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Preface | |
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Author's Note | |
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Introduction | |
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The Entitled Teenager | |
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The New Parent | |
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Adolescence | |
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What Is Adolescence? | |
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Physical Changes | |
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Intellectual Changes | |
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The Major Change: Turning Away from Childhood | |
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The Wish Not to Grow Up | |
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Margaret and the Stairs | |
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The Bliss of the Baby Self | |
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A Self Without Conscience | |
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Which Is the Real Self? | |
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The Passion of Adolescence | |
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Where It's At | |
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Memories of Adolescence | |
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What They Do and Why | |
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Facing the Adolescent Mandate | |
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Allergy to Parents | |
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Teenage Boys | |
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Teenage Girls | |
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Parents Are to Be Taken for Granted | |
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Adults as Jerks | |
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Parents as an Embarrassment | |
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They Even Look Up to Some Adults, but Never Us | |
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Friends Are Everything | |
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Fitting In--Girls | |
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Fitting In--Boys | |
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The Tyranny of How I Look | |
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The Typical Teenager | |
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Being the Parent of a Teenager | |
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Letting Go | |
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Preventing Disaster | |
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Letting Them Fail | |
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Accepting Them for Themselves | |
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Dealing with the Day-to-Day | |
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Setting Limits | |
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Making Decisions | |
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Gentle Nudges | |
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Giving Too Much | |
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Calming the Waves of Hysteria | |
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The Unconditional Deal | |
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I Never Used to Act That Way | |
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Between Parent and Teenager | |
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Communication and Trust | |
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Communication | |
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Listening to Your Teenager--I | |
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Listening to Your Teenager--II | |
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They Don't Listen to Anything I Say | |
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They Think I'm Always Criticizing Them | |
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Is Communication Impossible? | |
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Trusting Your Lying Teenager | |
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Controlling Your Teenager | |
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The Parent Within | |
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Establishing the Boundaries | |
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Keeping the Rules in Place | |
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Obeying the Spirit of the Law | |
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Devious Defiance | |
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Direct Disobedience | |
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Parents' Greatest Error | |
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Out of Control | |
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Conflict | |
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Battles (and What to Do About Them in General) | |
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Many Doors to Doom | |
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Teenagers' Traps for Parents | |
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How Parents Trap Themselves | |
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How Can You Ask Me to Take You to the Mall After What Just Happened Fifteen Minutes Ago? | |
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Beyond Words | |
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Jobs Around the House | |
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To Nag or Not to Nag | |
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I'll Do It Later | |
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If She Won't Do for Me ... | |
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The Consolation Prize | |
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Intrafamilial Hassles | |
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Sibling Rivalry | |
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Parent Against Parent | |
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Each Parent in Charge of His or Her Own Scene | |
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Different Parents, Different Rules | |
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Reality and the World Outside | |
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Parents' Role in a New World | |
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Divorce | |
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I Want to Worry About Acne, Not This | |
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Moving | |
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It Was My Fault | |
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Caught In Between | |
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Parenting Alone | |
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Stepparenting | |
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You're Not My Father | |
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Must I Like My Stepson? | |
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School | |
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Academic Performance | |
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What Parents Can Do | |
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Motivating Your Teenager | |
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Supervision | |
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Time as an Ally | |
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Troublemakers in School | |
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The Electronic World | |
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Competing for Their Attention | |
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Connection to Peers | |
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Nasty Content | |
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Turning It Off | |
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The Biggest Influence | |
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Sex | |
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Michael and Yvonne | |
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The New Age of Sex | |
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Should Teenagers Have Sex? | |
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Problems of Teenage Sex | |
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Sex and Intimacy | |
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Sex in the Time of AIDS | |
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What Can Parents Do? | |
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Beyond Education | |
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Controlling Your Teenager's Sexual Behavior | |
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Gay and Lesbian Teenagers | |
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Drugs and Drinking | |
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Drugs in America--Two Problems | |
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Parents' Role | |
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Drinking and Driving | |
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It's Against the Law | |
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Substance-Abuse Problems | |
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Suicide | |
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Boys versus Girls | |
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Suicide Attempts | |
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Why Do Teenagers Try to Kill Themselves? | |
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Depression and Suicide | |
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They Can't See Tomorrow | |
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Intervention | |
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What to Do | |
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If They Say "yes" | |
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Warning Signs | |
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The Mandatory Warning Sign | |
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Conclusion: The End of Adolescence | |
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Remember: It's a Stage | |