emotional Self-Awareness | |
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| Emotion Coaching Basics | |
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| How Children Develop Emotional Intelligence | |
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| Empathy, the Foundation of EQ | |
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| Your Child's Emotional Backpack | |
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| Understanding Anger | |
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| Meeting Your Child's Deepest Needs | |
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| EQ Coaching with a Difficult Child | |
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| Action Guides | |
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| Seven Steps to Nurture Emotional Intelligence in Your Child | |
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| Emotion-Coaching Your Child Through a Meltdown | |
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| When Your Child Acts Out but Can't Cry: Building Safety | |
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| Playing with Your Child: Games for Emotional Intelligence | |
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| Additional Resources: Scripts for Sibling Conflicts | |
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| Raising a Child Who Wants to Behave: Dare Not to Discipline | |
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| The Dirty Little Secret About Discipline and Punishment | |
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| Guidance as Your Child Grows | |
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| Babies (0-13 Months): Empathic Redirection | |
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| Toddlers (13-36 Months): Sidestepping Power Struggles | |
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| Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Learning Self-Management | |
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| Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Developing Positive Habits | |
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| Setting Limits with Empathy: The Basics | |
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| The Sweet Spot Between Strict and Permissive | |
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| Should You Spank Your Child? | |
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| Is Yelling the New Spanking? | |
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| Transform Your Time-Outs to Time-Ins | |
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| The Truth About Consequences | |
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| Does Positive Parenting Work with a Difficult Child? | |
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| Action Guides | |
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| How to Set Empathic Limits | |
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| How to Help Kids Who Test the Limits | |
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| Wean Yourself Off Consequences: Twelve Terrific Alternatives | |
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| How to Intervene in the Heat of the Moment | |
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| Empowering Kids to Make Amends with the Three Rs: Reflection, Repair, and Responsibility | |
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| Preventive Maintenance | |
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| What If Your Child Crosses the Line? | |
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| Additional Resources: Scripts | |
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| Raising a Child Who Achieves with Joy and Self-Esteem: Mastery Coaching | |
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| What Is Mastery Coaching? | |
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| Building Mastery as Your Child Grows | |
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| Babies (0-13 Months): The Budding Scientist | |
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| Toddlers (13-36 Months): Do It Myself: Developing Response-Ability | |
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| Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Self-Mastery Through Problem Solving | |
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| Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Exploring Passions | |
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| Mastery Basics | |
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| Encouraging Mastery | |
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| How Kids Develop Resilence | |
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| Giving Constructive Feedback | |
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| How to Avoid Helicopter Parenting | |
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| What If You Have a Child Who Doesn't Develop Mastery Naturally? | |
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| Action Guides | |
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| Create a No-Blame Household | |
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| Developing Responsibility | |
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| Developing Good Judgment | |
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| Homework Without Tears | |
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| Trust Your Child-and Mother Nature | |
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| Afterword | |
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| When to Seek Professional Help | |
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| The Future Is in Your Hands | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Further Reading | |
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| Notes | |
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| Index | |