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A Note to Readers | |
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Introduction | |
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The Mundane Is Heroic | |
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See Possibilities Where Others See Obstacles | |
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Set Rules for Conflict | |
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Anyone Can Find a Happy Relationship | |
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It's Not How Hard You Try | |
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You Have Nothing to Envy | |
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Attitude Triumphs over Outcome | |
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Don't Be Bound by Tradition | |
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The Past Is Not the Future | |
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No One Wins the Comparison Game | |
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See the Love Around You | |
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Doing Nothing Is Rarely a Solution | |
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You'll Forget the Disagreement but Remember the Disagreeing | |
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Pursue What You Need Forever, Not What You Want Today | |
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Seek Harmony in Your Life | |
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The Relationship Test: Are You Lonely? | |
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It's the Little Things That Matter the Most | |
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A Relationship Requires Two Equals | |
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Beware of Fairy Tales | |
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Cultivate a Common Interest | |
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Treat the Disease, Not the Symptom | |
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There's No Point in Putting On a Show | |
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You Make Your Own History | |
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Maintain Your Sense of Control | |
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Money Can't Buy Love, but It Can Buy Stress | |
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There Are No Mind Readers | |
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There's No Need to Hurry | |
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Friends Speak from Experience-Their Own | |
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Drink Less | |
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Decide Whether You Want to Win or Be Happy | |
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A Sense of Humor Helps | |
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Think Beyond the Engagement | |
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See the Friendship in Your Relationship | |
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The Most Time Is Not the Best Time | |
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Reduce TV Time | |
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The World Will Intrude on Your Relationship | |
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Gentlemen Prefer the Same Things Ladies Prefer | |
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Love Is Blind but Life Isn't Always | |
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Balance Depends on Which Way You Lean | |
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A Relationship by Any Other Name Is Just as Important | |
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The Future Matters More Than the Past | |
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You Don't Have to See Eye to Eye on Everything | |
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Be Open with Each Other | |
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Accentuate the Positive in All Aspects of Your Life | |
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It Helps to Be Friends | |
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Foundations Are Created in the Beginning | |
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Ambivalence Is a Negative | |
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Share Housework | |
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A Relationship Starts with Yourself | |
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Let Go of the Burden of Pain | |
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Develop a Healthy Calm | |
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Think of Your Own Ideal | |
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Stay Flexible | |
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Think About Potential | |
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Even in a Relationship, You Are Still an Individual | |
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Rest Up-This Is Going to Take Some Effort | |
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Like the Way You Look | |
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Don't Romanticize the Past | |
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Share the Praise and Share in the Blame | |
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You Can't Find Without Looking | |
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Meaningful Commitment Is Mutual Commitment | |
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Friendships Predict Relationships | |
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Prepare for Milestones | |
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Don't Bring Your Job Home with You | |
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We Assume Similar Preferences | |
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Don't Let Secrets Eat You Up | |
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To Find a Better Way, Look Where You've Been | |
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Money Matters Less over Time | |
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Recognize the Value of Shared Values | |
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Understand What You're Looking For | |
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Never Let Faults Stand for the Whole | |
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You'll Need Some Relationship Friends | |
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Don't Wait to Start Moving in the Right Direction | |
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Music Can Bring Us Together | |
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Define What You Need | |
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Show You Care, Even When It's Hard To | |
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Make Your Decisions for Positive Reasons | |
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A Relationship Is Built on a Foundation of Support | |
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The Pieces of Your Life Must Fit Together | |
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Master Your Fears | |
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We Are All Much More Alike Than Different | |
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Limit Your Interest in the Past | |
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Get Your Reality from Reality | |
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You Are Never Too Old to Find Love | |
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We Look Inward to See How People Feel About Us | |
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Be Willing to Evolve | |
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Connect, See You're Capable, and Know You Count | |
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Reliability Counts a Lot | |
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You Are Complete by Yourself Intensity Fades | |
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Intensity Fades | |
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Beware Second Opinions | |
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Have Faith but Don't Forget Reality | |
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Pay Attention | |
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Nice People Don't Finish Last | |
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Relationships Are like Modern Art | |
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It's Not Easy, Even if It Looks It | |
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Most People Are Looking for Experienced Rookies | |
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It's for You-or It Isn't | |
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See the Horizon, Watch Your Step | |
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The Search for Perfection Is Endless | |
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Sources | |
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Acknowledgments | |