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| Introduction | |
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| Rules for Staying Sane | |
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| Relax | |
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| No One Is Perfect | |
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| Be Content | |
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| Know What You're Good at | |
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| Almost Any Rule Can Be Broken Occasionally | |
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| Don't Try to Do Everything | |
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| You Don't Have to Follow Every Piece of Advice You Get (Including This One) | |
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| It's Normal to Want to Escape | |
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| You're Allowed to Hide from Your Kids | |
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| Parents Are People Too | |
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| Don't Ignore Your Relationship with Your Partner | |
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| Attitude Rules | |
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| Love Is Not Enough | |
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| Every Recipe Needs Different Ingredients | |
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| Anything Extreme Is Almost Certainly Wrong | |
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| Look Pleased to See Them | |
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| Treat Your Child with Respect | |
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| Enjoy Their Company | |
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| It's Not about You - It's about Them | |
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| Being Tidy Isn't as Important as You Think | |
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| Good Parenting Is Calculated Risk Taking | |
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| Keep Your Worries to Yourself | |
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| See Things from Their Point of View | |
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| Parenting Is Not a Competitive Sport | |
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| Never Emotionally Blackmail Them | |
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| Everyday Rules | |
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| Let Them Get On with It | |
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| Let Them Go (Wild) | |
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| Teach Them to Think for Themselves | |
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| Use Praise Wisely | |
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| Make Sure They Know What's Important | |
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| Show Them How to Lose | |
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| Know the Value of Boundaries | |
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| Bribery Doesn't Have to Be Bad | |
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| Moods Are Catching | |
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| You're Setting Their Eating Patterns for Life | |
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| Communicate | |
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| Set Clear Targets | |
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| Don't Be a Nag | |
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| Discipline Rules | |
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| Present a United Front | |
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| Carrots Beat Sticks | |
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| Be Consistent | |
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| Lighten Up | |
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| Focus on the Problem. Not the Person | |
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| Don't Paint Yourself into a Coiner | |
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| If You Lose Your Temper. You're the Loser | |
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| Apologize if You Get It Wrong | |
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| Let Them Back in | |
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| The Right of Expression | |
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| Personality Rules | |
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| Find What Incentives Work for Your Child | |
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| Every Child Should Have Something He Knows He's Good At | |
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| Learn to Appreciate the Qualities That Remind You of Someone Else | |
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| Look for the Similarities Between You | |
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| Find Qualities to Admire in Them | |
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| Let Them Be Better Than You | |
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| Their Attitude Is as Important as Their Achievements | |
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| Keep Your Fears and Insecurities to Yourself | |
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| Mind Your Programming | |
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| Don't Try to Have a Perfect Child | |
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| Sibling Rules | |
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| Give Them Each Other | |
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| Recognize that Squabbling Is Healthy (Within Reason) | |
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| Teach Them to Fight Their Own Battles | |
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| Work as a Team | |
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| Let Them Entertain Each Other | |
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| Never Compare Children with Each Other | |
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| Different Children Need Different Rules | |
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| Don't Have a Favorite | |
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| Mix and Match | |
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| Find Each Child's Strengths | |
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| School Rules | |
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| Schooling Isn't the Same as Education | |
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| School Comes as a Package | |
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| Fight Your Child's Corner | |
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| Bullying Is Always Serious | |
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| Teach Them to Stand Up for Themselves | |
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| Put Up with Friends of Theirs You Don't Like | |
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| Remember You're Their Parent. Not Their Teacher | |
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| Don't Spoil Them | |
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| Let Up the Pressure | |
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| They Have to Live with Their Choices (and It's OK) | |
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| Teenage Rules | |
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| Don't Panic | |
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| Remember Newton's Third Law | |
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| Give Them a Voice | |
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| Don't Look Under the Mattress | |
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| Running Around after Them Doesn't Help Anybody | |
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| Don't Stand in Front of a Speeding Train | |
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| Yelling Isn't the Answer | |
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| Let Them Have the Last Word | |
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| Everything Comes with Strings | |
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| Show Some Respect for the Things They Care about | |
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| Adopt a Healthy Attitude to Sex | |
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| Crisis Rules | |
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| Don't Use Your Kids as Ammunition | |
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| Let Them Cope in Their Own Way | |
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| Being Younger Doesn't Necessarily Speed Everything Up | |
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| The Aftershock Can Last Forever | |
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| Tell Them What's Going On | |
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| Teach Them to Fail Successfully | |
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| it's Better to Agree Than to Be Right | |
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| All of Your Actions Speak Louder Than Any of Your Words | |
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| Make Sure They Know They're Priority No. 1 | |
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| You Can't Fix Everything | |
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| Grown-up Rules | |
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| Back Off | |
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| Wait Until They Ask for Advice | |
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| Treat Them as Adults | |
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| Don't Try to Be Their Best Friend | |
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| Encourage Them Regardless | |
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| You Can't Choose Who Your Children Love | |
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| Leave the Strings Off | |
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| Don't Guilt-Trip Them | |
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| Remember They Still Need You | |
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| It's Not Your Fault | |
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| Once a Parent, Always a Parent | |