Acknowledgments | p. xi |
Introduction | p. xiii |
Getting and Staying Organized | p. 1 |
Dealing with Emotions | p. 1 |
Deciding What You Want | p. 2 |
Developing an Organizational System | p. 2 |
Keeping a Calendar | p. 3 |
Using To-Do Lists | p. 5 |
Managing Documents | p. 7 |
Other General Organizational Tips | p. 9 |
To-Do List | p. 11 |
Protecting Yourself | p. 13 |
Dealing with Money | p. 13 |
The Home | p. 17 |
Wills | p. 20 |
Powers of Attorney | p. 21 |
Health Care Directives | p. 21 |
Your Physical Safety | p. 21 |
Safe-Deposit Box Inventory | p. 23 |
Household Belongings Inventory | p. 24 |
Self-Protection Checklist | p. 25 |
Working with an Attorney and Other Professionals | p. 27 |
Finding an Attorney | p. 27 |
Questions to Ask an Attorney | p. 28 |
Understanding What Your Attorney Needs from You | p. 30 |
Working with Your Attorney | p. 31 |
Organizing Paperwork from Your Attorney | p. 33 |
Phone Calls with Professionals | p. 33 |
Paying Your Attorney | p. 33 |
Affording Your Attorney | p. 34 |
Other Professionals Who May Be Involved with Your Case | p. 34 |
Questions and Issues to Discuss with Your Attorney | p. 38 |
Phone Call Log | p. 39 |
Master List of Contact Information | p. 40 |
Ways to End Your Marriage | p. 41 |
Residency | p. 41 |
Grounds | p. 41 |
Annulment | p. 44 |
Legal Separation | p. 44 |
Remaining Married | p. 45 |
Ending a Common-Law Marriage | p. 45 |
Step-by-Step Through Your Divorce | p. 47 |
The System and the Way It Works | p. 47 |
Court Papers | p. 50 |
Appearing in Court | p. 51 |
Settlement Options | p. 57 |
Mediation | p. 57 |
Arbitration | p. 61 |
Collaborative Law | p. 61 |
Settlements | p. 62 |
Gathering Household and Personal Documents | p. 63 |
How to Gather Documents | p. 64 |
Working with Your Spouse | p. 64 |
When You Can't Get Certain Documents | p. 65 |
Organizing Documents | p. 65 |
Analyzing Documents | p. 66 |
Checklist of Documents to Gather | p. 67 |
Documenting Your Income and Living Expenses | p. 71 |
How to Document Expenses | p. 71 |
Creating a Budget | p. 73 |
Income Log | p. 74 |
Expense Log | p. 75 |
Monthly Budget | p. 76 |
Unresolved Joint Expenses | p. 79 |
Large Assets | p. 81 |
Separate Versus Marital Property | p. 81 |
Understanding Nonconcrete Assets | p. 82 |
How Large Assets Are Divided | p. 83 |
Finding Large Assets | p. 83 |
Finding Hidden Assets | p. 83 |
Types of Large Assets | p. 84 |
Contribution to Separate Asset | p. 86 |
Large Asset Separate Property Log | p. 87 |
List of Large Joint Assets | p. 88 |
Documenting Debts | p. 89 |
Separate and Marital Debts | p. 89 |
Organizing Your Debt | p. 89 |
List of Spouse's Separate Debts | p. 91 |
List of Joint Debts | p. 92 |
Reaching Settlements and Dividing Household Belongings | p. 93 |
Negotiating Settlements | p. 93 |
Dividing Household Items | p. 95 |
Appraising Items | p. 97 |
Disputed Items | p. 97 |
Settlement List | p. 99 |
Separate Property Items | p. 100 |
Items Taken Without Agreement | p. 101 |
Agreed-Upon Items to Divide | p. 102 |
Disputed Items to Divide | p. 103 |
Child Support | p. 105 |
Purpose of Child Support | p. 105 |
Temporary Child Support | p. 106 |
Calculating Child Support | p. 106 |
Other Child Support Amounts | p. 107 |
How Child Support Is Paid | p. 108 |
Tracking Child Support Payments | p. 108 |
Due Dates | p. 109 |
Nonpayment | p. 109 |
Adjusting Child Support | p. 109 |
Children's Expenses | p. 110 |
Children's Uninsured Health Expenses | p. 112 |
Child Support Receipts | p. 113 |
Child Support Payment Log | p. 114 |
Alimony | p. 115 |
How Alimony Is Awarded | p. 115 |
Seeking Alimony | p. 116 |
Alimony Rules and Regulations | p. 117 |
Tracking Alimony | p. 117 |
Medical Insurance | p. 118 |
Alimony Worksheet | p. 119 |
Alimony Receipts | p. 121 |
Alimony Payment Log | p. 122 |
Custody and Visitation | p. 123 |
Tips for Avoiding a Custody Trial | p. 124 |
Thinking About Custody and Visitation | p. 125 |
Creating an Accurate Visitation Record | p. 126 |
Documenting Shared Custody | p. 128 |
Monitoring Your Children's Responses to Visitation | p. 128 |
Children's Preferences | p. 129 |
Grandparent Visitation | p. 130 |
Children's Reactions Log | p. 131 |
Grandparent Visitation Log | p. 132 |
Witnesses and Evidence | p. 133 |
Why You Need Witnesses | p. 133 |
Types of Witnesses to Find | p. 134 |
Subject Matter for Witness Testimony | p. 135 |
Preparing a Witness List | p. 137 |
Being Your Own Witness | p. 138 |
Preparing for Your Spouse's Witnesses | p. 139 |
Physical Evidence | p. 139 |
How to Find Evidence | p. 142 |
List of Possible Witnesses | p. 143 |
Witness Worksheet | p. 144 |
Notes for Your Testimony | p. 145 |
Cross-Examination Notes | p. 147 |
Physical Evidence List | p. 148 |
Custody Trials | p. 149 |
Documenting the Past | p. 149 |
Documenting Your Own Parenting Abilities | p. 150 |
Focusing on the Other Parent's Faults | p. 151 |
Parenting Classes | p. 152 |
Keeping Your Kids Out of It | p. 152 |
Siblings and Half Siblings | p. 153 |
Child Care Checklist | p. 154 |
Spouse's Parenting Abilities | p. 157 |
Parenting Journal | p. 158 |
It's All Over! Now What? | p. 159 |
Changing Your Name | p. 159 |
Updating Your Insurance | p. 160 |
Protecting Your Credit | p. 161 |
Dividing Assets | p. 161 |
Leases | p. 162 |
Your Will | p. 162 |
Health Care Directives | p. 162 |
Wedding and Relationship Mementos | p. 163 |
Coping with Your Feelings | p. 163 |
Continuing to Track Payments | p. 163 |
Maintaining Your Household | p. 164 |
Managing Finances | p. 165 |
Important Documents for Your Child | p. 165 |
Receipts for Property Distribution | p. 167 |
Ongoing Child Support Log | p. 168 |
Child Support Receipts | p. 169 |
Ongoing Alimony Log | p. 170 |
Alimony Receipts | p. 171 |
Resources | p. 173 |
Index | p. 181 |
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