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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Important Message to Parents, Friends, and Extended Family | |
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| Prologue: Our Story | |
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| How to Use Becky and the Worry Cup | |
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| Meeting Your Children's Fundamental Needs | |
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| Turning Problems into Strengths | |
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| Establishing Open Communication | |
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| Understanding Children's Fundamental Needs | |
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| Telling the Truth | |
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| When Advice from Others Seems Intrusive or Annoying | |
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| Perfect Parenting Is an Illusion | |
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| Caring for Your Children Through the Crisis of a New Diagnosis | |
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| Breaking the News | |
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| Teaching Children That Cancer Is Not Contagious | |
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| Preparing Children for Changes in a Life-Enhancing Way | |
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| Empowering Children | |
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| Caring for Your Children Beyond the First Few Weeks | |
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| Learning to Recognize Choices That Are "None of the Above" | |
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| Helping Children Through Unpleasant Changes | |
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| Sorting Out Priorities | |
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| Creating an "Energy Bank Account" | |
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| When Children's Needs Are Not Met | |
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| Knowing How Much Detail to Tell Children | |
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| Providing a Framework for Dealing with the Changes | |
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| Children Experience Stress Differently Than Adults | |
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| Understanding Children's Questions | |
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| Protecting Children's Need for Normalcy | |
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| When Cancer Seems to Be the Only Focus of Attention | |
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| Handling the Crises | |
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| Family Meetings | |
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| Doing What Feels Right for Your Family | |
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| Grief, Fear, and Children's Other Emotions | |
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| Dealing with Loss and Grief | |
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| Dealing with Fear | |
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| Helping Children Work through Negative Emotions | |
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| After a Bad Day | |
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| Using Play as a Therapeutic Tool | |
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| When Laughter Can Be Healing Medicine | |
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| Dealing with Regression and Failure | |
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| Knowing Whether Children Are Doing OK | |
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| Helping Your Children Live with Uncertainty and Tame Their Fear of Death | |
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| Dealing with Uncertainty and Faith | |
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| Dealing with the Possibility of Recurrent Cancer | |
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| Helping Children Face Their Fear of Death | |
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| Knowing If You Are Dying Now | |
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| Understanding Children's Conception of Death | |
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| Breaking the News of a Poor Prognosis | |
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| Matching Your Degree of Optimism with the Facts | |
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| Preparing Children for Your Death | |
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| Family Members with Special Needs: Teenagers, Single Parents, the Well Spouse | |
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| Caring for Teenagers | |
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| Understanding Issues Common to Teens and Youngsters | |
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| Understanding Issues Common to Teens and Adults | |
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| Helping Teens Stay Connected to Their Friends | |
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| Understanding Issues Unique to Teens: Drugs, Alcohol, Sexuality, and Dangerous Behaviors | |
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| Helping Teens Sort Out Conflicting Loyalties | |
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| Teens and Finances | |
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| Caring for Children in a Single-Parent Home or When the Parents' Marriage Is Unstable | |
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| Unstable Marriages | |
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| Special Issues of Single-Parent Homes | |
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| Caring for the Well Spouse | |
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| Taking Care of You | |
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| Caring for the Children When Cancer Recurs or Becomes a Chronic Disease | |
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| Facing Recurrence-the Patient | |
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| Facing Recurrence-the Well Spouse | |
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| Facing Recurrence-the Children | |
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| The Truth Pact | |
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| Your Children's Needs This Time Around | |
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| Living with Chronic Cancer | |
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| Creating a "New Normal" | |
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| Problems: Cancer-Related or Other-Related? | |
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| Choosing Your Battles | |
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| Avoiding Pity | |
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| Expecting vs. Hoping | |
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| Rituals and Routines | |
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| Finding Joy | |
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| Preventing Burnout | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Major Stages of Growth and Development | |
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| Glossary for Kids | |
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| Resources for Parents and Children | |
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| Annotated Bibliography | |