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| America's New "At-Risk" Child | |
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| The Paradox of Privilege | |
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| Why Kids Who Have So Much Can Feel Empty | |
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| Why We Can't Afford to Trivialize the Problems of Privileged Kids | |
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| The Not-So-Hidden Mental Health Epidemic Among Privileged Youth | |
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| The Magnitude of the Problem | |
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| Don't Kids "Grow Out Of" Adolescent Angst? | |
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| Don't Kids from Affluent Families Get All the Help They Need? | |
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| The Toxic Brew of Pressure and Isolation | |
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| Achievement Pressure | |
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| Isolation from Parents | |
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| Why Parents' Good Intentions Are Not Enough | |
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| Why Money Doesn't Buy Mental Health | |
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| Money Doesn't Make Us Happier | |
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| Allison: How Affluence Can Get in the Way of Emotional Development | |
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| Materialism: The Dark Side of Affluence | |
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| The False Promises of Materialism | |
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| Why "Retail Therapy" Is an Oxymoron | |
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| Materialism and Unhealthy Competition | |
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| Happiness Is an Inside Job | |
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| How the Culture of Affluence Works Against the Development of the Self | |
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| What Is a Healthy "Self"? | |
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| Kids With Healthy Selves Are Ready and Able to "Own" Their Lives | |
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| Kids With Healthy Selves Can Control Their Impulses: "I'm the Boss of Me" | |
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| Kids With Healthy Selves Can Be Generous and Loving | |
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| Kids With Healthy Selves Are Good Architects of Their Internal "Homes" | |
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| Tyler's Story: Whose Life Is It Anyway? | |
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| Knowing What Really Matters and What Doesn't | |
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| Different Ages, Different Parenting Strategies | |
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| The Magic Years-Ages 2 to 4 | |
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| Masters of the Universe-Ages 5 to 7 | |
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| How Am I Doing?-Ages 8 to 11 | |
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| What Happened to My Kid?-Ages 12 to 14 | |
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| Working on the "Real Me"-Ages 15 to 17 | |
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| Parenting for Autonomy | |
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| How We Connect Makes All the Difference | |
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| Know Your Parenting Style | |
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| Do As You're Told: The Authoritarian Parent | |
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| Do Your Own Thing: The Permissive Parent | |
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| We Can Work It Out: The Authoritative Parent | |
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| Cultivate Warmth to Protect Emotional Development | |
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| Good Warmth: Acceptance, Understanding, and Investment | |
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| Bad Warmth: Overinvolvement, Intrusion, and Parental Neediness | |
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| Understanding Why Praise Is Often "Bad" Warmth | |
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| Avoid the Damage Inflicted by Criticism and Rejection | |
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| Discipline and Control: The Tough Job of Being the "Bad Cop" | |
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| Firmness: Being Clear About Your Authority | |
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| Monitoring: "Do You Know Where Your Children Are?" | |
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| Containment: Letting Your Kids Know When You Mean Business | |
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| Flexibility: Knowing When to Skip the Showdown | |
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| It's Easier When We Start Early (But It's Never Too Late!) | |
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| The Difference Between Being "In Control" and Being "Controlling" | |
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| Why You Have to Stand on Your Own Two Feet Before Your Children Can Stand on Theirs | |
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| Challenges to Effective Parenting in the Culture of Affluence | |
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| Bucking the Tide: If Everyone Is Doing It, That Doesn't Make It Right | |
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| Holding Ourselves Accountable | |
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| The Poison of Perfectionism | |
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| Overcoming Myopia About the "Good Life" | |
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| Handling the Isolation That Makes Us Vulnerable to Being Bullied | |
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| The Threat of Divorce and the Potential Loss of "Wifestyle" | |
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| Samantha's Story: Dancing in the Dark | |
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| Having Everything Except What We Need Most: The Isolation of Affluent Moms | |
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| Acknowledging How Very Hard Our Job Is | |
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| Taking Our Problems Seriously | |
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| The Fear of Vulnerability | |
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| The Risks of Staying Unhappy | |
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| Tend and Befriend: The Critical Importance of Friendships | |
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| The Distraction of the Work Debate | |
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| Choosing What We Can Live With | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Notes | |
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| Index | |