If You Had Controlling Parents How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World

Name: If You Had Controlling Parents How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World
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ISBN: 9780060929329

ISBN-10: 0060929324

ISBN-13: 9780060929329

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Authors: Dan Neuharth

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Do you sometimes feel as if you are living your life to please others? Do you give other people the benefit of the doubt but second-guess yourself? Do you struggle with perfectionism, anxiety, lack of confidence, emotional emptiness, or eating disorders? In your intimate relationships, have you found it difficult to get close without losing your sense of self? If so, you may be among the fifteen million adults in the United States who were raised with unhealthy parental control. In this groundbreaking bestseller by accomplished family therapist Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., you'll discover whether your parents controlled eating, appearance, speech, decisions, feelings, social life, and other…

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List price: $16.99
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 9/8/1999
Binding: Paperback
Pages: 272
Size: 5.31" wide x 8.00" long x 0.61" tall
Weight: 0.440
Language: English



Acknowledgments


To the Reader


Introduction: Did You Grow Up With Unhealthy Control?



Naming the Problem



Healthier Parenting Versus Controlling Parenting



Smothering Parenting: Life Under a Microscope



Depriving Parenting: Playing "Take Away"



Perfectionistic Parenting: A Place for Everything (and Everything Had Better Be in Place)



Cultlike Parenting: Obedience with a Missionary Zeal



Chaotic Parenting: Life in the Quicksand Lane



Using Parenting: "Me First" Child Raising



Abusing Parenting: "Do It or Else" Child Raising



Childlike Parenting: "Can't Do" Child Raising


Summary of the Eight Styles



Understanding the Problem



How Overcontrol Works



Putting It All Together: Meet Your Internalized Parents



The Adult-Life Legacies of Growing up Controlled



Letting Go of the Legacies: Giving up the Distortions of the Internalized Parents



Why Parents Overcontrol



Controllers' Fears



Solving the Problem



Emotionally Leaving Home



Separating from Unhealthy Family Ties



Bringing Balance to Your Relationship with Your Parents



How Can I Set Healthier Boundaries with My Parents?



Should I Confront My Parents?



Can I Forgive My Parents?



Can I Accept My Parents?



Should I Reduce or Break Contact with My Parents?



Family Quandaries



Redefining Your Life



Nine Powerful Paths for Growth and Healing



Making Meaning


The Book in a Nutshell


Works Cited